Just thought I'd add my voice too. Both my husband and I are "spirited" and even in our very active families were considered "most". So it comes as no suprise that our son Taylor 3.5 is too. That said, AHHHHHH!!!
Taylor is SO much "more" than we were according to our relatives. Teachers [day care, church, camp, swimming, etc], relatives, friends, all say something to the effect of "Wow. He sure is, uh, active?" Uh, Yeah.
I definatly DO think things are much much easier as time goes though. I recall around 21-22 months old suddenly thinking one day "Gee, THAT wasn't such a tough day?" And each month has been a smidge better in general. Mostly I think this is because he is VERY bright and is an excellent communicator. Whew. Now he can TELL me what is wrong which is SO much easier!!
I actually came to this site today to ask something similar to this. Do other folks kids who are high spirited do better with ALOT of scheduled activity or LESS? We go through phases and I cant get things straight. We spent Apr, May, and June this year with a tight schedule of 9-10 am until 2-3 pm each day going M - Zoo, Tu - Library & Story time, W - Beach w Male toddler Friends, Th - Hiking/Park w Female toddler Friends, F - out-of-house chores. Wore me out to tears !! So July and Aug we tried taking it easy doing only 2 or 3 things a week which "seemed" to go better, except now he is go-go-go at home like a whirlwind and he hardly ever sleeps [8 hr avg - 9 hr max and even then it's a battle] etc. Ideas for a compromise?
PS. No gray hair here -- I use Clariol #108