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Old 02-23-2010, 07:16 PM - Thread Starter
 
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LoL . . . sis, who are we to pass any kind of judgment? I just hope that you (and your hubby) are okay and happy with it. I think new life is always a cause to celebrate--even if there are mixed feelings and stuff. This from the woman who wishes for just one more . . .

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Thank you Rootz . I guess I'm preparing myself for the comments.

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Jannah, while I'm very happy being DONE with four I can say that if resources permitted, I would probably at least think about more. It's your family, your life, and new people are nifty-- as Rootzdawta says, always a reason to celebrate. So right on.

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Jannah, I am happy for you!!!

So, what can of van will you all purchase????

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LoL . . . sis, who are we to pass any kind of judgment? I just hope that you (and your hubby) are okay and happy with it. I think new life is always a cause to celebrate--even if there are mixed feelings and stuff. This from the woman who wishes for just one more . . .
Absolutely this!

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Thank you ladies . I'm going crazy over here because my Dr can't see me until the 11th. So I made an appt to see her partner on the 6th. I've been feeling movement. This month I had what I thought was a menses. Now I'm wondering how many months this went on. If I go to the Dr and they tell me that I'm 4 months I'm going to faint.

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congratulations! I agree with the other ladies--it's a new life coming to join you all. just do the best you can to take care of yourself.

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Congrats Jannah!!!
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Please keep Jannah in prayer (surround her with kind thoughts). She went to the ER after experiencing dizziness and back pain.

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Thank you all. Went to the ER because of back pain and dizziness. I had a sono done and they didn't find a baby,only a sac. It could either be too early to have seen the baby or I could have a blighted ovum,which would explain the bleeding that I had. I'll know more on Saturday.

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How are you feeling today, Jannah?

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Feeling a little weak,still very moody and somewhat tired. I'm having cramping off and on,but nothing major. Can't wait until my Dr appointment on Saturday. Thank you for asking. How are you and the children?

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My teeth hurt very very much (I can't eat solid food at all anymore), but my friends are incredible and my children are as amazing and beautiful as ever. I had the most incredibly fun weekend, and a wee portion of it actually showed up on YouTube (I posted a link on my Facebook page). That's the back of my head at the very beginning of part one. We had a blast, I'm glad I went.

Take care of yourself, mama. I know that's easier said than done with six kids, but there are times when you have to rest. I'm curious-- is there something like Rosh Chodesh (first of the month, when women get time off) in the Muslim tradition?

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Ooooh,sorry to hear about your teeth. Hope it gets better soon. How long has this been going on?
I'll take a look at the link. it's good that you're still able to enjoy yourself. I've been going to bed early the past few nights. I'm just too tired to stay awake. We don't have anything similar to Rosh Chodesh. My husband does give me Wednesday early evening and Saturdays offs. When I was really moody he took care of the children after work for 4 days and gave me the weekend off. You know I was

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Does anyone know how I obtained the bold font tag line below senior member?

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Does anyone know how I obtained the bold font tag line below senior member?
Are you asking if one of us gave it to you?

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Are you asking if one of us gave it to you?
No. I am aksing how the line is obtained.

Am I able to discover the giver?

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It's your DDDC. CONGRATULATIONS

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It's your DDDC. CONGRATULATIONS
Um, No! Do not even say that about me (even thought I really want a second child) I am not a member of an DDC.

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Um, No! Do not even say that about me (even thought I really want a second child) I am not a member of an DDC.
LOL. Not DDC,DDDC Dirty Deed Done Cheap.

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Here is what DDDC's are http://www.mothering.com/discussions...l&titlesonly=0 its cute and fun.

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Feeling a little weak,still very moody and somewhat tired. I'm having cramping off and on,but nothing major. Can't wait until my Dr appointment on Saturday. Thank you for asking. How are you and the children?

I completely missed this. How are you?

Rynna, I hope you're feeling better as well.

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Gosh- I haven't been around in forever and I miss everything!
Jannah, congratulations!
I (of course) found out on FB. You just take care of yourself.

I'm now 37 weeks pregnant and tired as all get out. I'm ready to be done with this. I'm looking forward to giving birth again and having another little one around but boy, am I exhausted.

Now here's a question for any of you: are you a part of any mommy groups? Truth be told, I'm considering starting my own "multicultural" mommy group when the baby is a few months old and I need to have more mommy friends. In the 3 years I've been home with William, I have made very few (if any) connections. I'm fairly certain that part of this has to do with the fact that I'm a non-white mother living in a predominantly white area. My two closest mom friends, both Asian, feel the same as I do.

