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Just thought it was getting on to time for a new thread...

: mama to T 9/04 and E 11/08
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Yeah for summer! Today is the warmest day so far and it feels great! No more : for me!

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(you know, like the song by Talking Heads... "this is not my beautiful house! This is not my beautiful wife!")

I'm listening to the song "Get a Grip" by Aerosmith right not in an attempt to do so... don't know if it will help, but a little Steven Tyler won't hurt my mood.)

My son... my son. Ahhhhhhh, f***.

... just got off of a full week of great gobs of attention from his great-aunt and -uncle, in a different state, where it was really HOT, and they spent a lot of time indoors, and he watched a lot of television.

... just spent a morning at his preschool where one of the kids who is frequently the most violent was in fine form, and it always leaves me asking, "why do you continue to enroll this child? You're a private preschool. You are not obligated to take everybody, even if their parents are native speakers and there are no other options for immersion preschool in this language in the area."

... got up at 6:15 or so this morning.

... has a mama who right now has been feeling sick to her stomach for 2 months, and who feels like the blood in her veins has been infused with lead. Even walking around the block makes me feel exhausted. I'm considering raiding Jo's Floradix to see if it makes a difference.

... is readjusting to spending his time during the day with me, and not with Jo and great-aunt and great-uncle and, to some extent, grandma (but I heard she was actually pretty disengaged with him).

He has just been such a little *@(! today. Getting to preschool was fine, he even got to eat his lunch with his classmates, which is a Big Deal, and coming home and watching Mr. Rogers was good too, but after we had a little snack after that (which he helped himself to out of the fridge, eh, so what), he started getting positively awful. Singing along to the album he asked me to put on in this ugly, horrible voice which I KNOW children do because they think it's funny but it gets him all wound up, and then he starts throwing toys around, and goes up to the cat and does something that more closely resembles pounding on her than petting her. That's usually my trigger is the cat. But he has no mechanism for calming himself down, and everything that I do to try to get him to calm down makes him more violent. A naughty stair? He moves around and around to see just how far he can push me. A spot on the floor? same as above, usually reaches out and hits me. Being held on my lap firmly (but not causing pain)? He scratches, pinches, hits, bites, wiggles and slams his head backwards/sideways/whichever way he needs to to cause pain.

Who is this kid? I do not scream at him. I do not hit him, ever, despite being sorely tempted because I think it would be the only thing that would break through his big tantrums and violent spells and shock him out of whatever that zone is that he's in, and plus I secretly feel like it would make him so upset that he'd want me to comfort him, and I ache for him to want to come to me and cry on my shoulder and get love because it seems like all of the interactions lately have been negative. Any physical affection I get is fleeting and has to have an element of silly combined with it - or just plain mean crap, like here, I'll hug you, but before I let go, I'm going to pull your hair.

I do not do this to him. I try so hard. I see these wonderful young people - the class I first met in 1st grade is graduating 8th grade this week at the school where I used to teach, and all those kids are just so awesome, and sweet, and kind and good and smart and beautiful and I can't understand what I'm doing WRONG, what is wrong with me as a mother, why doesn't my child listen to me, why do all of my neighbors' kids do what their mothers tell them, why don't they talk back or say no or run away?

Maybe I'm just destined to have a kid who is an obnoxious brat? But why can't he be nice to me like the angel he is at school?

Jeez, I'm so exhausted. After I came downstairs and found him shredding the newspaper and just snapped, I picked him up and put him in the car. I figured in his seat he would be restrained. I wouldn't be able to touch him and he wouldn't be able to touch/damage/break/rip/hit/bother anything. He seemed really excited that we were going somewhere, and then fell asleep within 2 minutes.

Obviously, he was tired, which was feeding his behavior. And luckily we ended up on a parkway and I was able to pull over and sob, and got myself under control enough to be able to drive back home before someone saw me bawling in the car and call 911 because they thought something was really wrong. No, just a pregnant lady with a preschooler testing her every limit.

