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I'm looking for a book that explains how to discipline children in a compassionate respectful way without corporal punishment. What books do you like? And what books do you suggest avoiding?
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If you head over to the Gentle Discipline board, there is a sticky at the top with a book list.

Personally, I love Connection Parenting and Playful Parenting. I have a bunch of others and I generally like at least parts of them, but those are two that I liked all the way through.

I avoid anything by James Dobson (shudder). I'm also not a fan of the Love and Logic stuff, although I haven't read any of their books in their entirety. I have a friend that practices it though and from flipping through the book, it appears to be manipulative in a way I don't feel comfortable with.
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I agree- you'll get all kinds of book ideas at the GD board!

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Thanks for pointing me in that direction too girls. I've always liked Toddler Taming by Dr Greene. It's honest and straight to the point and he doesn't "fluff" over issues.
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I'm getting quite the collection -- but here are my fave's:
"Unconditional Parenting" (and anything else by Alfie Kohn)
"The Explosive Child" (which, IMO, is good for all children, not just the explosive types.)

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I avoid anything by James Dobson (shudder).
ME TOO!!!

I enjoy "Mothering's Guide to Natural Family Living" and "The Whole Parenting Guide"

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I really like Loving Your Child Is Not Enough by Nancy Samalin (I'm assuming you're talking about an older, verbal child). This book is similar to Parent Effectiveness Training by Thomas Gordon, and How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen by Faber and Mazlish (maybe?).

I like Unconditional Parenting for the ideas in it.

I really disliked Love and Logic.

Oh, and I like Secret of Parenting by Anthony Wolf if you think you'd do better on the stricter side of GD.

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I was really inspired by Unconditional Parenting. My MIL swears by Ginott's Between Parent and Child and gave me a copy. I read part of it when Lu was a babe in arms, but haven't gotten back to it so I can't comment on it. Honestly, other than that, I'm not huge into parenting books. (I loved Last Child in the Woods, but that's not exactly about discipline!)

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I really disliked Love and Logic.

Oh, and I like Secret of Parenting by Anthony Wolf if you think you'd do better on the stricter side of GD.
I didn't read Love and Logic, but a friend told me about it and it didn't appeal to me at all. And I don't like the use of the phrase "Oh how sad..." it just doesn't feel good to me.

I really like SOP. I try hard to implement his methods and generally do well with it but sometimes I fall into old habits.
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I really like the "Positive Parenting" books.
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I like the books by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. She takes a gentle approach, but explains it in a way that makes sense to people with a more punitive background. If you need to just get things under control, 123 Magic can be a starting point. It does use timeouts, and isn't as gentle as some of the books mentioned here, but it is a quick read, and has simple, straighforward advice. I think it would be a good start for a family that has been using physical discipline and can't see how to stop.

The vibe I got from some of the gentle parenting books I read was that basically I need to just cope with whatever my kid was doing without really explaining what the path would be to better behavior. But I haven't read any of the book mentioned here (except skimming a Positive Parenting toddler book).

I didn't like the Love and Logic books either-- too much of it was just mean.

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i am rereading "playful parenting", and it is really awesome the second time as well as the first. it really gets into talking about emotions and how to help your child learn to work through them with play. it has been an excellent reminder for me of how sensitive children are, and how important it is for me to be sensitive for to them. i would recomend it to anyone who comes from a background where they were encouraged to repress their feelings.
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playful parenting
easy to love difficult to discipline by becky bailey
the explosive child
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My four favs:

Playful Parenting (Cohen)
Hold On To Your Kids (Cohen)
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves (Aldort)
Unconditional Parenting (Kohn)

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