> My 4 yo dd does this in spurts.
My dd did this too, for at least a few months, with many accidents. She obviously knew she had to go, and she meant to go, just 'not quite yet'. So 'in a minute' could easily become 'in a puddle' (which she then was happy enough to sit in until found), or 'in the bathroom, at a run, having done half or even all of the job on the way'. We used to joke about 'the princess and the pee', for the trails she left behind her. Oh, so funny... now that it's all in the past. Not quite so much at the time.
This was ultimately a good lesson for me in (if you'll pardon the expression) 'letting go'.
Through lots of reasonable talks, nagging, encouragement, vigilance and stress I learned that I could worry a lot about this, and be embarrassed about it, and try to stop it, and we'd be in a fair bit of conflict and unhappiness about it -- and she would still pee her pants like she had some kind of quota to meet. (At least it mostly happened at home.) Or, I could accept the reality that for this particular kid things were going to be damp and unpredictable for a probably not too long while, make her more responsible for the learning, changing and cleaning up, love her wet or dry just as I did without a thought when she was in a diaper, and laugh at my own lost illusions about parenting. (And, she would pee her pants like she had some kind of quota to meet...)
She really didn't mind being wet very much, so what eventually ended it was her learning her own signals better, maybe starting to feel a bit of peer pressure, and finally grasping through (laundry) loads of practice, that it was more of a bother to change wet pants and clean up a trail than it was to go in time the first place.