I wish I could figure out what to do with him to get him to calm down, but there is no room in this house that would be safe from him. The bedroom is the closest but I am uninterested in refolding and hanging all of his laundry because I could see him just taking everything in the closet off of hangers and out of drawers and throwing it all over the room just because he knows it would tork us off.

Heck, I bet he would rip open a feather pillow to strew the feathers everywhere because he knows that wanton destruction of stuff really makes me mad, whether it's an anthill, a flower, anything. He LOVES to see me react to that and I can't pretend "gee, that doesn't bother me that you just smashed the picture of our friends". He will find something on the floor and just smash it, instead of setting it back down, or handing it to me, or whatever. Oh, gee, there's a butterfly! Think I'll STEP ON IT. WHAT THE HE(!#(#$*!#(_)@($*)(*!!!!!

Help. *sniffle* I can't figure out for the life of me how I could ever have thought that having two children would be a good idea. I am feeling so doomed right now.

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Oh Jen! I wish I had the magic words to make this all better for you! I only have two things, and they're probably not at all helpful, but you never know.

Rescue Remedy -- for both of you! Whenever Elizabeth has one of those meltdowns, some RR rubbed into the soles of her feet works wonders (the dosage is four drops by mouth, but that doesn't agree with her, so I end up double-dosing her with four drops in my hand per foot). Then I take some myself.

Four is the age of the Great Testosterone Surge in boys. It can come a little before or a little after. I think this is what you may be seeing. Not much you can do but wait it out, though. :

You're a wonderful Mama, and you are raising your son to be a wonderful boy. You are respectful of him and his needs. You have a loving home for him to live in. He is lucky to have you!

Oh, I thought of three more things! Can you give him something to destroy when he's like this? When E went through her hitting phase, I gave her a pillow to hit instead. It worked well. Have you tried whispering when he gets like that? Or singing your requests? It just may catch him off guard and inspire serenity.

More for you!!!

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Oh Jen, !!! I felt this way when Thor was a difficult 21 months and I was about to have Anna. It passed very quickly... that's all I was thinking as I read your post, the ol' famous (but very unhelpful) This Too Shall Pass. I really think that it sounds like a phase, however cliche and unhelpful that is. One suggestion, have you read Connection Parenting? That book totally changed my worldview. I don't know if that would help you at this juncture, but it sure did change the way I viewed my kids and myself for like a good 3 months. I still think of chapters from that book all the time.

BTW, it's all harder when you're pregnant and hormonal and tired... sigh. again.

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Jen - big bad hugs, mama. I was having a "how do i do this discipline thing in a way that honors my child, honors my values, but changes this behavior that is driving my nuts!" moment, and I started reading "positive discipline for preschoolers." I'd picked it up on half-price day at a consignment sale. It's not perfect, but it inspired me to adjust my thinking, be patient, and try some new things. Sometimes just giving the problem (your frustration and the behavior) new and fresh energy helps things shift a bit.

I have found that when robin is losing it, syaing in my most calm, serene voice, "Calm your body. Calm your voice. Calm your legs, etc" - whatever part of her she needs to calm, then giving her different options, "I want to help you. tell me what you need." or "Ineed you to put that down until your body is calmer, etc". I really feel like I am channeling someone outside of me - i am not little miss calm or zen-like
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I've finally posted some pictures - the first time since school started. Poor, undocumented eli.
http://www.kodakgallery.com/Slidesho...1_179125161307
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HHIIIII!!! gosh its been a long time since i've been here! today was a little hellish for us but not that bad! (((hugs))) i've calmed down enough to not remember what was driving me batty.

