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Before the twins were born my oldest dd was a sensitive kid. She needed a lot of attention, wasn't so good at handling sudden changes, would get very upset at the littlest cut, had sensory issues with clothing, very few foods she liked.
Aww thanks, you guys!
It is so dang hard! I probably do overindulge her, but she is very smart and can argue her point so well that sometimes I just can't find the energy/time/hands to deal with her in the way I know I should.
It isn't an excuse, just an explanation.
I find it so impossible to deal with her with the little ones there. Like if I'm going to take them all out, and she won't get dressed, I feel like if I dress her I'm giving in to her and if I don't dress her the little ones and I are also deprived of an outing because she just will digg her heels in and say "I don't care if we go out" or something like that.
I do, I suppose feel sorry for her, because when I think back on that first year of the twins' life and think "if someone had subjected me to that without even asking me I think I would be very resentful and uncooperative". But maybe that is the wrong way to think.
I just wish I had more ideas about how to make her enjoy being part of a big(ish) family; to foster more family feeling?
It is always good to know there are others in the same crazy situation!
You guys always make me feel better when I hit that parenting wall and give me ideas on where to go.
Like if I'm going to take them all out, and she won't get dressed, I feel like if I dress her I'm giving in to her and if I don't dress her the little ones and I are also deprived of an outing because she just will digg her heels in and say "I don't care if we go out" or something like that.
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