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Gosh- I haven't been around in forever and I miss everything!
Jannah, congratulations!
I (of course) found out on FB. You just take care of yourself.

I'm now 37 weeks pregnant and tired as all get out. I'm ready to be done with this. I'm looking forward to giving birth again and having another little one around but boy, am I exhausted.

Now here's a question for any of you: are you a part of any mommy groups? Truth be told, I'm considering starting my own "multicultural" mommy group when the baby is a few months old and I need to have more mommy friends. In the 3 years I've been home with William, I have made very few (if any) connections. I'm fairly certain that part of this has to do with the fact that I'm a non-white mother living in a predominantly white area. My two closest mom friends, both Asian, feel the same as I do.

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I tried to do mommy groups but as the only POC in a white area it just felt too awkward. Now that I work its less of an issue but I do wish I had been better able to connect with other Moms. I will say though that two women I met here in MDC have actually become friends of mine, they both have kids who are a little older than dd so they are less mommy buddies and more just friends. I do think it can be hard at times to connect when you are the family of difference. We used to do storytime and it was very much a clique

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Gosh- I haven't been around in forever and I miss everything!
Jannah, congratulations!
I (of course) found out on FB. You just take care of yourself.

I'm now 37 weeks pregnant and tired as all get out. I'm ready to be done with this. I'm looking forward to giving birth again and having another little one around but boy, am I exhausted.

Now here's a question for any of you: are you a part of any mommy groups? Truth be told, I'm considering starting my own "multicultural" mommy group when the baby is a few months old and I need to have more mommy friends. In the 3 years I've been home with William, I have made very few (if any) connections. I'm fairly certain that part of this has to do with the fact that I'm a non-white mother living in a predominantly white area. My two closest mom friends, both Asian, feel the same as I do.

Thoughts?
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A moms group sounds great. Have you looked into MOCHA Moms?

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Gosh- I haven't been around in forever and I miss everything!
Jannah, congratulations!
I (of course) found out on FB. You just take care of yourself.

I'm now 37 weeks pregnant and tired as all get out. I'm ready to be done with this. I'm looking forward to giving birth again and having another little one around but boy, am I exhausted.

Now here's a question for any of you: are you a part of any mommy groups? Truth be told, I'm considering starting my own "multicultural" mommy group when the baby is a few months old and I need to have more mommy friends. In the 3 years I've been home with William, I have made very few (if any) connections. I'm fairly certain that part of this has to do with the fact that I'm a non-white mother living in a predominantly white area. My two closest mom friends, both Asian, feel the same as I do.

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I was a part of various mom groups until Andrew entered school full time. Now that I work full-time in addition to attending school, his friends are mostly classmates.

I never wanted to be a part of all black or all white play groups, and happened to make friends with women of various nationalities. I will admit that if we lived in Atlanta we were generally one of two black families at play dates. Living in Houston has enabled us to have a wide range of friends. I would think that the experience in NYC is similar?

Maybe once you begin to look for schools for William and the baby, consider an International School. Most of the better private schools in Houston and Atlanta are majority White American, but the international schools have students from many different backgrounds. Out of thirteen children in Andrew's class, five are minorities.

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I'd like to attend this,but my son is having a day of Cultural Expression at his school. hope some others can enjoy this.

Hello All,

Last time it was inclement weather that postponed our event. This time its sun and fun! Come out and join the Mocha Moms of Brooklyn as we support Haitian Women for Haitian Refugees and Partners in Health and our families in a day of music, food, fun and a wonderful raffle.

We will be accepting donations to send to Haiti for the mothers and children who are surviving the devastation.

Lets enjoy the day together:

Saturday March 20 from 2-4pm at

Madiba Restaurant
195 Dekalb Avenue
Brooklyn, NY

Looking forward to seeing you all there!

Chana

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Yes! This totally is an issue for me. I went to several LLL meetings in this area and always felt kind of left out. Everyone had already formed their own groups and I just didn't feel that welcome (except by the LLL leader who was my LC). I really just felt like I stood out and people really didn't care to be that friendly.

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I do think it can be hard at times to connect when you are the family of difference.
Definitely. One of my friends, a Korean mom of a biracial son, told me she felt the same way when she went to a church mommy group. She just didn't feel that comfortable.

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