Are there any mamas out there, like me, who have very few to no friends. I have one friend, who I keep in contact with monthly, and that's it. And for me, no, inlaws don't count, because I hardly ever see them, except for mil. It's very hard for me to make friends, plus I'm shy, and don't trust people too easily. I also lost my best friend(my paternal grandmother) this past April, who was my absolute best friend. Geez I just wish I had a friend to talk to up close. Lol! My daughters talk me to death, but I need more adult convo. KWIM?
Gosh, Jenny, I'm sorry about that. You must have really been in anguish to try suicide at age 12. That's great that your dh is your best friend. Mine is not really the communicative type, so when I've needed to talk, I have usually talked to my sister. It's great having this online community. I am not the kind to like to go out a lot. I used to be, but I hated how I never got anything done at home. When I am home most of the time, things stay on more of a routine, which my youngest (3) really needs. It's kind of gotten to the point where I hate to go places. I don't think it's unhealthy. I am a homemaker, and my job is at home. I also have an at-home paying job. I really like being at home, and my youngest dd does too.
Thanks for the explanations to my questions. Gotta run! Today I actually am going somewhere. It's payday, and I have to go grocery shopping.
Thanks, Liz. I talk to my sister as well. I'm glad to have her even though we live 5000 miles apart. I like to stay home as well. We have made ourselves a nice little nest here and I think, "Why go anywhere?" But I still do, to get the girls out and about.
Originally Posted by frowningfrog
....Of all the threads I have started (cant remember how many) ..at least 3 or 4 of them I killed before they started...lol
Oh, I've had quite a few die, either because nobody responded to a new post I wrote or because I asked a question in someone else's post that seemed to cause it to die. At least that's how it looked to me!
Originally Posted by 3 Little Monkeys
Isn't that always the way it goes, the kids are absolute angels for other people and they save the rottenness for us. Just once I'd like to be on the receiving end of some of that sweet angelic behaviour
I haven't experienced the dichotomy myself much yet, mostly because ds appears to be an extreme introvert and barely talks to anyone else, but figure eventually I will. And when it happens, I know it will get old, but sometimes I almost long for it, just to prove to me that ds can interact with others besides dh and myself. I hope you get at least a hug or two from your dds still!
Originally Posted by mama4gals
But I'm confused by all these forums, sub-forums, threads, tribes, etc. How do the rest of you keep up with it all? For example, I was enjoying yesterday's chat with Sherri and others. Today I checked and didn't see any new posts. Then I was looking around tonight and found you were on other threads today. And there are lonely mamas, and outcast mamas, and thread-killing mamas. And what does it mean to subscribe to a thread? Do you have to be in a tribe? How many tribes can you be in? I know that's probably way too many questions for one post, but I was just wondering...
Liz
Liz, you don't have to subscribe or be part of a tribe to post to any thread. Just surf around a bit, find something that you are interested in and start posting
For instance, when I first joined, I was specifically looking for info on cloth diapers - so that forum was my first stop, then I got pregnant and found the pregnancy forum, and now there are due date club sub forums. There are forums for specific ages of children (ie. babes, toddlers, preschoolers, preteens, etc.) You can belong to as many tribes as you want to - just have fun.
This has been a great place for me, I've "met" so many interesting people. Funny to say, but one of the very best friends I've ever had in my life - I have never actually met face to face, we met here.
And there's never such thing as too many questions
Originally Posted by Pookietooth
I haven't experienced the dichotomy myself much yet, mostly because ds appears to be an extreme introvert and barely talks to anyone else, but figure eventually I will. And when it happens, I know it will get old, but sometimes I almost long for it, just to prove to me that ds can interact with others besides dh and myself. I hope you get at least a hug or two from your dds still!
I get lots of hugs from the baby (23 months) and if she's feeling jealous then I'll get hugs from the 4 yo, but my 10 yo (11 next week) only hugs me when she wants something.
