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#481 of 792 Old 01-25-2010, 03:07 PM
 
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Wow, that is me.

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Welcome, JessicaA622

Beautiful~Life - What kind of classes are you taking? Just curious.

DD is home sick today. I think it's related to dairy allergies/sensitivities since there is a definite pattern of her ingesting dairy and then getting sick. So we are stuck at home today. But so far, she's just watching TV.

I am also wondering how extroverted DD may or may not be. From my observations this summer, I had thought that she was very extroverted, but lately she's seemed more introverted. Part of this could be that she's been experiencing a lot of anxiety lately. Or maybe it's because she's away from me 3 days a week at the Sudbury school. But I don't think that's meeting her social needs very well.

DD seems good at going into new social situations and meeting people as acquaintances, but she seems unable to make lasting friendships which is worrisome to me. I feel like she needs more support than she gets there. She also says that the homeschool kids were nicer in general.

We don't plan to continue at the same school next year so I'm not sure where that leaves us. Probably back to homeschooling which means I'll need to carefully plan things so that I don't get overwhelmed like last year. I have asked DH to help me plan the homeschool activities, even if I am the one who usually has to implement them. My thinking is that part of what I have trouble with is the planning and contacting people. Maybe if DH can take charge of part of that, I would feel less stressed out.

We're taking DD to a therapist tomorrow to try to help her with the anxiety. I'm hoping that intervening now will help her learn to cope in more appropriate ways. I have a history of panic attacks and still wrestle with OCD and depression at times, and I think that if my parents had been able to help me out earlier on, it would've helped me a lot. Instead, being the introvert of the family and never wanting to make waves, I ended up getting kind of lost in the shuffle of everyone else's business and problems.

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Hi everyone! I can't believe I've been an MDC member all this time and I have never joined a tribe. Well the time has come and this is the perfect place. But will anyone notice this introvert in sea of other introverts? I never really do get noticed in real life, not that I want to be the center of attention, but I do find the difference b/t me and the other moms I know irl to be glaring. They are all very chatty...me, after all the mommy small talk is over, I really find I'm at a loss for what else to say. I like talking about metaphysics, spirituality, anthropology, art, foreign travel. It's hard to make conversation about those topics to most people. I don't really have any really close friends (and I'm OK with that). I have one friend I keep in touch with from all the previous situations I've had in my life (school, college, work) and we only talk maybe once a month, sometimes less than that, and I would never really pour out my soul to her. DH on the other hand, is an extrovert, to the nth degree, he gains energy from being around people. He needs recharging by being around people (sometimes it annoys me b/c he'll hang around w/people he himself will make fun of later, simply b/c no one else is available at the time to fill the "void"). I'm an info addict and a perfectionist, so therefore will research and research with very little action to show for it. But I've gotten to a place at last that I feel acceptance of who I am, and overall and pretty happy with my life.

Hope to be commiserating with all you ladies alot from now on.
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Hi, mommyshoppinghabit I see you!

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I'm an info addict and a perfectionist, so therefore will research and research with very little action to show for it.
Well, that certainly sounds rather familiar.

Your preferred conversation topics sound great to me. I wish I could talk about those things with my family of origin because they seem to want to call and talk a lot but they only want to talk about how everyone is doing.

My mom tried to relate to me about books once, but then seemed annoyed because I read almost exclusively non-fiction and she wanted to bond over novels. On the rare occasion that I do read fiction, I prefer literary novels or a good sci-fi once in a while. Not her cup of tea, so that ended up being a no-go.

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I'm married to an extreme extrovert, too, and even after 25 years he complains about me not being "social". I've tried to explain to him that the difference between Es and Is is mainly an energy issue, not an "I hate people" issue: extroverts gain energy from interacting with people and introverts gain energy from being alone, in their heads. This is probably the root of my problem with houseguests. Having to be "on" and chatty ALL. THE. TIME. After coming home form work - and I'm a receptionist, so by the time I get home, I've had enough of being "on" - I really need some space. My husband is the one with his phone stuck on his ear constantly. I rarely make phone calls, and only if I have to. I get tired of the sound of my own voice. And like others have said, the topics most people want to discuss are so boring - shopping (I hate shopping), details about what they did today, things that happened 50 years ago to their ex-neighbor's sister's cousin that I never met, what they had for lunch. It makes me want to scream!!!!
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And like others have said, the topics most people want to discuss are so boring - shopping (I hate shopping)
Well, obviously from my name, you can tell I do like shopping (but that name was chosen many moons ago and I don't really indulge in it as much), and I sometimes like to talk about shopping, but even with a topic as near and dear to my heart, I find it hard to make conversation with it irl. Like I find that people, no matter what the conversation topic is, either like to claim all-knowing supreme knowledge and therefore jump down your throat if you don't agree or absolute ignorance and a happiness with that ignorance, nothing in between, like from the point of view of someone who'd like to find out more.
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Well, obviously from my name, you can tell I do like shopping (but that name was chosen many moons ago and I don't really indulge in it as much), and I sometimes like to talk about shopping, but even with a topic as near and dear to my heart, I find it hard to make conversation with it irl. Like I find that people, no matter what the conversation topic is, either like to claim all-knowing supreme knowledge and therefore jump down your throat if you don't agree or absolute ignorance and a happiness with that ignorance, nothing in between, like from the point of view of someone who'd like to find out more.

