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I don't have much to offer but wanted to say that I totally commiserate with you! I am pretty open about sex and affection, but even still, its hard to believe that its something I will have to deal with my DD sooner then later.
It amazes me that they even pick up on playing boyfriend/girlfriend, but I know from my own personal experience as a child, that such relationships start early.
Maybe the newness will wear off and she will move onto playing something else......but you can't count on that.
I would just really stress that certain areas are private and that you don't have to kiss someone...you can always say no.
Giving her the tools to deal with situations is really the only option that I see. And, not to worry you, but intimate contact can happen between 2 girls as well as it can with a boy and a girl, so limiting contact with boys wouldn't really be an answer.
My son has had a "girlfriend" since he was about 14 months old, and they are almost four now (he is a day older than her : it's so cute!) I don't know if they kiss or anything -- they see each other every day in what used to be daycare, and now is their preschool/pre-k program.
Kissing like boyfriend/girlfriends do could simply be a kiss on the lips as opposed to a cheek. Kids describe things differently than we would sometimes. A friend of mine's 6 year old (who is now about 14) told my ex husband and I she'd leave us alone if we wanted to have sex... which raised our eyebrows a bit but it turns out that when her parents queried her about sex, she thought "having sex" was kissing
I wouldn't worry too much One breath at a time...
So I can totally relate to you freaking out..
Son is in kindergarten - came home the other day to tell me he had a girlfriend he kisses on the bus and that she thinks he's handsome even though he has pimples...
I am trying to look at this situation in the positive... it really stretches me to have a great conversation with ds about the whole kissing /boyfriend/girlfriend thing in a really positive way.
For me - I wanted to come out of the conversation
A) understanding that he shouldn't be kissing a girlfriend at age 5
B) Reinforce privacy
C) Feel good about telling me he had a girlfriend
D) Not feel bad about kissing
I didn't just try to sit down and have the conversation.. it spanned like 5 days of banter back and forth with a conversation with his "girlfriends" mom who could do the same thing with Hailey.
Hang in there... it's so normal.. tons of parents are going through the same thing right now!!!!!
I love this thread. So cute to hear all these stories of baby-boyfriends and baby-girlfriends. My dd2 (age 4) recently told me she is "in love" with a little boy (age 5) who is in the same pre-K. I do not think it is a whole lot different than if she had become close friends with another little girl. In fact, I am very glad she has found a good friend that she enjoys playing with, I am always afraid that she may feel lonely in the pre-K. I think it is totally OK if they kiss, even if "not quite on the cheek"... but yeah, I understand the OP it is a bit (just a bit) weird!!!