quick q: do your kids get their own snacks? i've never allowed the kids to get anything out of the pantry or fridge by themselves but i wonder how good of a rule it is and how hard it is to let them do it themselves. they also have to ask for drinks including water. ds in old enough to reach the fridge water but i am afraid hes not tall enoughto know when to stop filling the cup! also its a side by side fridge so they can only reach the bottom drawers for food if they get in (all veggies/fruit right now). they usually only have 1 snack the entire day so i am not sure if its even relavent or needed for them to do it themselves.
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Danielle: I go back and forth, as Robin goes in and out of being interested in getting her own snacks. Actually, she never *fully* gets her own snacks, but at times she'll pick something out and bring it to me to ask if she can have it. Our pantry has kid-level options, as does the fridge. But she always asks if she can have it, and usually needs help getting it open/cut/made. Sometimes she picks a treat, and I'll ask her to wait until after a meal, or sometimes she's feeling snacky b/c it's nearly mealtime, so we go ahead and eat. Generally, my concerns with her getting her own food are 1) MESS and 2) not making the best choices (eating too close to a meal, picking a treat for a snack)

For drinks, I try to have a water bottle/cup in the fridge where she can reach it or on the counter - and then invite her to get it herself. I would not let her pour on her own yet - She "helps" me pour, and I know she can't do it on her own yet.

If you think they need more autonomy, you can let them help you prepare snacks. Robin likes to try to spread peanut butter, insists on pouring her own cereal and helping with the milk, etc. She gets to feel competent and in control, and I help her enough to not have a major mess on my hands.

p.s. - we did have a candy bowl with all the crap we've gotten for holidays (xmas, easter, valentines, etc.). Once she foudn out where it was, she'd drag a chair over and sneak a peice. but she'd always come find me and show me her chocolate-filled mouth. This week, Eli saw what she was up to and joined her. He found a bag of caramels (left over from a recipe) and chewed on them, wrapper and all. Robin called to me, "eli's eating candy!" and I came in to fine him up on the chair with multiple chewed up caramels. The next day he did it again on his own, so now the candy bowl has a new home. We need to just throw it away - I don't think months-old easter bunnies sound good. But clint lets Robin pick a peice to put in their smoothies sometimes.
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Oh gosh, my kids totally feed themselves. At first I thought it was cute that they would climb to get their own cereal, then slightly annoying, then I asked them to just ask, now I don't care! Ceci helps Carl into the fridge also. Then they'll sit down to a picnic with lunch meat and string cheese. My kids have learned to do a number of things while I get my stupid thesis paper ready for publication!

Jen- Ceci does many of the things you just described T doing. I feel bad talking about 'number 3' when I have such a hard time with number 1!!! When she's good, she is very good and when she is bad she is HORRIBLE! And the worst part is I have sunk to it. I have even told her to flat out 'shut up' on occasion. How awful of me. I do the zen-calm thing, but after her whining and whining and whining and whining horrible things just fly out of my mouth. I am trying to do better, but it is hard for me not to use words to hurt.

Did you guys read that Time article about vaccines?! I noticed it yesterday at the library. It is pretty awful.

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Hello Jen-

Sigh. It all sounds so familiar to my feelings when I was pregnant with Gingy and Lulu was buzzing around when she was 18 months-2 years. In a sense, the behavior sounds like Lulu even today. An angel (they say the easiest kid in the class) at school, and SO overwhelming for us at home.

First of all, get that floradix out and take it twice a day for like a month. See if you don't feel better. You girl, need more energy, to handle T. And right around this time of pregnancy is when anemia hits. And it don't take much anemia, my midwife told me, to really, really feel it. It could be subclinical, ie. not detectable on a blood test. But heck, think what your body is trying to do right now ... create another person ! ... and think what else you have to handle... a wild preschooler who is out to get your goat.

It sounds like you need a way to calm this child down where you don't have to actually be there enforcing every second. When he gets out of hand and you two are just triggering each other over and over. There is no way either of you can calm down like that. The naughty chair/step thing just won't work like that. i do think driving the old boy in the car was an excellent choice frankly...

Have you thought about moving to "taking a break" in his room? I guess it sounds like you have (you were saying it wasn't proofed enough). Is there any separate room that would be OK for that? Or perhaps say he has to be on your big bed with the door closed, for 5-10 minutes (he could pick some books or coloring). Would it work when he was doing his thrashing and you were doing your gnashing?

Lulu has a very sensitive explosive nature (like her mom) and we often have to bring her upstairs to the attic 9her room) for a break. She doesn't like it usually, but she ends up kind of chilling or just falling asleep. I need the separation from her when it gets so heated.

