DS and a neighbor girl had a situation this afternoon - there was an argument over a stick (I know
) and DS ended up having a huge out of control tantrum. DH had to carry him home. In DS's mind, the whole thing was horribly unfair and NG got to take *his* stick home. (Long story short.)
When DS calmed down enough to be able to talk, he said he was going to kill NG. He said he was going to get a gun and kill her dead. I was pretty taken aback, because we are not big on guns around here. No toy guns, no real guns, no pictures of guns
you get the idea. Maybe he picked it up from his hoodlum friends, ha ha. Anyway, I said "You're really angry at NG," and he said emphatically that he was indeed angry at her and was going to kill her.
Leter that night, I asked him if he wanted to go down the street and talk to NG about what happened. He said no. I asked him what he was going to do the next time he saw her, and he said he was going to run into a closet, then run into another closet, and grab a gun, and kill her. I have no idea where he got that about the closets. So I said, "You are so angry at her, you wish you could kill her" and he said, "I *am* going to kill her."
Me: What do you think would happen to NG after you kill her?
DS: She would turn into bones.
Me: Yes. Do you think her Mommy and Daddy would miss her?
DS: Yes.
Me: And NG's big sister? She'd miss her too.
DS: Yeah.
Me: So that doesn't seem fair to them. (
s I know this is a crazy conversation.)
DS: Well, she's mean and I am going to get a gun and I'm going to kill her.
I tried to talk to him about some of the fun times he and NG have had together, etc. I tried to tell him that it's OK to be angry and rant and stuff but it's never OK to actually hurt someone but I don't know how much of that he got. He never agreed with me about it. I don't think he would actually hurt her but the way he kept insisting he was going to kill her kind of unnerved me a little. He was so specific and adamant about it.
What do you all think about this?
When DS calmed down enough to be able to talk, he said he was going to kill NG. He said he was going to get a gun and kill her dead. I was pretty taken aback, because we are not big on guns around here. No toy guns, no real guns, no pictures of guns
Leter that night, I asked him if he wanted to go down the street and talk to NG about what happened. He said no. I asked him what he was going to do the next time he saw her, and he said he was going to run into a closet, then run into another closet, and grab a gun, and kill her. I have no idea where he got that about the closets. So I said, "You are so angry at her, you wish you could kill her" and he said, "I *am* going to kill her."
Me: What do you think would happen to NG after you kill her?
DS: She would turn into bones.
Me: Yes. Do you think her Mommy and Daddy would miss her?
DS: Yes.
Me: And NG's big sister? She'd miss her too.
DS: Yeah.
Me: So that doesn't seem fair to them. (
DS: Well, she's mean and I am going to get a gun and I'm going to kill her.
I tried to talk to him about some of the fun times he and NG have had together, etc. I tried to tell him that it's OK to be angry and rant and stuff but it's never OK to actually hurt someone but I don't know how much of that he got. He never agreed with me about it. I don't think he would actually hurt her but the way he kept insisting he was going to kill her kind of unnerved me a little. He was so specific and adamant about it.
What do you all think about this?