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#1 of 102 Old 12-21-2006, 01:12 AM - Thread Starter
 
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: My child is going to starve tonight, and I do not care right now.

The only things this kid will eat are chicken strips/nuggets, pizza, and occasionally cheeseburgers. I am sick of making him different things than my hubby and I are eating.

We're in the middle of a huge blizzard at the moment, and can't order pizza or get chicken nuggets or hamburgers from anywhere. I made chicken for dinner. Just plain chicken breast with some seasonings (nothing major, a little garlic, a little black pepper), and rice, which he used to love, but hates now.

He won't eat it. Even if I cut the breast like "strips". I told him he will have to remain hungry then. He won't even eat ONE BITE.

I MUST break him of this. I know that is a terrible thing to say, but pizza, chicken nuggets, and cheeseburgers ARE NOT HEALTHY and they are EXPENSIVE.

Ideas? Is it ok that he doesn't eat tonight at all? I am very frustrated.
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Well, he won't starve. He may get hungry, but if he's normally a basically healthy child, missing a meal won't do more than help him have a stronger appetite at the next one. The only problem you may see is as his stomach gets very empty, he may feel nauseous. I don't envy you this battle. One of the reasons that 'junk' food gets such a hold on us is because of the extra flavor enhancers that are in them.
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Been there and still doing that battle. I refuse to fix something different, but hubby will do it everytime. Oh, and mine is 12 yrs old! He is beyond picky, and has actually gone long periods of time w/out eating when I was trying to get him to eat what was on the table. I gave up on the fight, but will not fix him something special either.
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Personally I would try to not feel badly about it.

It's not like you are keeping food from him. This is the food that is available, due to no fault of your own. That's life, dude.

Fair enough for him to choose not to eat. But if he is not concerned, why should you be?
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I'm going through the same thing with my 5 year old. He used to love to eat fruits and veggies, etc. but now all he wants his junk. Last night I made pork chops with brown rice, cinnamon apples, and broccoli & cheese. He said it was "gross" and refused to eat any of it. He went to bed without dinner because I refuse to cater to him.
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I agree with the other posters. If he is hungry he will eat something. He wont starve to death. We dont even let junk into the house anymore because we have major issues with my 2 1/2 year old. Totally missing the junk.:

BTW - hope the weather lightens up soon for you. Blizzards are crappy.
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You go girl! Short Order Cook shouldn't be in your job description. The rule in my family is that if you don't like what I make, then you can have something that doesn't require ME to do anything. This is crackers and fruit pretty much. There should be no other dishes to wash (so no endless cereal eating).

I don't like to make food an issue, but your needs as a member of the household aren't being met (you're working too hard on fixing a meal). I have a nephew who does the same, and when he came to visit, at first his mom asked for separate food, but then I was like, look, we have two choices for dinner, "take it - or - leave it." (can't remember where I heard this but I love it) As a compromise to your son, you may try offering "dipping sauce" which could be anything he likes, ketchup, ranch dressing (this can be made with yoghurt!), honey mustard, 1000 Island. But that's as far as I would go.

Had to edit to say, wish I lived closer to you other posters, your dinners sound yummy!

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ds1 has gone to bed hungry b/c he didnt like what we were having. i barely have time to cook one real meal a day so if he says he doesnt like it, i cant help him. if its something really weird or spicy, we have something we know he likes ready.

unless dinner is still hot on his plate i let him go get something he can get himself like yogurt, crackers, carrot sticks. we dont have structured meal times except for dinner so he is free to eat whatever we have here all day w/ in reason.

one thing that helped is i took him to the health food store and encouraged him to pick out some new foods to try. he had a little shopping spree.

he has never woke up in the middle of the hungry and i know he would tell me b/c a couple of times he said he was hungry at bedtime and i let him get back up and eat his dinner. if it interfered w/ sleeping, i would probably give him an easy snack before bed.
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If you have presented a variety of healthful choices (i.e. a regular meal), and he still eats little or nothing, then no big deal - he eats what he eats and discussion closed.

If you want to offer a quick and easy (and healthy) snack, fine. And if he goes to bed without a meal, fine, it's not going to harm him.

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I agree with you. He has to let go of this habit of only eating junk. He won't starve after one night.

I'm currently breaking my son of his habit of eating so many sugary products. My strategy is to only have healthy foods in the house, and then let my son choose from those foods. If he doesnt want what I made for dinner, but will eat a healthy alternative from the fridge, than that's fine with me.