I find when everyone is so volatile, I use less words. I barely say anything. In part, because no one is really ready to hear them, and in part because I then just escalate myself.

Yah, it is hard having two kids... or in this phase before the second arrives. But the magic of two kids is also real. There is a real sense of having created a real little family unit when you have a second child. And the interactions between the two kids are just amazing and touching. They really do play with each other, look out for each other. And you will probably have an easier time than I did the first year ... because T is so much older. Lulu was still with me around the clock when I had gingy. So I had the two of them day in day out... that first winter was hard.

OH... and say, what about the fact of that violent boy in T's class. It sounds like T may need to VENT about that. I figure a lot of Lulu's nonsense when she gets home is processing "other people's crap" when she get's home. There some kids that are very in your face/crowding her, etc. (nothing unusual for a three year old, but annoying), and she's so sensitive... i figure a lot of her afterschool bizarro, hard to handle behavior is simply her processing all the interactions with this type of kid. And perhaps t and she feel safe at home doing it....

anyway, HTH.

BIG Hug!

bTw Yo Becca, loved the pics of your two great kids!!!!!!!!!! so much fun to see them together....


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I've finally posted some pictures - the first time since school started. Poor, undocumented eli.
http://www.kodakgallery.com/Slidesho...1_179125161307
Those are GREAT photos!! What a cutie.

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I'm making up for lost time with the pictures. These include just a slice of how obsessed Robin is at the moment with dress up

She's finally getting frustrated with him in her space, taking toys, tearing up her art, etc. She's been really easy going about it, but now it's on her nerves - I think b/c he's climbing and fast and she can't get away from him any more. I caught her squeezing his arm and pulling his hair this week - both out of anger/frustration. neither hurt him, so she showed some restraint I suppose. But it's no fun to now have to help her find a way to channel her frustration, and to find space without him. Hey, maybe it's b/c school is out so they are together every day, all day.

It's in the mid 90's here, and we're holding out on the a/c. We are spending lots of time at thepublic pool these days!

Liz - wise words. Being prenant with one is perhaps harder than having a newborn, at least it was for me, mentally and emotionally. Once the baby was here, no time to dwell on emotions or my mental state - wait, maybe that's not a better thing....
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Digging us out from page 8!!!

I have to take some photos and share... we've had lots of rain and my lawn revived itself, everything looks great. Greg has a ton of energy again (and has started a ton of projects accordingly) and we just refurbished an old Rainbow Playwet- a freebie from a jobsite. The kids love it.

Tomorrow we meet with the lumberyard to work on a house plan for our addition. I don't think I'll be sad to have the kids move out of my room. No, I will be, but we could totally use some more space and new insulation.

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subbing...had to find you guys again.

Uncomfortable as can be - due any day now!
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Hi all!! I leave for Seattle with the kids on Thursday. And, get this, Anna broke her leg! OMG, I feel awful for her. She was climbing up into the front seat of our truck and turned to look at me, and fell right out, flat on her front, hard. She broke her tibia... it's a greenstick fracture. So she has a full leg cast, can't walk, but has learned how to scoot/crawl everywhere. She's almost had it for a week and she has to have it on for three weeks total. I'm hoping that it can come off while we're in seattle.

I'm at the great stage of pregnancy... no symptoms, nice small round belly, lots of energy. Whee!! I love it right now.

Stacy -- can't wait to hear about the birth!!

Becca -- I'm jealous of hot weather. I don't think we've been above 60 here... and normally in the low 50's. Boy do we have the sunlight, though!! It's really only dark at around 1-3am, then bright again, and all the birds are up squawking at 4am. That's actually annoying.

Jen -- how are you doing? Any easier with T?

Meg -- What's a playwet?

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I'm guessing Meg meant playSet?

POOR ANNA!!! Of course I bet you're more traumatized about it than she is.

Pass some of that good-stage-of-pregnancy stuff this way. I'm 16 weeks and still feeling barfy and blah. On top of it my son is a whirling dervish who never stops making noise, and still has that combative, violent thing going. I'm exhausted. Blah, blah, blah.