Talking about shopping is fun while you are shopping. Sometimes I'd like to go shopping with a friend. I usually end up on my own. I like thrift shopping best.

I have found myself friends with people IRL who like to debate. They do (for the most part) seem to be interested in finding out different points of view, but in the end if they are not swayed, they will usually agree to disagree. I usually like to listen to the debates but don't often add to them. I always feel like I can't make my points well orally. I need to write them down to make any sense, especially if I feel strongly about something.

Most of these debating friends are part of a larger group and are what I would consider casual friends. I only have a few close friends and I don't even see them very often. I can usually hold my own in a conversation if it's one on one or maybe with 2-3 other people. More than that and I usually just get lost in the crowd. I tend to be polite, and not wanting to interrupt, I often lose my train of thought by the time there is a break in the conversation. Or the conversation progresses enough by the time I've figured out what I want to say that it's no longer relevant.

I am a 40 year old unschooling, belly dancing, artist-mama of one almost 8 year old. I just had brain surgery and blogging.jpg about it a bit because it's just so surreal.
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I just read an article on introverts on a website for support of gifted individuals.

http://www.sengifted.org/articles_so...orgotten.shtml

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I'm very much like your description of yourself, Starflower. I am also better at getting my thoughts out in writing, holding my own in a conversation if there are 3 or less, not wanting to interrupt, waiting too long...preferring thrift shopping.

And now I can't think of anything else to say.
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I just read an article on introverts on a website for support of gifted individuals.

http://www.sengifted.org/articles_so...orgotten.shtml
Great link!

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You ok, Starflower?
Missed your post, but just wanted to offer some just in case.

Hope all is well...

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Thanks. I am mostly OK. I've been sick with a nasty cold which I'm trying to keep at bay because I have allergies and asthma which makes colds much more threatening. So far, I'm getting better but I didn't sleep well so I am tired.

I spent much of my time this weekend online throwing emails back and forth to deal with a sensitive situation that came up on the board I am on. Had to diffuse a situation that was very frustrating. Lots of damage control stuff. Still don't have the issue that started it resolved, but it will get there.

And I've been wondering if I even really want to be on the board or not. The stuff I had to do this past couple of weekends was because of my secretarial position. I'm just not sure if I should serve out my entire board term (2 more years after this June!) and just not be secretary. Or if I just want to quit and try to deal with life here.

I've been in this quandary about my commitments for some time now, but it really all just kind of blew up this weekend. The good news is that I've heard a lot of good feedback from other board members on how I handled things.

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Aw, hugs. I don't enjoy those kinds of situations which is probably why I shy away from doing them.

I hope it all works out. I don't post too, too much, but I'm always reading and just wanted to offer some hugs since your deletion was out of character.

And I hope you feel better!!!! Sending healing and sleep vibes your way.

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Starflower, hugs and

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Thanks for the hugs, HappilyEvrAfter and Mich.

I do type things up and not post them fairly often, but I don't know if I've every posted anything then deleted it before. That's definitely out of character. I tend to overthink everything I post so just posting and letting it go is pretty rare for me. Don't know if that's an introvert thing or an OCD thing or some warped combo I've got going on.

I am just really having trouble figuring out where I want to put my energies. Plus I don't like to go back on my word - like quitting the board after one year, but it's beginning to feel more like a sentence than a term, so maybe that's a huge clue right there. And most people would likely be understanding.

