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I have only read two non textbooks this year; The Road by Cormac McCarthy and Midnight by Sista Souljah.

I hate to admit it, but I don't like reading with a child and husband about. I am a read until I get tired reading and if you interrupt me I will loathe you for a period of time type person. So, I don't read much.
I had too laugh because I am the same way, lets just say when I am deep into a book I tell dh to to dd to park...or else I am known for being on the toilet for 30 mins . LOL

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Here ya go. I apologize for the poor quality. I walked out and forgot my camera at home so these were taken with my cell phone. Still, I think you can see the beauty of the city. Ignore the random pics of my backyard. I couldn't figure out how to remove them from this album!

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Nice, but all I want to know is, What did you eat?????

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Nice, but all I want to know is, What did you eat?????
We ate at The Rusty Scupper. I had crab bisque and then the shrimp platter. It was soooo good.

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I really hope it was crab bisque rather than crap.

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I really hope it was crab bisque rather than crap.

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Oooh! I love AA Lit. I just finished a project with a press I interned for. I got to do the bibliography on a book being published next Spring on black intellectuals. It was a lot of fun and I learned a bunch too!
That is very cool, wiksty. I'm currently teaching a class on Contemporary Af-Am lit, and I am enjoying rereading the material.

Can I just laugh for a moment at some personal irony? So, at first, I told DH that I wanted to wait to TTC #1 so that the babe would be born after the spring 2010 semester is over. Then, he convinced me (as did you ladies) that we shouldn't wait. Well, that was two months ago, and he (who never travels for work) has had to TRAVEL for work for the past two months during the week that I am ovulating! Now this month rolls around, and guess what . . . he'll be out of town next week when I'm ovulating--again! So now the really funny thing is that if I get pregnant in August, guess when then baby will be due . . . after the spring 2010 semester!

I think the universe is trying to tell me something . . .
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I really hope it was crab bisque rather than crap.

I am sooo tired!

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That is very cool, wiksty. I'm currently teaching a class on Contemporary Af-Am lit, and I am enjoying rereading the material.

Can I just laugh for a moment at some personal irony? So, at first, I told DH that I wanted to wait to TTC #1 so that the babe would be born after the spring 2010 semester is over. Then, he convinced me (as did you ladies) that we shouldn't wait. Well, that was two months ago, and he (who never travels for work) has had to TRAVEL for work for the past two months during the week that I am ovulating! Now this month rolls around, and guess what . . . he'll be out of town next week when I'm ovulating--again! So now the really funny thing is that if I get pregnant in August, guess when then baby will be due . . . after the spring 2010 semester!

I think the universe is trying to tell me something . . .
DS was an August conception, but was born April 28! I am so glad that I did not begin scholl until the following year! Babies conceived in August/September are the best. No pregnancy during the summer!

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Jannah, sometimes I want to leave, but I have a feeling that if I left neither of us would look back. DH is a great person, and I truly believe that if he had a wife that wanted and required less he would be so much happier. This is not to say that I want the world, or that he wants someone with less passion or drive, but someone who would be happy with the basics that so many people spend their lives obtaining. Does that make sense. I often feel awful, because I inwardly berate him for not being who I think that he should be.





I think that my husband feels the same, but he is good at hiding emotions so I don't know how he feels, and of course he will not verbalize his thoughts, so I am in the dark. I will look into purchasing the book. Hopefully B & N will email a 20% coupon next week! :

I want to try an interactive counseling session, but he will not attend.

You are welcome! I might try the recipe this weekend. If I have time.
My husband is the same way (and from your self description we are a lot alike as well)! I didn't know (until reading the wonderful book) how to get through to him without making things worse. While we were separated I told him that he had to read it before he came home (or at least the first 50 pages). He bought it, read about 100 pages, lol, but changed so much I cannot believe he was only gone 37 days. I still haven't finished it (I gave birth to our second child 15 days after his return), but I have benefitted greatly and plan to finish soon. I def. think you should give it a look at least.

