Has social services been called? In situations like this in my state, an investigation would be completed ASAP and luckily in cases like these there doesn't have to be criminal charges in order for something to happen. DSS has so many child-centered specialists who can accurately and professionally intereview children - which can usually unravel so much more info than a regular police investigator. Even if this man is NOT charged criminally, DSS can still step in and accurately assess whether his children are safe or not. MANY times - DSS interviews help "seal" the case for police.
There was a case near this area several years back that the police could get nowhere with the child and he was not responding to the investigator. IT wasn't until DSS stepped in a started assisting that the little boy opened up and ended up leading authorities to his "secret room" where there were TONS of pictures, videos, etc. and enough to put this man away for a long time. At this point - the Commonwealth atty. had already decided not to try the case because there was not enough evidence- in this case, thank goodness for DSS.
BTW- I have worked with many children who have been sexually abused- and many of these children who have received proper care from their parents and couseling if needed, go on to live lives free of any long term effects from the abuse. From everything ou have said it sounds like your little one is coping very well - and I can tell you are doing a great job throuout this situation.
Blessed with two BEAUTIFUL little girls: Kylie (09/06) and Maggie (4/09) :