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#1 of 12 Old 11-22-2001, 06:17 PM - Thread Starter
 
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wow, my dd is getting fustrating. I read the post about not listening and I just kept thinking about my dd. She does not believe me when I tell her things about the world. Acutally, I shouldn't be so general, she will sometimes. But more often she says "no" when I tell her a fact. I try to just laugh and say "you don't have to believe me, but it's true" and then just move on, but sometimes I get mad. I've lived a whole lot longer than her and I've picked up a few things about the world in that time. (I say that here because I don't want to say that to my daughter and make her feel bad).

I also wonder why she bothers asking me questions when she just contradicts whatever I say....errrr.
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Boy, do I know what you mean. My 4 year old ds is why-ing me to death. Some of those questions I answer but I've started to ask 'what do you think?' or 'what do you think the answer is?' At least this way I can agree or tell him he's right or if his answer is really outrageous I can say 'if that's what you think!'

Sometimes, I 'm sure he's just pushing my buttons just to make me crazy. He is also doing that not listening thing and that makes me crazy too! I surely hope it's just another frustrating phase.
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#3 of 12 Old 11-23-2001, 03:43 PM
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A friend, who is also an ND, once told me this little bit of wisdom:


children use their parents as a sounding board for their ideas and values - they test and test to see where they fit. Doing so they learn who they are and what they believe to be truth - be happy with your argumentative child - they will be able to better stand up against the world.

hope this helps you to answer all those why's
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My son does that too. I always respond by sayinng Mommy never lies to you. But He'll insist I'm wrong. It's could to hear other kids are doing it to. So I know it's normal, and I haven't created some king of monster. (And we don't want him to blindly follow authoriy when he's grown, so I guess we can't expect it know -- even if it would make life easier)
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One of my son's friends who is 4 yrs. old, argues with me about the most interesting things. Whether the sky is blue, whether trucks can fly, etc. It can drive me crazy, but I just try to take a deep breath and let it go.

Lisa, Todd, Dane and Amber: & :::
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My dd and I will be playing- she'll ask which tea cup I want.
Me "The green one"
DD "NO, that's not for you this one is."
Me "If you're not actually going to give me a choice, why don' t you just give me one?"

Later:
DD"Tell me a story about a horse"
Me "Once upon a time.....(then whatever comes to mind)"
DD "NO!!! NOT THAT ONE!!!"
Me "How about you tell me a story?"
DD"NO, you tell me, you know the one I want" (And I definetly do not know!!)

I think it is just one of their ways of finding out who they are, and how much authority they have. But it is frustrating. Oh- the latest is
DD"I"M THE LEADER!!!!" To which I just can't help but laugh and shake my head- inside.
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I have what sounds like the opposite problem but it's really sort of the same. My daughter thinks I know EVERYTHING, which believe me, is not as good as it sounds. Typical conversation:

Me: What songs did you sing at school today?

DD: The turkey song. Mommy, can you sing it?

Me: I don't know that song. Why don't you sing it for me?

DD: Mommy, you DO know it. Sing it, Mommy! Sing the turkey song!

Me: Sweetie, I wasn't IN school with you, so I NEVER heard the song. If you sing it first, then I can learn it from you.

DD: NO, MOMMY, you DO know it. MOM-EEEEE, SING IT!!!!! SING THE TURRRR-KEEEYYY SOOONNNGGG!!!

You get the idea. Sometimes it's frustrating, other times it's kind of funny, but it all depends on my mood!
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What drives me crazy is:

Me: It's time for supper
Nickwhining) But I want something else!

(He doesn't knwo what we're having) and if you ask him what he does want he doesn't know!!
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Some of your stories are hilarious!

Perhaps, if you have more like that you could post on the "talk amoung ourselves" Funny things kids say / do. Share

thanks

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but is there any reason such posts do not belong here? Perhaps if you think they belong elsewhere you could notify the moderator Missgrl?
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but is there any reason such posts do not belong here?
Er ??? No. ???

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Perhaps if you think they belong elsewhere you could notify the moderator Missgrl?
(giggle) I don't think they "belong" anywhere in particular .

But there is at hread that we can also
post into, and since this lot have started shering funny stories, I just thought I would indicate another location where we can share.

Hmm, e-mail tone is hard to interpret. For the most part, the boards here are pretty non-confrontational. More kind of "here's the info" or "What do you think / do"

Just pretty straight stuff you know!

hope this helps.

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#12 of 12 Old 12-06-2001, 12:23 PM
 
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yes, it is often very difficult to interpret tone. Thanks for clarifying.
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