Hey Goosysmom, I'm sorry to hear that you're facing this question. You might want to join the "PCOS thread" on Trying to Conceive. There are many women there with varying experiences with PCOS and ttc. Even if you're still seeking a diagnosis, I know you will be welcomed there.
I also passed the glucose tolerance test, but I had enough symptoms to warrent a diagnosis, including stubborn weight around my middle, hirsutism on my neck, constant feelings of stress, and irregular periods (since I was 15). My testosterone test was the only of my bloodwork that came back slightly abnormal.
FYI, there's a site: http://www.pcos-support.org/
that might be helpful. Here's something from their FAQ:
"How do I know if I have PCOS?
If you have symptoms such as excessive weight gain, period problems, facial or body hair, mood swings, tiredness, thinning hair, cravings for food, irritability, a tendency to faint or emotional problems, you could have PCOS. Your doctor can arrange for an ultrasound scan and the results will give you the answer. You could have one, two or all of the above symptoms, so it is important, if you feel you have PCOS, that you discuss this with your doctor!"
I highly recommend seeing a reproductive endocrinologist/OBGYN who specialized in treating PCOS. Like many of the women on the thread mentioned above, I take metformin, and I am on my 3rd month of Clomid. I have been ttc for more than 3 years.
I hope for you that you can get some quick answers to your questions, and that your ttc journey comes to a blissful end soon! Feel free to PM me if you wanna talk...
As for what you can do to help yourself, there are many things, including diet, exercise, and herbs that others have had some good results with. I've got to get back to work now, so more later!