Join Date: Apr 2003
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I had the same problem last summer with dd who was 3 and a half at that time. I explained over and over to her that I would never accept such a behavior, but it didn't work too well.
I ended up just leaving the park, playground, pool,... whenever she would do that, after apologyzing to the kid (even if really young) and the parent, and told her that was going to happen every time she would hurt someone. That did the trick! I also tried not to give her lots of attention when it happened: attention goes to the hurt kid. Tell him once why you are leaving, then do not talk about it anymore. (but do try to teach him, when calm, other ways to show his anger)
The hard thing is to leave every time it happens, even if you had great plans for that day, even if it bothers you as much as it bothers your son.
Also, even if he says he's sorry (wich my daughter had to say), leave anyway. At the beginning, she would scream, cry, fight, almost vomit, not to leave, but when she saw that wouldn't make me change my mind, she stopped (after 2 or 3 times).
Hope this helps.
Stay confident, it will pass if you are determined not to let it continue. If it does however continue for longer than what you can take it, don't be affraid to look for help. I had the chance of having my sister, who's a ped. and who gave me some advices she had collecter from other parents, peds, and books.