I think the part that makes it hardest is that I feel inadequate. There are other moms on the board who are much busier than I am, yet they manage to do this. (Two of them are introverts.) Another woman, whom I respect, quit after one year because she needed more time to deal with her kids. I relate a bit there - DD is going through a very rough time lately and I need to have the energy to deal with everything. But then I feel bad because I am a SAHM who rarely seems to ever get anything done. But the other mom who quit after one year is a single working mom with 2 kids. I only have one kid and I can hardly handle it. I guess I just keep comparing myself to other people which is not fair.

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Comparing yourself really isn't fair. Of course, none of us can really resist. Can you find another job to do that will actually make you happy? It sounds like this causes you more stress than happiness.
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LucyRev - You are right that it causes more stress than happiness. This is something I have been evaluating with all my activities lately. And I have started saying "no." Last month, I was set to start teaching private art lessons again to my friend's SN grown daughter. I decided it was just too much stress. I don't like teaching anyway, and the special needs make it even harder to figure out what works. I decided to cancel on her. It was a hard decision, but I felt very relieved after I told her.

I decided today that I am going to leave the board. My DD is having some difficulties and I really want to have my priorities straight. The board work is too draining and stressful. It gets in the way of life and my art time. If it were a paid job, I'd just leave. So it seems silly to stay in a position that is completely volunteer when I hate it.

I have not told the president yet. It's kind of a tricky time right now because we are trying to hire a new minister so I kind of want to wait things out at least until we find out if we can make an offer to the candidate or not. (Dependent upon funds.) I will talk to the pres in the next couple of weeks.

The trick will be to say "NO" anytime someone asks me to join a committee or such. I am going to give myself a timeline and just let people know that I am not available for anything for at least that long. (I'm thinking a year or two.)

I will continue my one activity which I find meaningful and refreshing and a place where I can grow: the choir. Other than that I will be off limits. I really need to focus on myself, my DD and my relationship with DH.

Today was a good day though I am glad to have some down time finally. DD didn't want to go to the demo school today, she wanted to be with mom. So we blew off "school" and I spent the afternoon with my DD at the kids' museum near here. We played together a lot and it was noisy and fun, but not too busy. But I was definitely ready to chill when I got home. I didn't get to, but I was ready.

Even though this school is compatible with our unschooly philosophies, I just don't think it's a good fit for DD. She needs more support. I'm pretty sure we're going to end up homeschooling again. So I am definitely going to have to work with her to find our best compromise between introverted and extroverted activities to keep us both sane. Luckily, she's a reading maniac, so I can probably get in some quiet time every day.

OK. Lots of for the introvert thread. I'll sign off now.

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I may have to get this book. I often feel very overstimulated when around people. I prefer being home watching a good tv show or lying in bed reading a good book than going out shopping or whatever.

Since having my son 5 years ago, I feel even more introverted. We don't spend time with other parents at all except for an autism meetup group once a month. We both prefer to just stay home. In fact, during the week I never go anywhere except to get him from the bus stop. I'm totally happy being home.

My ex-husband is a total extrovert. He was also talking about this, doing that, going here and there, always planning some new business, blah, blah, blah. Drove me insane. We finally divorced. Thank god.

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I may have to get this book. I often feel very overstimulated when around people. I prefer being home watching a good tv show or lying in bed reading a good book than going out shopping or whatever.

Since having my son 5 years ago, I feel even more introverted. We don't spend time with other parents at all except for an autism meetup group once a month. We both prefer to just stay home. In fact, during the week I never go anywhere except to get him from the bus stop. I'm totally happy being home.

My ex-husband is a total extrovert. He was also talking about this, doing that, going here and there, always planning some new business, blah, blah, blah. Drove me insane. We finally divorced. Thank god.
Lilypie. Are you referring to the Highly Sensitive Person book or to one of the introvert books? I fit into the category of HSP and I don't like going to the mall because it's just too much stimulation.

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I just ordered The Highly Sensitive book from amazon. I have heard good things about it on here and I am looking forward to reading it. I am def. highly sensitive in addition to being an Introvert.

Anyone still struggling with fully accepting yourself as an Introvert? I have just had sooo many negative and embarrassing comments from people over the years about how quiet I am, how shy I am, how I never talk, asking me if I am okay, if there is something wrong with me etc. It has made it so hard for me to have self confidence because ever since I was little I was made to feel like a freak show for how quiet and shy I am. The funny thing is I have a great sense of humor, am intelligent and feel like I am interesting. People just never take the time to get to know me.

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I'm interested in reading the Introvert Advantage book.

