I just had to share our great news. As I mentioned before, my dear husband is working on his PhD in English and languages. I work in news radio and make about 27K per year. He is a student and was just breaking even with his scholarship funding. NOT in a position to have babies and stay home with them. We were WAITING to hear news on this HUGE scholarship that he had applied for.
HE GOT IT!
He get's between 35 and 40k per year for the next three years. This award also greatly increases his job prospects at a university afterwards. We're cruising baby!
He's got three more years left, and then we want to move back to British Columbia to raise our little ones with him working at a school of some sort..... our city is baby friendly..... but I wanted out toddlers to be in BC. So, the timing is perfect.
DH said, "I guess it's all up to me now" as far as babies go.
We use condoms, and I chart. So, I'll still warn him about the danger times, but, if he doesn't "listen" then, I guess he's ready!
I'm SO EXCITED!!!!!!!!!!!
I LOVE Mothering.
It's helped me make so many plans, and DH has come around to agree with me on pretty much everything, especially crying it out.
Example: We were babysitting four kids for a friend at their house. 1 yearold boy-girl twins, a 2 yearold girl and a four year old boy. I had talked for years about co-sleeping and crying it out, etc. Dh was cribbed and CIO all the time, and had adopted the "attitude", can't bring them to bed with you, they manipulate you, etc.... I had always said, "wait until you hear your baby crying for you in the night, I can't picture you ignoring it." Which was met with some bluster.
Welllllll, we were up with the 2 and 4 yearold. The 1 yearolds were asleep. The 1 yearold girl woke up, crying. I went to her, picked her up, comforted her, changed her, got her nose cleaned out (she was stuffed up) and put her back to bed after about 20 minutes. She dozed, and I started reading a book to the 2 yearold. The 1 yearold starts crying again, and I decide to a) finish the very short story so as not to upset the 2 yearold and b) see what Dh did. He came into the room, dead serious, and said "how can you LISTEN TO THAT?!" and went to her and rescued her from the dark, singing to her and dancing until I could hold the babe till mommy and daddy came home.
I'm so in love with my husband.
Our last hurtle is circumcision.
Sorry for the book!!!!!
I'm so excited!