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#2761 of 2776 Old 06-10-2009, 09:46 PM
 
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Thanks Shay for the help. I am thinking of getting her the holistic parenting book because it seems pretty good and maybe get her the baby book too as a reference.

I just bout the Holistic parenting book it doesn't look very long either.
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: I thought I'd already bragged on him on all of my regular threads. He's a redhead, so he's tHRH (the Hot Red Head). I'm absolutely smitten with him, he's fantastic. Everything about him thrills me endlessly, and he feels the same way about me (which rawks! Rawr! . He's met the kids, who adore him and he loves them, too. Bean's actually called him Dad twice. It's hilarious. Bella says his hair is "owange," or that he has a "fi-uh head." : She likes him a lot, but Bean and BooBah are insane about him-- so much so that yesterday when I got back from the farm BooBah said, "Oh, hi mom. Where's tHRH?" "Well I didn't bring him." "Why not? You should go pick him up!" "He has to work tomorrow." "So when does he finish work?!" and so on. It's adorable.

He's fantastic. I really can't say enough wonderful things about his hotness, which has featured prominantly in my Facebook statuses for about two months now. At least. I'm so deliriously happy. :

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, a new love. Those are awesome! I love, love, love being married, but I often miss that warm feeling that comes along with a new crush!!!!

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O and congrats on becoming a mod hope I am not too late.
Oh, I didn't even notice until Rianne mentioned it. CONGRATS, don't ban me! LOL

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I sometimes battle with the program I am in now and a literature degree but I just take a bunch of lit classes and read by off.

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Oh, I didn't even notice until Rianne mentioned it. CONGRATS, don't ban me! LOL
Thanks!!! Very interesting being on the other side.

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Hey ladies,

I am just so sick over my brother's impending wedding at the end of the month. I am so vehemently against it after some things that transpired this past week, but told him that if he really wanted me to, I would still be a member of the bridal party. Well, he still wants me to be a part of it, so I will have to put on a happy face. I wish I was happy for him.

Part of me feels guilty for telling him that I didn't he should get married and that I don't support the union, but the better part of me knows that it was important to tell him that I don't think this "woman" is worthy of him. It's too long to get into, but basically she's verbally abusive and disrespectful toward him. This is all just so hard to watch.

I know no one expected my husband and I to really last. But despite how hastily things occured for us and how much we struggle financially, our home is filled with love honor and respect.

Why would you tell your future spouse, even in anger, that you weren't too worried about the marriage anyway because it was just a civil ceremony so you didn't care if you had to get it annulled? I am just flabbergasted at her (and his) behavior. They are a volatile mix and I just feel so badly for the both of them and the child involved. Sigh. Just needed to vent. Thanks.

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That is sad madsommer. I know a couple who have a marriage like the one that your brother is about to enter. They have been married for 15 years, and at best the whole household is dysfunctional.

Has your brother sought out any type of relationship counseling?

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That is sad madsommer. I know a couple who have a marriage like the one that your brother is about to enter. They have been married for 15 years, and at best the whole household is dysfunctional.

Has your brother sought out any type of relationship counseling?
When I had talked to my brother a few days ago, the day of the fight, he said that he suggested it to her and she refused. Maybe she changed her mind. I hope that they do follow through and get some counseling, as it's paramount to them creating any sort of functional relationship - though I don't think it ever will be.

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Friends, how are you all doing? I'm so happy to see new faces and old friends.

It has been sometime. We are all here. It has been a very interesting couple of months. We are wrapping up our formal school year at home and are ready to start our summer adventures. This year we are hoping to camp in northern Virginia, NY, and in Maine. My dh is happy we are getting back outdoors.

Both of my boys are good, I realized last week my 2 year old is going to be 3 in a few weeks and that my 8 year old has become very wise. In sad news, my sister left her newborn baby with me. And we have been taking care of her since then. My husband had his doubts (as did everyone else) that she was going to come back for her, and asked me to find away to tell her to comeback for her daughter. I see his rationale, he didn't want to become attached to this baby and then have my sister come and take her back in x months are x years. Unfortunately, my sister does have a history of doing these things (leaving her children with others instead of raising them herself). It makes me sad knowing we are giving the baby back to such uncertainty. This baby has been long enough to have thought we are her parents and my kids are her brothers.

I'm still around on Facebook so throw me a PM and we can catch up and keep in contact there.
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It has been sometime. We are all here. It has been a very interesting couple of months. We are wrapping up our formal school year at home and are ready to start our summer adventures. This year we are hoping to camp in northern Virginia, NY, and in Maine. My dh is happy we are getting back outdoors.

Where in Maine? I live up here (Southern Maine) so I'd love to hear your camping plans. We are hoping to go camping as well but was thinking a little place in New Hampshire.

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Friends, how are you all doing? I'm so happy to see new faces and old friends.

It has been sometime. We are all here. It has been a very interesting couple of months. We are wrapping up our formal school year at home and are ready to start our summer adventures. This year we are hoping to camp in northern Virginia, NY, and in Maine. My dh is happy we are getting back outdoors.

Both of my boys are good, I realized last week my 2 year old is going to be 3 in a few weeks and that my 8 year old has become very wise. In sad news, my sister left her newborn baby with me. And we have been taking care of her since then. My husband had his doubts (as did everyone else) that she was going to come back for her, and asked me to find away to tell her to comeback for her daughter. I see his rationale, he didn't want to become attached to this baby and then have my sister come and take her back in x months are x years. Unfortunately, my sister does have a history of doing these things (leaving her children with others instead of raising them herself). It makes me sad knowing we are giving the baby back to such uncertainty. This baby has been long enough to have thought we are her parents and my kids are her brothers.

I'm still around on Facebook so throw me a PM and we can catch up and keep in contact there.
Hey there. It has been a long time. I am so sorry to hear about your niece. Can you all get custody or guardianship since your sister has essentially abandoned her? It is very nice to 'see' you.

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Hi all! I've been lurking. all is well over here. Baby will be 6 months in a couple weeks and I can't wrap my mind around that quite yet. My MIL came to visit for about 3 weeks and it was wonderful--I ate well : No one told me breastfeeding would make me hungrier than pregnancy! DS is in the 90th percentile for weight and height, so my body is working hard. I'm still figuring out how to manage things, I guess--cooking, cleaning up, keeping baby happy, not going nuts in here--but everyday I feel like I have a better handle on it all. We're going to Houston this summer, in August, to see my father and stepmother and my sister, her husband, and their 3 little ones will be there at the same time so I am super excited. And I'm cloth diapering the baby, which I am happy about, and my sister has ended up switching to cloth because my niece had a rash that wouldn't quit. too bad about the rash but pretty cool that now things are sorted out with the cloth. I think I'm going to finally break down and get a stroller. It's going to be a bit hot for the Moby, I think, and this boy is almost 20lbs as it is.

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I don't blame anyone for wanting a stroller with a 20 pound baby. Then again, my kids don't generally get to 20 pounds before 18 months; In fact, of the four only Bear has managed to hit 20 before a year. Bella actually managed to triple her birth weight by 15 months, but she was still only 18 pounds. Do what you've got to do, and save the sling for shorter trips & around the house. Oh, and back carries are, in my experience, much easier with heavier babies. (I have no idea how you carry your little dude, but I'm assuming it's round front because that's what most of us do.)

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Hi, everyone

I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it's time to start a new thread so we can keep our server happy. If someone can please start the next thread, that would be great. Thanks so much and sorry for the inconvenience!

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Here's the link.

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Thank you!!!

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Wow! What a long thread!
And I hate to admit it, but I am really sorry to see this thread go!
Onward to the new thread!

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