Hi there, I have actually been in your shoes before. I was 18 when I had my first, she is six almost seven. I was 21 when I had my second, who is a strong four year old boy now.I have wanted another for about two years and my dh was always against the idea; which hurts I know. Last February or March we decided to go ahead and try for another baby. It was such a happy time for me, but something was off with my husband. After two months of ttc he started doubting me and my mothering skills, which turned out to be him doubting himself. A week later he tells me he doesn't actually want anymore kids. He is happy with our family just the way it is and the only reason he agreed to another was to make me happy, but he just couldn't do it. In a situation like that... somebody has to lose. Seeing as how it isn't fair to make a baby when both parents don't want it with all their hearts, I lost and the topic was closed. I was very bitter about the whole ordeal. Most of all I was so sad. Well my sister in law started trying for a baby when we started ttc and they conceived right away and gave birth in late October and the worst thing was that I was jealous. I'm embarrassed to admit it, but I was jealous... a week after the baby was born we had a family Halloween party and an unveiling of the baby. She was so beautiful, my dh bent down and talked his most famous baby talk to his week old niece and she worked her baby magic on him (which happens to be twice as strong as baby dust) and he was hooked. After they left we were standing in the living room and he changed his mind! He wanted another baby, truly wanted another. So I suppose the moral of my story is you never know what will happen. Don't try to get over it like I did that only made it hurt worse, and don't try to work within a time line we already have to do that so much in our lives. I wanted all of my kids close together...but our last two will be five years apart, and that is okay with me now! You never know what life will gift you with. Take it one day at a time and don't forget about what you want. It sounds like your husband did not give an immediate "no" , he thought about it which means he cares, I think it is scarier to men often because they are responsible for providing. Good luck to you and your family!
married to my sweetie pie David
With two beautiful children
that love each other very much and a beautiful baby girl
who just arrived on October 31st, 2014!
Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.