Anyway, she chooses her own clothing each evening and I help her lay it out. I have to remind her sometimes to include underwear, socks and shoes. She can bathe herself under direct supervision, and we trade off on teethbrushing, because I am paranoid about her getting cavities. She does a pretty good job, but I like to make sure! When she gets up in the morning, I ask her to take care of "first things first" then she can play if there is time left. What I'd like is for her to dress herself, get some breakfast, and brush her teeth. She still needs help with her hair. She works the toaster very well, and can help herself to things like toast, frozen waffles, cheese I've gotten ready for her, yoghurt and granola, etc. She can also pour herself some juice or water. I help with stuff like eggs. She'd like to learn to use the microwave, but I'm not sure that's a good idea. I'm just afraid she will go ahead and try it anyway in one of those "quick as a wink" moments when my back is turned. I wonder if it might be better to make sure she knows how to use it correctly. I'm also nervous about the radiation.
Another thing is, I often get frustrated with her inability to stay on task. This is where I'm wondering if I'm expecting too much from her, or am I letting her "walk over me", by not being firm that she get herself ready in the mornings. Bedtimes and other things I can supervise more closely because I don't need to be getting myself ready at the same time. Do I need to continue getting up twice as early for awhile longer?
Single mom by choice to Sophia, age 18, and Eleanor, age 12, and mother hen to too many nursing students to count!
I try to respect their individual personalities and take what each has to offer, but I do get frustrated at times as I think she is old enough to do many more things than she does by herself and without being asked, at least so many times.
So, really, I have no advice, but do ponder the same question myself.
My girls are still young, so have not tried this myself - but friends have and it worked for them.
She can also do a few simple chores around the house:
Dusting with a feather duster or a cloth that already has polish on it.
Sweeping the kitchen (she needs help to use the dust pan).
Feeding the cat.
Windexing the parts of the sliding glass door that she can reach.
Emptying the small trash cans into a big bag.
Helping with the landry by folding small things like washclothes and dish towels and putting them away.
Helping empty the dishwasher (she really likes putting the silver wear away).
I've started teaching her to set the table.
She enjoys being a real help around the house and doing some of the work. I don't force her to do anything.
My 3 year old is another story altogether -- she won't even pick up her own toys!
her sister is another story though. She is almost 2 and is ever so helpful (when she isn't being the anti-helper). She sorts the silverware, sweeps up the pile with a little broom and dustpan, empties garbages, helps set the table, picks up stuff and trows it away, constantly turns off lights, and when I am going to the bathroom she will get me a clean pad (her newest obsession), hand me toilet paper, flush when i am done and close the lid. She will turn on the water in the sink then turn ff the light and shut the door on the way out. (it is amazing that a child so into bathroom stuff would refuse to go on the freaking potty). She also picks up toys and makes beds. i don't where she got these genes from but I am loving this.
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
My 3 1/2 year old is amazing unhelpful. She doesn't seem interested in what I'm doing the way her sister was at the same age, and she considers helping pick up the toys a form of torture.