i am having hard time at events when other kids are there as she eats what they eat too. when they are given meat she copies them and grab the meat too. I can con trol more when the kids sit with adults but harder when she is with the kids. I explained to her we dont eat meat and give her the cucumber and cheese and bread that were offered on the table. she was so sad and kept looking at the meat slices and I could tell she wanted it. i explained that mommy and daddy dont eat meat. i dont even know if she knows that word and was not sure if she understood it as it was a new word for her.
other day we had a big event and she went to her friend seat and started to nibble off her friends plate (after having eaten her vegetarian dinner). My friend told me from other side of table that my dd was eating meat and asked me if my dd was vegetarian. I mentioned that she was and to please try to distract her from eating the meat. but it was to no avail.
not sure how to explain to her and dont want to put others in awkward position at events etc and so forth.
You might want to cross post on the Good Eating board; there are a lot of vegetarians and vegans who might have some other suggestions.
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My son is 20mths and we talk to him about it but I'm not sure how much he picks up, he isn't as verbal at this age as my daughter was. For now they don't have the option to eat meat and so far everyone in our life has been respectful of that.
I have always been really honest that meat comes from killing animals, and that if she wants to eat meat, that would mean more animals would die. My daughter has never ever asked to eat meat understanding this. The big problem I run into is that it really distresses her when we go places, and she sees her family and friends eating meat. She has tried many times to question them about their choices, which makes many people very uncomfortable. I am trying to handle it as another aspect of diversity, "everybody gets to decide for themselves what they eat"
Maybe preparing your daughter before you go places would be helpful to? I always tell dd that there might be foods that she cannot eat, but we will find her yummy foods that she likes to eat instead. And I try to bring along foods that I know she likes whenever we are going to family or friend's houses so that I know there will be choices that she loves.
And constantly use these experiences to teach her. She might not be interested in lunchmeat if she knew that it was made out of pigs, you know? My daughter also loves to roleplay that she is animals locked in cages (she came up with this game herself!!), and I have to free her. But I use the game to ask her how she felt when she was in the cage, and how she felt when she was free.
other day my sis had some pork in her soup and dd loves soup so she helped herself to my sis bowl (we were at restaurant) and she had this trail of pork on her fork. My sis explained to her that she doesnt eat meat, that mama and papa dont eat meat too. Then dd said to her... 'I eat meat!'. My sis put it on the side of her plate and offered her another veggy from her bowl of soup, but my dd picked up the meat and proudly ate it.
oh dear... not going to be an easy one to work around. My dd loves all food and eats her salads and anything we put in front of her, unlike our vegetarian neighbors where the kids are so picky and parents have to make only 'starchy' food for their kids.
I am going to check out those books you mentioned.
MY dd also killed some ants and bugs while following them around the yard and my parents and my friend laugh and tell me 'that is your vegetarian daughter??'. I was surprised too since we love to admire the little creatures especially slugs after a good rainfall.
thanks again for your tips. its all new to me and I guess was easier to control the first few years but harder now. Always a learning experience everyday.