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^it is really good! So many parts of the book made sense to me and make me think hmm so that is why I am...etc. It is a great book to read if you are an Introvert and have always wondered why you are the way you are. Growing up I was always made to feel like I was weird and different. One Mom of kids I babysat even went as far to ask my Mom if I was okay emotionally because I never talked. That stuck with me for years and made me feel like such a freak.

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I'm thinking about taking on some part time work now but my introversion has definitely not served me well in the career prospects. First of all, it's been seven years since my last job and I have not kept in touch w/anyone from any of the jobs that I have held. Heck, I don't keep in touch w/anyone except my immediate family. I know it's pretty easy to track people down in this day and age, but I feel so embarrassed to under the guise of just socializing when I'm really bad at that and really am doing it for a reference. My relationships with all my previous bosses never really end great either, not bad, just not great, again probably b/c they see me as being "cold" (one of my previous bosses actually went so far as to say that "other people told her" that I was cold). Soo, what are the job options for someone w/no references who doesn't need to earn a whole lot of money (say mabye $1000/month part time?), and really doesn't have a strong social network?
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I'm thinking about taking on some part time work now but my introversion has definitely not served me well in the career prospects. First of all, it's been seven years since my last job and I have not kept in touch w/anyone from any of the jobs that I have held. Heck, I don't keep in touch w/anyone except my immediate family. I know it's pretty easy to track people down in this day and age, but I feel so embarrassed to under the guise of just socializing when I'm really bad at that and really am doing it for a reference. My relationships with all my previous bosses never really end great either, not bad, just not great, again probably b/c they see me as being "cold" (one of my previous bosses actually went so far as to say that "other people told her" that I was cold). Soo, what are the job options for someone w/no references who doesn't need to earn a whole lot of money (say mabye $1000/month part time?), and really doesn't have a strong social network?
If you don't have any contacts and don't want to have to network, you might consider a temp agency. Some of them have jobs which become permanent. Or some people like the flexibility of temping. But it can also be difficult having different people to work for all the time.

I have not had a full time job I liked since I moved here in 1998. I quit working in 2003 when my DD was born. By then, I had gone to part time work for a homecare agency for seniors. (This was not a temp agency - it was a full-on senior care business.) It was non-medical care. I chose my own hours and I got to meet clients first to see if we were a good fit. I had 3 regular clients and then I subbed once in awhile.

I like old people so it was interesting because most of the contact was one on one with the clients, in their homes, just basically helping them out. Part of the job was actually keeping them company, but I usually let them talk a lot. A couple of them were really fascinating people with very interesting histories. It didn't pay a lot, but the hours were flexible. I've considered going back to doing this part time now that DD is older, but I am kind of nurtured out right now and I really want to be able to focus on my art.

About the "cold" comments: I also have had the comments about my personality. I worked in retail for awhile (very draining and I hated it) and was told I was too volatile - the phrase the manager used was "hot or cold" - to change to a position where I'd be out of sales and in display design. He didn't seem to get that the display position would've been so much easier for me to do consistently since I'd be doing something I enjoyed, had experience in and it had limited customer interactions. He didn't even tell me in his office, I had to keep hounding him and then he just blurted it out on the floor in a very accusatory tone. I felt like he'd attacked me personally. My brain locked up and I couldn't even tell him why the other position would work for me because I could understand the hot/cold thing in regards to sales.

After that, I dropped to part time, then lost most of my hours and just quit. The place was not run well. They ended up going out of business. Guess it wasn't just me being too hot or cold......

In any case, I want to be an artist. But I hate schmoozing and all. I am still trying to figure out how important the business end of art is for me, or whether I should just do it because I love it and if stuff sells, then great. I'm leaning toward the latter for now, then if things take off, I could go from there.

I wonder if there are very many introverts who are successful in running their own businesses. Every time I read about business, it just seems like a ton of networking and I hate doing that.

Has anyone read any books that talked about introverts and business and how they make it work?

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In any case, I want to be an artist. But I hate schmoozing and all. I am still trying to figure out how important the business end of art is for me, or whether I should just do it because I love it and if stuff sells, then great. I'm leaning toward the latter for now, then if things take off, I could go from there.
Me too! I'm really creative and am never lacking in inspiration (at least my bosses used to recognize that) but I have no training so would need to take some classes at least to learn how to handle different materials, on top the daunting networking thing.
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mommyshoppinghabit - Do you like taking classes to learn about new art mediums? I think that part is really fun. I attended a week-long sculpture workshop a little over a year ago and it was so wonderful! I have since realized that ceramic is not my medium of choice, though, so now I am trying to figure out what other methods I can use. I do have a lot of practical training (and a lot of impractical training that made things harder thanks to the college I went to, but that's another rant and story).

