first yup sooooooooooooooooooooo 4 year old.
second does he understand what he has done wrong. coz if you send him to his room without an explanation he will have no idea how to correct it.
the thing that happens at 4 is they become more aware of the world around them. he is trying to figure out how to act in society and with all his behaviours he is asking for guidance. repeated guidance for months before it sinks in.
my dd has gone thru most of everything your son is doing. in different degrees.
first tell him what exactly losers mean. and how it hurts people. in my house i allow any kind of speech. what i dont allow is hurtful words. i work on tone of voice which reaches its height at 4. even a nice word can turn terrible.
yup we totally had the winner thing going.
well you have to be aware that sometimes hidden in those words is a ring of truth. like the stinky kid. there you teach him how to say it. the truth that he is stinky - but not in a hurtful way.
if he does understand what it means by 'his face is freaking me out" then i am v. v. impressed by his vocab and his understanding.
he is so boy. he is sooooo 4.
there is nothing wrong. you just have to figure out strategies of how to work with this. you can try many sorts of strategies. playful parenting. you have to find what works for you and your ds. i recall joining my dd in her name calling. inititally she thougth it was hilarious. but then i spared no one. and she found she didnt like it me calling her friends and me names too. mostly myself. she hated me calling myself names. mom i dont like it when you call yourself names. work done. experiment understood.
take in the sass. its part of the game. he will ultimately get out of it.
i think there is a book called "your 4 year old - wild and wonderful" great book. helped me immensely.http://www.amazon.com/Your-Four-Year...4949145&sr=1-1
gosh this book was written in the 60s. a lot of things like discipline you might have to leave aside. but it really describes the 4 year old v. v. v. well. it also has a great 5 year old book too. i think it starts at 1 year old and goes up to 5.
good luck. oh and by the way. if he was behaving that way in school you would have heard from them. and the people in public at whom he is aiming those remarks i am sure understand. so yeah watch yourself. sometimes i remember i used to be extra harsh on my dd just coz i was embarrased. so i was taking out on her instead of just explaining.
its going to take lots and lots of repeating and then slowly slowly the incedents with go down.