We (he and I) are flying to my sister's today until Saturday. I hope it's fun, right now I'm just feeling like I'd rather climb into a hole than navigate airport security, make our plane transfer, etc. We're flying American and last time they were less than accommodating / helpful / anything nice... I am hoping this time will be better. I have decided to not bring the stroller because I'm only checking one bag and am ready to make a stink if they try to charge me $15 for checking my car seat. There is no way to travel with a child without a car seat and after the living hell they made my life last time when I tried to bring it on the plane, I'm NOT doing that again.

Send us positive vibes.

Stacy, wishing you an empowering, healthy and joyful birth!

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Good luck Jen.... I couldn't handle plane flight now... it's for the super stable! which i haven't been in quiet some time!

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Augs ~ Hoping Anna is feeling better soon. I can't believe how that can happen in the blink of an eye.

Jen ~ Good luck flying! I really hope they don't charge you too. That would be pretty lame.


I am going to a neurologist tomorrow and I am getting a bit freaked out. I have been having some weird, nebulous symptoms and had an MRI of my brain last week. The lame nurse at my docs office said it was inconclusive and that I was to make a neurology appointment. I called the neuro and they said they didn't have an appointment until August. So I brought over a copy of the radiologist report and they gave me and appointment for the 25 of June. Then, my docs office finally faxed my stuff to the neuro and they called me on monday and wanted to see me tomorrow. ARRRGGHH!!! Meanwhile, my symptoms seem to be escalating. I really hope I walk out of this appointment tomorrow at least knowing what is up and not just with a list of a ton of tests to get done.

Meanwhile, we are finally potty training Zeke and I have never had such a hard time with anything! As with everything, he makes it as difficult as possible -- he is the kids who wont do anything for himself including, dressing, putting his carseat straps on, sometimes eating -- and to add to the problem, Eli is obsessed with the toilet and putting his hand in it and I am feeling like crap and don't want to spend all day in the bathroom, literally holding his hands while he pushes!!!!!! I so need help!!!!

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Hey there mamas!

Wow! sounds like there's lots of challenges out there right now! Poor mamas. Wish I could help, but I'm also up to my neck in naughty little monkeys, mine seem to be intent on playing with whatever the other one has in his or her hands at he moment.. lots of screaming crying and hitting. Yuck! Jasper is becoming very verbal as he approaches 2 and is strongwilled as they come. Mielle has been the whiniest little puke ever lately and it seems like i have to redirect her into asking nicely for every single thing, from getting her butt wiped to having a snack to going outside... grrrr.
However, from time to time, they snuggle together and laugh and tickle. They hold hands and run in the grass... they share snacks and take baths together, at night they give each other kisses and hugs before toddling off to seperate sleeping places. So, there is hope. Really.
Must post new photos some time, they are growing so big and beautiful.

Well the destruction of my livingroom that has taken place while i've been on the computer is reaching critical mass.... Jasper is approaching the shelf full of DVD's, must intervene..

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HI all!

I've been in Columbus for the past 2 weeks for Robin's swimming lessons. They went great and all...but the single parenting both kids is quite old, and I'm happy to be back with Clint. No TV, phone or internet at our house there - nothing to do but clean, and who wants to do that?

Kristen - I hope your appointment was a step in the right direction. This all sounds like a lot to deal with. Hugs, mama. I'm sending you lots of good vibes.

Jen - Happy travels. Hope you guys made it safely and sanely. You'll start feeling that 2nd-trimester glow soon.

Anna - So good to hear from you! Robin has also entered a whiney phase. I'm hoping the exit is near, bc/ i can't take it. and she's picked up on my saying that also, "I can't take it, mama!" "I can not take it at all!" and my attempts to help her learn how to talk about her feelings have lead to "I am very frustrated with being in this store!" etc. etc. Kinda hard not to chuckle sometimes.

Stacy - hoping to hear your good news any day now!

