Yes, we introduce adults by their first names, which is the cultural norm where I live. If a person said they would rather be called Miss whatever, we would obviously defer to that. Just as if someone introduced me by MIss whatever, I would instruct them to use my first name.
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Gotcha. Glad to hear it. Though, I think you'd have to admit that so often the characterization that I'm complaining about is rampant.
Sorry if I cam off defensive.
Anyway, I've sometimes wondered how the use of it crept up here. Like, was it just a move away from Mrs. Lastname but for people not comfortable with just Firstname? Or did some people move from the south to up here and bring that custom with them and did it catch on neighborhood by neighborhood? It seems like it's becoming more and more popular and I don't think it'll go away anytime soon. In fact, I'm 40 now, and younger moms seem to take to it more than I do generally speaking, which I think is evidence that it's becoming more popular. It's something I've thought about before this thread popped up.
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That said, if you moved here and were my new friend I could totally understand your lil ones having different regional customs and I would be patient of course while they adjust.
We do it constantly. We're in Texas. I had no idea people "hated" it and that it "annoyed them terribly". Damn, that's some serious emotion about some kids trying to be polite. If an adult offers an alternative as a preference, then we always go with that. But wow...to be offended by a child calling you Miz Firstname when they first meet you? That's harsh.
Whoever said it's our generation's compromise between the formal Ma'am/Mrs. Lastname and the completely casual Firstname- I think you've hit the nail on the head. I know I grew up calling adults Mrs. Lastname, but it would feel so odd to hear a child call me that. I really just don't think of myself that way!
I also believe Miss Firstname intended as a sign of both familiarity and respect. I do agree with those of you who are saying that people should be addressed as they prefer, and I'd tell my kids it was all right to call you, and only you, by your first name if you asked. But on the flip side, I would find it very uncomfortable to correct an adult who introduced me to her children as "Kristi". I could not bring myself to say "Actually, I'd really like for you to call me Miss Kristi- that's the way we do it around here!" I'd feel rude for correcting them that way, and I guess I'd just hope that the local culture would rub off on them.
I guess I'm a little perplexed by the thought of people being offended or annoyed or really deeply disturbed by the Miss Firstname custom. I can understand that it would sound funny to your ear if you were not used to it, just as an adult being called Firstname by a child around here would sound 'off'. But it wouldn't be upsetting, just different. Not a big deal...
And I wouldn't assume the child had no manners whatsoever, without proof of that in other ways. Whereas it seems like some are making assumptions that children who do use Miss Firstname are in some way oppressed or not respected. Respect goes both ways, and around here, Miss Firstname is one of the ways kids show respect to adults.
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I don't care if anyone else does it but it's not something I encourage in my own child.
For my daughter, we're teaching her Don/Doña FirstName: though I personally don't like being called Doña Heather, it's easier for DD to say, and her teachers think it's adorable. Once she's in school I imagine it will change to Mr./Ms. LastName. Aw heck, she's not even 2 yet, so who knows what we'll end up using! I guess it all depends on the context and what's common.
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....Anyway, I've sometimes wondered how the use of it crept up here. Like, was it just a move away from Mrs. Lastname but for people not comfortable with just Firstname? ....
(....who prefers children call her Miss Firstname, Mrs. Lastname, "Aunt" Firstname, or Cousin Firstname. My image of a child who calls adults by their firstnames brings Bart Simpson to mind.)
This was new to me since as I was growing up we never said it that way for anyone. It was always Mr/Mrs lastname no matter who it was in school.
Outside school we always just called first names.
I am in East TN.
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|I had no idea people "hated" it and that it "annoyed them terribly". Damn, that's some serious emotion about some kids trying to be polite. wow...to be offended by a child calling you Miz Firstname when they first meet you? That's harsh.|
right on. talk about looking for things to be irritated by.