I emphasized blessed above, as we have known a number of people through the years that have desperately wanted children/another child but were unable to conceive...
My recommendation is to enjoy and care for the children you have, and to eagerly await the arrival of your next!
Here is an additional thought in regards to the benefits of more kids: They will have people to depend on and seek comfort from when bad things happen. I'm one of six and I don't know how I would have handled the deaths of either of my parents (thankfully we were all adults when we lost them). My father passed away 4 months before my wedding and then my mother 7 years later after an extended illness. We all took turns looking after mom until the end. It would have been really exhausting if I were an only child.
...when I was pregnant with my third baby people made comments like "pregnant again?" AGAIN? there's 10 and a half years between my second and third!!
and someone saying to me don't you have like a ton of kids now? yeah 3 is a ton! I'm so crazy for having 3 kids in 36 years...
***I think loving attentive attachment mammas like us should have more kids...give the next generation a fighting chance!!..
Good luck with yours!
I just really want a big family. I want to have lots of laughs and love around my house. My DH wanted 10 so we decided to have 5 of our our and sponsor 5 kids.
I think is will be great having a big family.
Mama to Noah- 05, Eden - 07, Isabella -09 and Cade -11
I, too, absolutely love my chaos and non-stop busy schedule (well, most of the time, lol!), and I really don't mind any of the inevitable comments - I can just shrug them off pretty easily. I do get my fair share of "oh, you finally got your princess, now you can stop" comments, since #4 is the first girl of the bunch - ok, those are just the teensiest bit annoying! I also kind of like "having my hands full" - life is certainly never dull, and I know my kids will always have each other. I do, however, wish I had more "company" in having a larger family - I sometimes feel as though I dare not share one iota of any *hint* of stress in my life, so that I don't get that "well, you certainly asked for/deserve it" vibe, if that makes sense!
So cool to see so many others out there!
Can you tell I know just what you're all talking about? I'm pregnant with our 4th child and am just plain tired of the rediculous comments I get from people. We homeschool too so I guess that makes us extra crazy! People are always telling me "You have your hands full. I could never do that!" I respond by simply saying "I love my children." That usually ends the negativity festival right there. What this world needs is a little more care and concern for others, especially children, and a little less focus on self.
Have as many beautiful babies as you want. Let people think you're crazy. Public opinion is not what brings happiness, a close loving family does.
Best wishes to all "big family" mommies!!
Ah, so nice to know I'm not alone. 4 kids isn't a large family.
Right up to the 60's here, especialy in rural areas, big families were the norm.
My friend in school came from a family of five and when i went on trips and days out with them, I always remember them being commented on positively
As a 'lovely big family'
or a 'big healthy family, bless them'.
A cousin of my Dad's had 8 children and no-one in their little community seemed to bat an eyelid.
Another cousin of his had 14!! Which was considered big then but she always seemed so happy.
If anyone asked why she had such a big family she used to feign a surprised look and ask
"A big family'? Do i REALLY HAVE A BIG FAMILY?? It always seemed just the right size to me!
I always thought that was a great reply.
Originally Posted by Koloe
My mother's response to rude people back in the baby bust 70's (had 7 kids) was that she was making sure she was supporting the Social Security System. Need lots of worker bees for that to keep working
My favorite answer when people say something stupid like, "Don't you know what causes that?" is to say, "Yeah, and it's a lot of fun!"
We have three girls now (almost 7, almost 5, and 2 years), and I am ready for #4. Unfortunately, my husband has developed anxiety/depression very recently, is probably going to change jobs, and we may be moving our family to another state next year (to be closer to grandparents). Although I know intellectually that it is not a good time to get pregnant, emotionally I still wish we could TTC next month. I'm sure when we are ready for number four, everyone will assume it's because we're trying for a boy, and in a way that will be "okay." So stupid! Luckily, we are Catholic and know many other Catholic families with "large" families -- by choice!
One more thing -- It's so insulting when people assume that you know nothing about birth control if you have more than two kids. We use Natural Family Planning, so we know when we can and cannot conceive, which makes me more informed than most about fertility! (I can't imagine using anything else)
Michelle, married to Jay for almost 10 years!
SAHM to my three girls
We are hopefully close to knowing if no 4 has chosen now to come or not and we have been talking about it for a while now so that people don't go off the deep end with remarks when we are jumping for joy, but I don't know if it will work!
Our neighbours are always asking when we are moving and saying that they don't know how we 'manage'. I always say that the children don't take up much space when they are asleep so I'm not worried.
I have 2 in school and dd at home with me as she's only nearly 3 so I people think she is my only child when we are out, then get a shock if they see us all out together or I mention that there are two more! Then I get 'You don't look old enough to have a 12 year old' I'm 32 and *still* only 5ft tall so they just don't get it
Momma to K ('01), E ('03) and A ('07)
Proud Gestational Surrogate to N (15/01/15)
I plan on having at least one more, and then in a few years adopting one or two sibling groups....so about 12 sounds good to me!!
When people tell me I have my hands full I just say "Yup, and I love it!"
I own two tshirts: one says "Birth control is for sissies" the other says "Yes, I know what causes this...and I like it!"
My grandmother once asked me if I knew what caused it, and I answered, "well, we're narrowing it down, so far missionary position causes it, doggie style causes it, as does doing it on the kitchen counter...."
We also homeschool.
I love my kids and my life, and, obviously, my hubby. LOL
Wife to 1, Mom to 7 (with one on the way), homeschooler, knitter, painter, writer, moderately crunchy, libertarian/anarchist Orthodox Christian
Jen 47 DS C 2/03 04/29/08/ DD S 10/28/09 DH Bill '97.
mighty-mama and her sister Kundalini-Mama
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