Speaking of good news, my IRL friend who's in stacy's DDC just VBA2C'd!! She is an ICAN chapter co-leader, and on the national board, and an amazing resource for VBAC-seeking women in georgia - just such a help and inspiration for so many people, and it is so exciting that she wsa finally able to have the birth she's wanted. I'm over the moon for her!!
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ishe's picked up on my saying that also, "I can't take it, mama!" "I can not take it at all!"
Becca- same here.... Lulu's been saying "I can't take it anymore!" a lot... gee, wonder where she got it?

I've been dealing with a herniated disk. After two c-sections and a laproscopic gall bladder removal, I have no stomach muscles... so my back slipped out. Super painful. So my tolerance for the WHINEFEST is very low.

Zen= Oh my gosh, I hope you find some answers. It sounds potentially very serious. I am glad they fit you in right away. I am glad you took matters into your own hands. So many times the "gatekeepers" (receptionists, office nurses) are the hardest part of getting good medical care. Kristen, please keep us updated...

Lulu's not potty trained either, we tried last year but it was an abysmal failure (just led to her not pooping or peeing at all, practically). So this summer we'll try again.

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so nice to see all you guys again!

ethan is POTTY TRAINED after several months of trying. we started in jan with preschools help and it was march 28th that he GOT IT. all the sudden! miracles of miracles. he's night trained as well but only by "accident" cause he doens't PEE at night. if he takes a cup to bed then he wets the bed.

i am tempted to start in on ayla. my mom put her on the potty one morn when she was dry but i can't do that since she is up when she wants. she is in her toddler day bed so can get in/out at will...and does! several nights now she will get up around 2 a.m. "with" dh and just hang out for a while.

thankfully both get up now by themselves in the morn (ds used to HOLLER at me!) and they entertain themselves for a while.

just got back from the doc with my RX for liquid prenatals...only 4.25 months to go before official Baby dancing!

i tried to ask ds what he thought of mommy haveing another baby...he pointed to ayla and said "thats the baby" with no clue what i was talking about

oh and we up to our EYEBALLS in attitude! both of them! ds being michevious/trouble and basically being onry and dd just useing the DRAMA to her advantage.

looks like dd is also speech delayed like ds as she only has about 5 words she says. understands tons though.

oh and its 110 DEGREES here!
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I went to the neuro. Not great news, but not far off from what I expected. He says the MRI show lesions that are "suspicious for MS." So now it is off for more testing. I found a book called "the MS Recovery Diet" and I am going to go for it. Life without all my food loves (cheese, beans, bread, crackers, eggs, peanuts) actually seems easier that injecting my self on a regular basis. My symptoms seem to be getting worse fast and I really have to stop what ever this is. So this weekend I will do the shopping and start the diet Sunday or Monday. DH gets home tomorrow, which is really good, because my energy for dealing with four kids seems wildly diminished, and yet they must be dealt with.

Anyone with similar experience? Anyone know anyone who recovered by diet alone?

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Anyone know anyone who recovered by diet alone?
Big big to you and your family!!!

This woman conquered hers with diet and herbs and cleanses. http://www.ginakopera.com/index.html

Samantha, Mama to Elizabeth, September 24, 2004
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Old 06-21-2008, 10:42 AM
 
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Kristen-

Oh my goodness!

At least you have the diagnosis. It usually takes for ever, from what I heard. So you can start in on your healing.

I don't know about the natural treatment, but it sure seems to be a wiser way to start than the drugs.

I have a friend who's just gotten the diagnosis, or about to. One thing she says is HEAT really effects her symptoms. She won't go to the mall when it's scorching hot, and keeps the A/c on in the house now, and that alone really helps.

Let your DH take care of you for a while til you sort all this out and do the big job of adjusting mentally to the fact that you have MS. i hope he can stay home a little bit while you "stabilize."

((long distance hug from downstate)))

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Kristen - This must be hard news, and I'm so sorry you are facing such an intimidating diagnosis. My only experience with MS is with a friend of my mom's, during my childhood, and I'm sure science has changed dramatically since then. I think getting a jump on the diet approach makes a lot of sense, and I hope you see the effects quickly - especially since it involves some sacrifices! It seems like a good first step.

