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#151 of 163 Old 11-02-2008, 11:07 PM
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Just read this whole thread. My heart goes out to you. I am so glad your dd has you for a mama, handling this so lovingly and with such care. It is so shocking to read all the things that have happened to people even though I know they do. And I am just so impressed with you and deeply touched--especially by moving in this stressful time to help her feel safe. Many blessings to you and your family.

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my heart goes out to you. you are so strong.

i hope your family comes out of this with peace.

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while I've been there myself, I can't imagine having this happen to any of my kids stay strong, mama

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I hope things are going well for you all...your experience has reminded me why I am so protective of my children and to tighten back up, bc I've been a bit more lax lately!!! to you all!

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I think your family is very strong for handling this as well as you have. And as QUICKLY! Time is definitely of the essence, and will aid your dd's recovery process. I'm glad you chose to move as quickly as you have, listening to your dd's feelings. You are an AWESOME mama! We are truely tested during tough times, and you are proving your strength. Rock on!!
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I've been so busy lately that I haven't had a chance to stop in. I just wanted to let you know that you and your family are in my thoughts daily. If you can't talk about it anymore, please let us know. You have lots of people praying for you.

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any update on what happened?
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Originally Posted by lawgrrl View Post
To the OP, I commend you with all of my heart for hearing and believing your dear daughter. She is extremely lucky to have you as a mother. You are doing everything correctly; especially the calm listening and alerting the authorities.

I can't say it better than lawgrrl. What a horrible, horrible thing to happen to your beautiful baby girl. But I am so glad for her that she has you for a mom and your DH as a Dad.

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Mamas, I've never shared this with anyone but after reading this felt the need. I know if my heart that this is at the root of why I am so terrified of something happening to my dd. It's not only boys you have to be concerned about. Looking back on it from the perspective of an adult, I still don't know what to call it. But I still feel guilty so I think it probably qualifies as sexual abuse. There was a little girl probably three years older than me that lived down the road from us. Our parents were friends, sort of, but she alwasy wanted to play naked games. I remember at least on incident at my house and one at hers. She wanted me to put things in (what I now know was) her vagina. I felt very guilty. They moved when I was probably 6 or 7 so this was probaby all before I was 5. I now think she was being molested and that was her acting out.

Watch the girls too!

To the OP, your family is in my thoughts.

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Has social services been called? In situations like this in my state, an investigation would be completed ASAP and luckily in cases like these there doesn't have to be criminal charges in order for something to happen. DSS has so many child-centered specialists who can accurately and professionally intereview children - which can usually unravel so much more info than a regular police investigator. Even if this man is NOT charged criminally, DSS can still step in and accurately assess whether his children are safe or not. MANY times - DSS interviews help "seal" the case for police.

There was a case near this area several years back that the police could get nowhere with the child and he was not responding to the investigator. IT wasn't until DSS stepped in a started assisting that the little boy opened up and ended up leading authorities to his "secret room" where there were TONS of pictures, videos, etc. and enough to put this man away for a long time. At this point - the Commonwealth atty. had already decided not to try the case because there was not enough evidence- in this case, thank goodness for DSS.

BTW- I have worked with many children who have been sexually abused- and many of these children who have received proper care from their parents and couseling if needed, go on to live lives free of any long term effects from the abuse. From everything ou have said it sounds like your little one is coping very well - and I can tell you are doing a great job throuout this situation.

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this is the first time I saw this thread. I am so sorry you are going through this. I send you hugs. I can't speak about actions to take but hugs is what I do know...

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