Anyway, good luck!

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he has never woke up in the middle of the hungry and i know he would tell me b/c a couple of times he said he was hungry at bedtime and i let him get back up and eat his dinner. if it interfered w/ sleeping, i would probably give him an easy snack before bed.
this is exactly what we've done. if dd1 won't eat her dinner we tell her we'll save it for her. we put the plate in the fridge & if she says she's hungry later on, this is what she gets! she's usually not too happy about it but it works after a short while. we'll also give an apple snack or something similar before bed to alleviate that hungry feeling....but nothing major & nothing junky.

do you ever have your little guy help you make dinner? if i give my girls a choice of healthy menus & let them help me get it ready, they're usually more into eating it than if i throw something unknown in front of them.

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Guess what DS had for dinner last night? Yep, you guessed it Chicken Nuggets

I have to keep 2 boxes on hand in the freezer.

Monday night dinner was: Salisbury Steak smothered in Gravy, Green Beans with Potoes, Macaroni and Cheese and Garlic Flavored Pillsbury Croissants.

I work full time out of the home and don't get home until 6:30pm and I was danged proud of myself for getting a hot meal on the table for DS!

Fixed his plate----Wouldn't touch it! "Mommy, I want Chicken Nuggets" he said

"DS no, I did not cook Chicken Nuggets" pause "I want Chicken Nuggeeeettttsssss!" he screamed.

Quietly, without saying a word, I removed his plate, wrapped it up and proceeded to put it up in the microwave, he had this look of utter disbelief on his face because I wasn't getting out the pan that I use to bake his chicken nuggets in. He said "Mommy, I want cooking" so I said "DS, I am not cooking chicken nuggets but you can have what I did cook for dinner"

He said "Uh huh, yeah, I want cooking" So I put his dinner back on his table and he smelled it first, then he tentatively took a bite and ate a bit here and there.

He didn't touch the green beans (which he used to love), he ate all of his Salisbury Steak and asked for seconds, I put lots of Gravy on it...he loves Gravy and he ate the Croissant.

Last night, I didn't cook a fancy dinner but Chicken Nuggets was the first thing he called out for...and I caved. So, I served it with a side of Fresh Fruit.

My point is, I felt a small piece of victory when I refused to cook him more dinner... and I saw that he ate it. It gave me the confidence to put my foot down more often with him.
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Sorry you are going through this. Some shreds of wisdom from someone whose daughter also has a rather narrow range of foods that she is willing to eat:

- Never bring home from the grocery store pizza, chicken nuggets, kraft dinner or anything else in a package. Ever. Don't even go to that section of the store. Don't buy anything that comes in a box or package. These items are processed and therefore by definition unhealthy (if you make pizza from scratch at home, this is okay but I am assuming that you were not referring to homemade pizza). Your son's range of tastes will only get narrower and his diet worse by having these things in the house.

- The chicken that you prepared sounded great. If he does not want to eat it, too bad.

- Worse comes to worse, give your son boiled, pureed or baked potatoes, with salt or butter (no sour cream, as this blocks the absorption of iron). You can LIVE on potatoes.

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There are times my kids have missed a meal because they won't eat. It hasn't harmed them at all. It happened more with the oldest, I think the younger 2 picked up what happens if they refuse or tend to go along with what the oldest will eat. My oldest is 8 and now will at least try something. She doesn't have to like it, but she has to try it. I try to make sure there is at least 1 thing they will eat.

If in the past you have been ordering what he wants just so he'll eat something that is definitly part of the problem. I would stop that immediatly, tell them they're closed or something like that so you can't order something.
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My ds is like this too. He has missed dinner plenty of times and has been fine.
I don't cater to him anymore. I make sure there is something on the table that he likes, even if it's bread and butter and raw red peppers and carrots.
And that's all.
Don't worry about it, I think it's good for them to learn that you are not a short order cook!

I have to admit, I buy frozen chicken nuggetsand hot dogs, and that's my fall back plan if it's close to dinner and ds is hungry and cranky. But he doesn't get them evey night! Luckily he likes baked chicken and pork (as long as it's plain), that makes my life easier.
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I think that was good advice about not having things in the house you don't want him to eat. I've got 4 kids, so I'm guaranteed that at least one of them won't like what we're having for dinner. My policy is not to fix something special for that kid, but to let him fix himself a sandwich, or get a yogurt and a piece of fruit, and sit at the table with us. Lots of times a sandwich sounds so dull, they end up eating what we're eating anyway.
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My kids usually eat what we eat. If they absolutely won't eat anything on our plates then they are allowed to get natural peanut butter on whole wheat bread and an apple. They are SO sick of pb sandwiches that they will usually eat dinner.

