Help. I really need to transition my 3 1/2 YO's bedtime routine from being completely mommy-centered to accepting either mommy or daddy. UP till now we've always honored her insistance that only mommy can do bedtime (reading, cuddling to sleep). Up until about 6 months ago she also nursed, so it HAD to be me. But now my son is getting increasingly frustrated with the fact that he gets few "mommy nights" because DD gets me first. And he's right, its really not fair to him anymore. He's been really good about accepting her need of me up until now, but he's asking more and more why he has to take second place.
So, now what do I do? Tonight is the second time we've insisted that it be a "daddy night" with DD. She is sobbing in her bed and DH is practically holding her down to keep her from running to me screaming. There has got to be a gentler way, for everyone. But left to her own devices she will never pick him over me. And I can't leave for the evening or DS won't get to sleep on time (and that's important for school). How do I balance all of this? And what do I do to make it work.