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Here ya go. I apologize for the poor quality. I walked out and forgot my camera at home so these were taken with my cell phone. Still, I think you can see the beauty of the city. Ignore the random pics of my backyard. I couldn't figure out how to remove them from this album!

http://s185.photobucket.com/albums/x165/thatpurplegirl/
That's your backyard?! Okay...I'm coming over

The pics of Baltimore were pretty too

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I had too laugh because I am the same way, lets just say when I am deep into a book I tell dh to to dd to park...or else I am known for being on the toilet for 30 mins . LOL
I need to learn that one...stash my summer reading in the bathroom bins!

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That is very cool, wiksty. I'm currently teaching a class on Contemporary Af-Am lit, and I am enjoying rereading the material.
WOW! That must be a ton of fun I'm taking a pedagogy course upon getting to UBalt so that I can teach freshman lit and such. How long have you been teaching?

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DS was an August conception, but was born April 28! I am so glad that I did not begin scholl until the following year! Babies conceived in August/September are the best. No pregnancy during the summer!
My daughters were born in July and end of March!!! I was hot and heavy.
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WOW! That must be a ton of fun I'm taking a pedagogy course upon getting to UBalt so that I can teach freshman lit and such. How long have you been teaching?
FOREVER! It seems crazy if I think about it. I've been teaching for 14 years. I started as a fresh-faced, first year grad student. I graduated from college in May and was in front of my own freshman comp class acting like I was teaching them something in August. I was 22; it was scary.

Nowadays, the job is a lot of fun (most of the time). Grading papers, however? Not so fun.

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According to one of those pregnancy calculators, if I get pregnant in August and go to term, the due date is May 15th. Then end of April would be fine as well. We don't finish the semester until the first week in May, but by April we are wrapping up and a sub would be easy to get. Of course, if I don't get pregnant right away, that's ok, too! It would be nice, however, to not have to suffer through the summer heat while pregnant.
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My husband is the same way (and from your self description we are a lot alike as well)! I didn't know (until reading the wonderful book) how to get through to him without making things worse. While we were separated I told him that he had to read it before he came home (or at least the first 50 pages). He bought it, read about 100 pages, lol, but changed so much I cannot believe he was only gone 37 days. I still haven't finished it (I gave birth to our second child 15 days after his return), but I have benefitted greatly and plan to finish soon. I def. think you should give it a look at least.



That's your backyard?! Okay...I'm coming over


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I need to learn that one...stash my summer reading in the bathroom bins!



WOW! That must be a ton of fun I'm taking a pedagogy course upon getting to UBalt so that I can teach freshman lit and such. How long have you been teaching?




My daughters were born in July and end of March!!! I was hot and heavy.
You are so welcome to come any time, especially when you move to Bmore!! However, I must admit I don't go out there often. Once I saw what lurked out there, it lost its charm

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It would be nice, however, to not have to suffer through the summer heat while pregnant.
Well, at least the upside is not having to wear too many layers. These days when I do venture outside, it's in as few clothes as possible (within decency laws of course ).


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Here ya go. I apologize for the poor quality. I walked out and forgot my camera at home so these were taken with my cell phone. Still, I think you can see the beauty of the city. Ignore the random pics of my backyard. I couldn't figure out how to remove them from this album!
Don't apologize, your backyard is NICE!
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You are so welcome to come any time, especially when you move to Bmore!! However, I must admit I don't go out there often. Once I saw what lurked out there, it lost its charm
I'm totally going to take you up on that offer

But...what made charm city so unappealing to you? I've gotta know... *nervous*
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I'm totally going to take you up on that offer

But...what made charm city so unappealing to you? I've gotta know... *nervous*

You are welcomed any time, seriously! I am only 60 minutes, at the most, from B-more. I've never lived in Charm City. When I met my man, he lived an hour south of the city and it was a central place for us to meet. It turned out, it was simpler for him to move this way vs me moving because of my private practice. I simply could not fathom the thought of re-establishing myself in another city. Both of us love Baltimore and visit as often as possible. In fact, I think we're going down next Saturday: I really want to go to the aquarium again!!!

