Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Putting boobs in babies' mouths!
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I wonder if maybe you are worrying too much about applying pressure. Think of it as encouragement. It's not like you are shaming, embarrassing or punishing him. You can remark on how exciting it is to be aware he needs to go and then have time to make it to the potty. It takes less time, so he has more time to play. It costs less, so maybe you will have a little extra money to buy treats. Obviously this last one has to be done with a certain amount of finesse, something like "Wow, we are not needing to buy so many diapers, because you are doing such a great job using the potty, we have extra to buy a treat today!"
My older dd responded well to The Potty Book (I think that was what it was called, I forget!). It is red and comes in a girl version and a boy version. There is also a video. I think the author's name was Alona Frankel. I hope I'm remembering right! She also responded well to picking out underwear.
One thing you might want to avoid is encouraging him to be a big boy or pointing out how using the potty is for big boys. My dd referred to herself as "baby big girl" at this age, so I think she was having a lot of mixed feelings about not being a baby anymore. I would think linking potty learning to being "big" might discourage a little person who was not so sure he/she wants to be "big."
What you said about him acting sly raises a red flag. I'm wondering if he is putting on a show for you. Maybe you should insist on being in there with him.
Single mom by choice to Sophia, age 18, and Eleanor, age 12, and mother hen to too many nursing students to count!