I never NEVER buy crap from the freezer section so that is not an option.
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These things rarely make it into my house.

I did what you are doing after they started to realize that other kids do get these things. Or they decide that they don't want dinner, but expect me to promptly get up and fetch them some yogurt and apple juice. No Way!

This is a current theme with my 2.5 year old. I simply expect that everyone sits at the table for 15 minutes. Eating or no eating.

I did this because they started to do the "I'm Done" after EVERY bite. Starting with the first one. Even if they were hungry. Because they have other things to do and thought they could make it up by immediately (and I do mean immediately) starting "snacking" out of the fridge.

If no dinner gets eaten, it gets left at the table and when I get told "I'm hungry!" they get redirected to the plate at their spot at the dinner table.

The 5 year old figured it out right quick, and she's not easily swayed. The 2.5 year old is starting to get it that I really really mean it. Yesterday she walked up to me three times, started to say, "I'm hu-" and then looking at her plate and harumphing.
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I'm dealing with this now too-with my 3 yo.
I don't know how she sustains herself.
I really think she is on a different time schedule than DH and I.
EVERY night for the past 2-3 months, she will say she is not hungry, then run and stand in front of the fridge and say Ladies and Gentlemen! Then sing Barney songs (using the wrong words) and any other song she can think of, until we are done dinner.
When we leave the table, she'll go off to play. Then say about an hour later that she's hungry. Problem is, I can't feed us all later b/c DH comes home starving.
But I's like to make ONE dinner.
Eat mine while it's hot
and have the entire family together at the table.
No tantrums.
Too much to ask??
She will eat fruit, but no veg. Chicken-a few bites only if I force her. But carbs?? BRING THEM ON!!!
And this picky nonsence has been going on since she was 14 months.
DH was and still is a very picky eater. He won't even LOOK at leftovers! And I SURE as heck won't pull a MIL stunt of making a seperate meal for every family member.
GRRRRR
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DD has yet to go through a phase of disliking the food I cook, but she is great at taking two bites and being "full" (meaning she wants to have something else). When this happens, we tell her we'll save her plate for when she gets hungry again. Usually, she decides to eat right then so that she can have a regular bedtime snack (yogurt, fruit, sometimes popcorn or italian ice) in a couple hours.

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this is exactly what we've done. if dd1 won't eat her dinner we tell her we'll save it for her. we put the plate in the fridge & if she says she's hungry later on, this is what she gets! she's usually not too happy about it but it works after a short while. we'll also give an apple snack or something similar before bed to alleviate that hungry feeling....but nothing major & nothing junky.

do you ever have your little guy help you make dinner? if i give my girls a choice of healthy menus & let them help me get it ready, they're usually more into eating it than if i throw something unknown in front of them.
well i just started letting him help. not sure why i didnt before? i think it helps him get excited about dinner, but doesnt guarantee he will eat much. he is in this phase independence phase...protesting dinner and naps. but wants me to dress him. humph!

i am surprised we havent heard any comments from the peanut gallery for having rules about food.
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my DD (3.5) always pulls the eating three bites and saying she's full routine. i tell there's nothing more to eat besides her dinner until breakfast the next morning.

she didn't believe me at first, but after only being allowed to have a glass of milk (she was still shunning dinner) before bed and waking up incredibly hungry a couple of times, she doesn't do it anymore.

rules don't work for everything, but when it comes to eating healthy, if they don't get in the habit now, they'll have no end of troubles later. so to me, it's one of the few things that's really worth putting my foot down about and being hard-core about "the rules."
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so - did he eat anything?
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I have two picky eaters in my house. I make one dinner and the kids can, like a previous poster mentioned, take it or leave it. I make only three concessions: Ramona does not like shiro (an Ethiopian dish) because it is made from tomatoes and she has disliked tomatoes since the womb days so she gets corned on her injera; Desta does not like alfredo sauce so she can substitute pasta sauce; Efram does not like sauteed squash (this is seriously the ONLY THING he does not like) so he can substitute carrot sticks. Other than that, I made it, you eat it.