My 4 yo is pretty introverted as well. When we go somewhere, she won't go play with the other kids, she's always off to the side playing by herself, or with her sister. My other two will throw themselves right into the middle of things though, it's nice to see that and I really wish I could get my 4 yo to interract more, hopefully it will get better when she starts school next year
Liz, just wanted to mention that it's possible you have PCOS if you've had multiple miscarriages and are overweight. PCOS is associated with hormonal imbalances, insulin resistance (pre-diabetic), infertility, and miscarriage risk. See www.pcosupport.org and www.pcosliving.org for more info (the second website is not exactly mainstream, or even alternative, so read it with caution -- it's kind of a sales tool for their particular tests).
Oh, wait, I just saw that you've already posted over at the living with PCOS thread for your dd -- how timely!
. Spent way too much money; what else is new? We are far from any good stores, so when I drive an hour to get to one, I tend to buy lots of food. And as I'm sure you nature mamas know, eating healthy is expensive.
Jennifer, thanks for the tip about PCOS. It's funny, while I was posting about my daughter on the PCOS thread, I was thinking, gee, I wonder if I have it? I've got a lot of the symptoms, plus my hair is falling out. I just chalked that up to old age, but it still worries me. I used to have waist length thick wavy brown hair. Now it's a little past shoulder length and thin. I guess I've got a lot to look into. I usually never go to the dr myself because I do enough of that with the children.
I'm just relieved that I didn't kill this thread (far from it!) and that there are so many other people who feel the same way I do. In reading some of your posts, I am wondering if my dd will be introverted like me or more like her daddy. She's only 5 months but I think I really need to start meeting some people who have similar aged kids so that she might have someone to play with one day.
Well I survived tonight!
I had my 3 girls, plus my two nieces!!
They were all VERY GOOD! Ages were
3, 3, 5, 5 and 7.
They all went to bed very well as well. My oldest daughter just went to bed just now. Whew! I am glad, I got the house done before she went to bed. Now I can relax! What is everyone else doing?????
Wow, sounds like you have your hands full! I'm cleaning up around here so I can go to bed and wake up tomorrow not being behind on everything already. The girls are just finishing up watching Little House on the Prairie. Boy does that show take me back! We used to watch it as kids, and the Waltons too. Am I the only one old enough around here to remember those shows?
I was watching Little House last night (by myself, after the kids wer asleep) and amazing my dh with my ability to recall every detail of the episode which I have not seen since I was a kid. Ooh, that Nellie Olson! I so wanted to be Laura when I was little and wished Michael Landon was my pa.
My dd had a play date last week and I stayed and chatted with the other girls mom for a little bit. We talked about how we have no time for friends and going out and doing girl stuff since we both WOH full time.
Originally Posted by HeartofaChild
Well I survived tonight!
I had my 3 girls, plus my two nieces!!
They were all VERY GOOD! Ages were
3, 3, 5, 5 and 7.
They all went to bed very well as well. My oldest daughter just went to bed just now. Whew! I am glad, I got the house done before she went to bed. Now I can relax! What is everyone else doing?????
wow...wow ...wow ..wow...is all I can say :LOL ..I surely would have run from the house screaming.. :LOL
Little HOuse....I used to watch that show all the time....grrr Nellie Olsen..shes so mean..I always wished that someone would just pop her one...
then they brought in that other girl when they all grew up....oh what was her name.....NANCY .thats it ..grrr to her to :LOL
What I did last night..
got the baby down about 8pm as usual..then I watched Vanilla Sky on Bravo..I love that movie ...dislike Toim Cruise but love the movie...
Baby woke up every time I left the room. cause the cat meows so loud..
woke up at 300am to cat scratching on the door went to let her know we wheer still here...she gets very lonely..but keeps us up all night if we let her in the room...then up at 730 this morning which was a treat since abby is usually up at 530am...
now we are on the 8 or 9th day of rain ..so cant go anywhere...AGAIN...
oh well at least our grass is very healthy and vibrantly colored green...
have a great day all
Hi everyone--I am a lonely mama too! Do you mind if I join you?
I've always been the quiet type in large groups, and it takes a while for me to get to know people. Once I feel comfortable, though, I can talk as much as anyone. I enjoy talking once I get going--it's just hard for me to get started. I moved to a new town a few years ago, and I'm not from the area to begin with, so I have had to start all over again from scratch. Although I have found some moms to go out with here and there, I don't have anyone I really consider a close friend. I go to a lot of activities with my ds, who is 2 1/2, so I feel like we are always busy, but somehow I am still lonely.