I live in a large metro area and there are many opportunities to learn more practical, hands on art stuff here. (If you have the money, which we no longer do )

When we bought this house, half the reason we chose it was for the oversized detached garage which was supposed to be my studio. But DH was laid off two weeks after we moved and I had to get work. Then after a couple more years, I went to the part time job with the seniors and was getting my studio in place - again. Then I got pregnant and couldn't work due to a difficult pregnancy.

Fast forward a few years and I tried once again to get my studio up and running. Then rats got into our garage and destroyed many of my supplies. (They actually ate oil paint sticks.)

Now I am trying to focus on how I can realistically work out there when it's cold and the temps are unstable. We don't have the cash to put in a decent heating system. I also need better ventilation in there.

I have developed allergies and sensitivities to certain materials, too, so I have to be very careful. Ideally, I would like to work on sculpture part time and flat work part time. I do think I am slowly working toward my goal, but often finances and being a parent gets in the way. I wouldn't trade being a mom, but it does make the art thing harder for me. And DD is pretty high needs and mostly extroverted so that's hard to balance as well.

I have read some books a while back, but all my art business training was before the internet became really big. I think a lot of stuff had changed.

Right now, I just need to find the balance in my life to get to where I have the energy to actually do my art regularly. I do mostly sculpture and drawing and mixed media/experimental. I work almost exclusively with the figure and faces. (Perhaps ironic since I don't like being around people all the time?)

What do you like to do? You can PM me if you want to talk art, too.

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I just ordered The Highly Sensitive book from amazon. I have heard good things about it on here and I am looking forward to reading it. I am def. highly sensitive in addition to being an Introvert.

Anyone still struggling with fully accepting yourself as an Introvert? I have just had sooo many negative and embarrassing comments from people over the years about how quiet I am, how shy I am, how I never talk, asking me if I am okay, if there is something wrong with me etc. It has made it so hard for me to have self confidence because ever since I was little I was made to feel like a freak show for how quiet and shy I am. The funny thing is I have a great sense of humor, am intelligent and feel like I am interesting. People just never take the time to get to know me.
Please let me know what you think of the HSP book. I did read it a few years ago and I had expected to like it better. I thought it was OK. I did join an HSP group for a short time. It was interesting but awkward: a group of 4 HSP introverts trying to have guided conversation. I think it could be useful, but I don't feel like it was what I was needing at the time. '


As for coming to terms with being an introvert? I have pretty much accepted that. But I can also fake the extrovert thing pretty well when needed. It's draining and awful, but I can hack it. (Retail and service jobs training, I guess.)

What I am having a bit of trouble with is finally admitting that I don't have a lot of energy. I am finally realizing that I have to choose more carefully which activities I am going to apply my energies toward, otherwise, I get worn out really easily. I think part of this is health related, but I also think being an introvert is a big part of my low energy equation. Not that I think all introverts have low energy. That's not it at all. It's just that having to live in an extroverted world and parenting an extroverted kid wears on me a lot.

So I guess in that way, I do have a bit of trouble accepting myself as an introvert. I am trying to stop comparing myself to others. When I do indulge in comparisons, I am trying to see if I am comparing myself to extroverts. If so, I immediately stop. But if I know the other person is an introvert, I have more trouble with the comparisons and wonder what's wrong with me.

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I'm thinking about taking on some part time work now but my introversion has definitely not served me well in the career prospects. First of all, it's been seven years since my last job and I have not kept in touch w/anyone from any of the jobs that I have held. Heck, I don't keep in touch w/anyone except my immediate family. I know it's pretty easy to track people down in this day and age, but I feel so embarrassed to under the guise of just socializing when I'm really bad at that and really am doing it for a reference. My relationships with all my previous bosses never really end great either, not bad, just not great, again probably b/c they see me as being "cold" (one of my previous bosses actually went so far as to say that "other people told her" that I was cold). Soo, what are the job options for someone w/no references who doesn't need to earn a whole lot of money (say mabye $1000/month part time?), and really doesn't have a strong social network?
I'm into my second week working at home for Lionsbridge.com as an internet ratings accessor. There's a thread about it in the WAHM section. I like that I'm able to work at home, choose when to work, and the work itself gives my brain exercise. You should be able to make $1000/month or thereabouts.

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