It has taken longer than I expected for the kids to understand that we really mean this, but they seem to be getting it these days. Desta skipped a few meals and tried to punish me with the silent treatment but I blithely ignored her and ate my meal with gusto (she was required to be at the table anyway) and she seems to have worked through it. Ramona is extremely persistent and still tries to get around it but we don't let her.

The kids have access to lots of healthy foods during the day. If they don't eat dinner, they won't starve. And my words to live by are, if I don't want them eating it, I don't buy it. Occasionally I buy something processed, like pierogies. I buy enough for one meal. When it's gone, it's gone. I don't keep any in reserve.

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Ds #2 was a great eater as a baby-as he got older and I let him have junk food during a period of time when I was working it all went downhill. He now hates real food. We have been working on this for some time now and have made progress. I fix dinner and he can pick one thing to NOT eat. He has to eat the rest of what is on his plate. I give him small portions so I am not forcing him to overeat. He is almost 7! I have waited way long to get tough about this-especially since it is his health at stake. He has strted trying things though and finding that it ain't so bad
he even told me dinner was really great the other night--pork chops,corn, and bread. I have found that substituting evil hated things with sliced fruit like apples w/ peanut butter or strawberries is now acceptable and isn't really like cooking a whole separate meal at all. Good luck!!

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This website is great for finding healthy recipes that are disguised as "fun" food. Maybe these recipes could be a good "transition" from nuggets to real food...

Click on the link on the left called "Fast" Food. It has good recipes.
http://www.wholesometoddlerfood.com/pickyeater.htm
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My 3-1/2 year old is picky and often doesn't want the food the rest of the family is eating for dinner. I keep whole grain bread and natural peanut butter on hand all the time, and plenty of yogurt and fresh fruit. That is pretty much what she lives on. I know from experience (I have an 11 year old too) that eventually she'll get bored with this limited option and will start to eat what we eat. Food struggles just aren't worth it to me.

(I should mention that she ALSO won't eat cheeseburgers or anything but very plain, cheese only pizza. She does like chicken nuggets but the only place they ever come from is Chick Fil A and that's kind of expensive so it's not more than 1x a week or so.)
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In most situations I don't employ a "you eat what I make" philosophy. I think this situation in this thread is different because options are simply not available. I figure if I want something to eat, I get it out of the fridge, I choose what I eat. Why shouldn't my daughter? Within reason. Most of the foods I feed her are fairly easy to make, so if she doesn't like what I make myself for supper I am happy to make her something else.

I would have to amend this with several kiddos, but I don't see why you can't allow them to choose yogourt, grapes, avocado, cheese, leftovers, etc. I mean, I wouldn't make a stirfry for one kid, and pasta with veggies for another. But I would make a main meal, and snacks and easy options are always available.
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Normally I just make whatever they want. It doesn't bother me to do so - but in this situation, seeing as you have limited options I agree with the advice here:

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Personally I would try to not feel badly about it.

It's not like you are keeping food from him. This is the food that is available, due to no fault of your own. That's life, dude.

Fair enough for him to choose not to eat. But if he is not concerned, why should you be?

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I'm dealing with this now too-with my 3 yo.
I don't know how she sustains herself.
I really think she is on a different time schedule than DH and I.
EVERY night for the past 2-3 months, she will say she is not hungry, then run and stand in front of the fridge and say Ladies and Gentlemen! Then sing Barney songs (using the wrong words) and any other song she can think of, until we are done dinner.
When we leave the table, she'll go off to play. Then say about an hour later that she's hungry. Problem is, I can't feed us all later b/c DH comes home starving.
Ha ha! I love the part about singing songs in front of the fridge.

My son is also on a different schedule. I can't wait until my husband comes home to feed him, because when he's really hungry he gets very cranky, and my husband is often late. So I offer a healthy snack, something I would want him to eat anyway.

Then I also offer him dinner, what we're eating when we eat it. If he's hungry, he eats. For a long time I did the short-order thing, but lately it hasn't been necessary. If he doesn't want to eat, I don't make him. Generally he likes the same things we do, only plain and not mixed together. Look, he's three, that's pretty normal!

Then before bed, he can have a snack if he wants.

He almost always makes healthful choices. He always wants fruit and cheese, but he's also into some vegetables if I offer them. So I do.

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