Most of the time I am happy being by myself. I work from home, and if not for ds, I would be thrilled to stay in and work on my own projects every day. I like to read, sew, and scrapbook. My son seems very outgoing, though--he loves to be outside and talks to everyone we meet. He knows the people at the grocery store, the bank, the post office, and just thrives on attention. I'm happy he's so happy, but some days it's exhausting!
I'm looking forward to getting to know all of you.
Welcome, Joyce! I'm like you, I love to stay at home. My oldest 3 all liked to go places, but now they're all in school, and the youngest is perfectly happy at home by herself. And since she is difficult to take places, we stay at home a lot. She is very spirited, and likes to do her own thing.
I to do not go out either...Id much rather stay here at home. I olny do errands but that is really only about 2 days per week...
Its getting cold out anyways ...
Hi ladies - I've been MIA all weekend, and my poor pregnant body is letting me know that I pushed it too hard :LOL
Friday night my oldest (11 this Wednesday) had a friend spend the night and I took the two of them, as well as my 4 yo and 23 mo to the High School Homecoming game. Ever sat in the grandstand with a toddler and a preschooler
We left after the halftime show - and it was already 9:30 at that point. I made the girls go to bed early because dd1 had a game Saturday and we had to be up early. They still drug it out until 11
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Saturday we went to the Jr. High for dd1's game. She's a cheerleader for the football team. It was the playoffs, and her team remains undefeated so they go to the championship this Saturday. After the game she went home with another cheerleader, who's mom offered to watch the two little ones so dh and I could go out by ourselves
We went to dinner - I HAD AN ADULT CONVERSATION!!!!!
:LOL Dd1 and dd2 spent the night with the friend so it was just dh, dd3 and me at home that night - it was so nice and quiet
Sunday, dh had a race in town (he races RC cars) so we loaded up and went to that. About 4 hours into it, just as dh was starting his final race, dd1 says she's got a migraine (they hit her so hard and so fast, poor kid) so I loaded up the kids and we came home - thankfully dh had driven himself. Dd was sick all night, and ended up staying home from school today because her stomach was still upset from throwing up all night (headache related - happens every time)
So today I had to get up and get 3 kids ready to go to town because I had an appt. with my chiro. He also did some massage work on dd's neck and shoulders, said that should help with the headaches. Had some shopping to do, got home with enough time to hunt down the kitty (who was hiding from the girls) and take her to the vet to have shots. Now all I have left to do is get dinner going, get kids intot he bathtub (they are outside playing in the dirt right now) and into bed and hopefully I can get some rest this evening.
Phew, that was one exhausting weekend - I hadn't realized I'd been so busy until I typed it all out :LOL
I'm a homebody too - I don't really do much with the kids except for our trips to the park or to go shopping, or to the mall to play, other than that we stay home quite a bit. It's just so tiring to go out with both of them, and with a new baby on the way, I just don't see myself going anywhere for a long long time. It's a good thing I have friends here or I'd be heading for the loony bin :LOL
I've been lurking on here. I'm a homebody at heart with just a few close mama friends. I am very picky about friends :LOL and not much energy latley for making new ones. just looking for support here I guess, since DH died I feel really alone in the world. thanfully I have my kids or I don't know what I'd do! being in a rural area on the border of mexico keeps me a bit isolated (which I like most of the time) but thankfully the internet keeps me sane as it's my main social outlet somedays!
April, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. How terrible. I see you have a brand new baby. Was she born before or after your husband died? I hope that wasn't too nosy of a question. I can only imagine your grief, and I want to send you lots of
. Sometimes I think I'm spending too much time on MDC, but I don't feel quite so alone anymore. I feel like I do have friends. Thank you ladies.
I have always had a difficult time making friends. I am a single mom to a wonderful 6 year old daught who has lived with me for the past 18 months. I have guardianship right now and will adopt eventually...legality matter. It can be very lonely and being single especially I wish I had friends to share things with like my daughter firsts, cute things they say, etc.
Rebecca
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