I hope you got a bit of a break with your DH being home. Can you guys swing hiring a mothers' helper for a few hours a week? Even if it's just a teenager who's there when you are home too, it could be a break for you while your DH is travelling. If not, how about setting up some playdates for the older kids (at other people's houses)? I know it must be overwhelming to try to take care of yourself, and also take care of 4 kids. You are definitely in my thoughts, and I wish I was nearby to lend a hands. Hugs and love, mama.
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Hugs to you Kristen. Not a fun diagnosis to hear.

Hi Everyone! I know I have been MIA for a while but life just caught up with me. Let's see... where to start. Christopher is almost done with Kindergarten for the year. We have enjoyed homeschooling. He is looking forward to first grade this fall. I have to say that my baby is growing up too fast! I just discovered a loose tooth in his mouth.

David is a rambunctions, intense, three year old these days. Pottry training is slowly coming along. He is finally having more dry days than wet days. I find he has more accidents when he is tired which can be tough since he gave up naps at age 2. I am lucky to get him to nap these days.

David can identify all his numbers now and some of his letters. My mom bought Hooked on Phonics Pre-K the other day and we are going to see how he likes it. He claims he wants to read just like Christopher. This kid wants to be like his big brother in the worst way possible. Unfortunately, that means that he is picking up his brother's bad attitude. I never thought I would hear "I don't like you MOM!" coming out of David's mouth this early but he has Christopher to learn from.

Both boys are enjoying T-ball right now. After T-Ball we are going to sign David up for Gymnastics. He is constantly trying to stand on his head when we are at home. I will have to try and post a picture of it.

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Oh Kristen!! I wish I could come over and 'do' something. When I get nervous or worried for someone I like to clean their house, or do their errands, or SOMETHING! Please do keep us posted and you are in my thoughts.

I meant PlaySET guys, sorry!

We went to the zoo last Friday, it's awesome! We became members. I love having kids old enough to get out and 'do' things with.

Wow, Ashley, poor Anna! My sister broke her leg when she was a baby; she fell down the stairs. For some reason I remember it clearly. I guess 'cause they went over all the 'is this baby abused' stuff.

We have Carl running around without pants... it's actually kind of stressful for him b/c he doesn't like to pee on his foot (who would) and the poop sliding down his leg kind of freaks him out. But he's determined that he doesn't like to poop in his diaper anymore and he's learning how to pee on command. I am just sick of washing diapers and I'd rather scoop his poop then wipe it out of his butt. We're outside all day anyway.

So, I've decided to become Greg's 'personal assistant' and not go back to work next year. There is just WAY too much to do at home and I feel like all I do is run,run,run to *try* to keep up. Greg has too many messes started and I am sick of looking at them. If he wants me to make money, he has to start less stuff at home for us. But, since we have so much going on, I think my time would be better spent trying to keep up with our projects. Gulp. I have made my own money since I was 12. Guess I'd better step up the ebay business!

I love hearing about what everyone is up too. Happy summer!

Megan~ mama to Cecilia (9/1/04) Carl (11/19/06) Vivian (9/10/09) & spring 2011 baby.
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My chickens are laying eggs!! We just got our first dozen! I'm so excited! Clint's still working on the chicken coop, but it's mostly finished,a nd the nesting boxes are in. So Mama Chicken has been busily laying, and we didn't even know.

Meg - I hope the new job works out well. How's the pay? We joined the zoo last summer too - it is so much more fun with kids, huh.

Robin and Eli were both in a "camp" at the UU church all week (Peace Camp) so I had planned to be very productive...but my best friend came to town and has been staying with us, so not productive at all.

Robin starts gymnastics this coming week - a three day "mini-camp" (3 days of 90 minute lessons). It's her first time at any sort of class or lesson (Other than preschool), and then in the fall she'll start taking gymnastics once a week. I'm torn between thinking it just makes life more busy, and thinking she'll really enjoy it. Anybody else do gymnastics? I think Elizabeth does dance, right?
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