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I birthed a little boy this morning.

6 lb 6 oz, 20 inches long, 10 fingers, 10 toes.

Will post more later when I can keep my eyes open longer....so tired but joyful.
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Congratulations!!!
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I birthed a little boy this morning.

6 lb 6 oz, 20 inches long, 10 fingers, 10 toes.

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I birthed a little boy this morning.

6 lb 6 oz, 20 inches long, 10 fingers, 10 toes.

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Congratulations!!!!

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to the world baby boy!!!!

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I birthed a little boy this morning.

6 lb 6 oz, 20 inches long, 10 fingers, 10 toes.

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Wow: Congratulations mama!!

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baby boy!! Congrats : enjoy your babymoon!!!

I think now that we know there's a baby we have to see pics.
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I birthed a little boy this morning.

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!WELCOME TO THE TRIBE LITTLE ONE!


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I birthed a little boy this morning.

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: Many congratulations!!!

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I birthed a little boy this morning.

6 lb 6 oz, 20 inches long, 10 fingers, 10 toes.

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Oh, congrats!!!! : : : : :

Welcome earthside, little one!! Welcome to mamahood, bajamergrrl!!! ::

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::: CONGRATULATIONS on your baby boy

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Ok, so there was talk about the withdrawal method on this thread. I can't remember if I responded in that conversation. Anyway, after Safiyyah's birth DH and I started using withdrawal.

Do you ladies who use withdrawal have intercourse? I ask because I'm ovulating and there was a deposit(YUCK) left right on the doorstep I didn't tell DH because I don't want to worry him, especially if there is nothing to worry about. I've heard about that those little swimmers can swim from the outside in, so I'm a little worried. Has anyone known anyone that got pregnant in this way?

I'm such a dope:. I need to call my OB and get my tubes tied.

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Ok, so there was talk about the withdrawal method on this thread. I can't remember if I responded in that conversation. Anyway, after Safiyyah's birth DH and I started using withdrawal.

Do you ladies who use withdrawal have intercourse? I ask because I'm ovulating and there was a deposit(YUCK) left right on the doorstep I didn't tell DH because I don't want to worry him, especially if there is nothing to worry about. I've heard about that those little swimmers can swim from the outside in, so I'm a little worried. Has anyone known anyone that got pregnant in this way?

I'm such a dope:. I need to call my OB and get my tubes tied.
Of course we have intercourse, otherwise we would not have to use the method!!! DH and I now only have relations about 2 to 4 times a month, but it is always around the time of ovulation or before menses. It is funny that he wants to have sexual relations when I am most fertile. I have had a few doorstep deposits and those did not result in a pregnancy. Are you opposed to the morning after pill?

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Of course we have intercourse, otherwise we would not have to use the method!!! DH and I now only have relations about 2 to 4 times a month, but it is always around the time of ovulation or before menses. It is funny that he wants to have sexual relations when I am most fertile. I have had a few doorstep deposits and those did not result in a pregnancy. Are you opposed to the morning after pill?
I haven't even gotten past this point "Do you ladies who use withdrawal have intercourse?" because I'm too busy laughing.

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Of course we have intercourse, otherwise we would not have to use the method!!! DH and I now only have relations about 2 to 4 times a month, but it is always around the time of ovulation or before menses. It is funny that he wants to have sexual relations when I am most fertile. I have had a few doorstep deposits and those did not result in a pregnancy. Are you opposed to the morning after pill?
I called my Dr office, but they left me on hold for so long: I'm not opposed to the morning after pill in some cases. In my case having a baby anytime soon poses a health risk, so....

Your DH may be reacting to signals that you are sending him when you are ovulating. When I'm ovulating I am a different woman, my husband actually pointed this out to me

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