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Do you know the gender of the baby? Or it's surprise?
I have my ultrasound scheduled for the 12th, dh wants to find out the gender, but I want it to be a surprise this time. This is our last baby (#4) and I found out with all three of the girls so I thought it might be nice to wait until the birth this time. He can find out, but he can't tell me or anyone else then because his family can't keep a secret to save their lives. FIL would be teasing me about it every time he saw me and would eventually tell me whether I wanted him to or not and I don't want to find out that way. I've got issues with FIL, can you tell? :LOL
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When are you due?
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When are you due?
My doctor has my due date as March 1, but 1) his dates and mine are different and 2) I have yet to make it to my due date so I say this babe will arrive sometime in mid February
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I'm due with #4 (I have 3 boys) April 1st. Right behind you.
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Are you going to find out the sex of this baby? I've got 3 girls so we're hoping for a boy this time - but dh swears it's another girl
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Yes definately. I'm hoping for a girl but everyone who looks at my belly says boy. I hope to find out in a couple of weeks.
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Good luck with that - I hope you get a good look

Time for me to get little ones in bed. Have a nice night!
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My dh is like this, he can walk into a room and within 20 minutes he knows everyone's name and their freaking life story! Me on the other hand, I walk into a room and look for the nearest corner to hide : I'm not at all outgoing and have always been extremely shy. I make myself mad sometimes because of it.

LOL scary>>> :LOL
you and I could be the same person...

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little help...
I seam to be confused......
I havent really heard many of these terms being used in the threads to describe oneself.. I have never heard any of my friends say oh I am this and I am that...
You are prolly all gonna laugh at me what whatever right ..hehe...
what do people mean by crunchy and granola.
thanks...silly me
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crunchy/granola = natural

sometimes implies "hippie"

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LOL scary>>> :LOL
you and I could be the same person...

I knew I had a twin somewhere! :LOL

When I was in high school I used to go through a line at the store, or the drive thru or something similar and the cashier would say "weren't you JUST here?" I'd say no and they would say that someone who looked exactly like me had just been in there. It was weird, and I started to get a little freaked out about it after awhile :LOL
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little help...
I seam to be confused......
I havent really heard many of these terms being used in the threads to describe oneself.. I have never heard any of my friends say oh I am this and I am that...
You are prolly all gonna laugh at me what whatever right ..hehe...
what do people mean by crunchy and granola.
thanks...silly me
not silly at all - I was here for about 6 months before I felt confident enough to ask that question. It made sense though once someone explained it to me.
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LMAO this was for a different thread...lol
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Hey ladies-
Thought I'd jump in this conversation... not because I'm a mama, but because I'm a little bit lonely...
By way of introduction:
My name is Niccole, and I live on the North Shore of Massachusetts. I am not outwardly shy, but have few friends around here, and am always worried about looking foolish when I try something new. So, I don't really like doing things, like joining groups, alone. It took me ages to get up the courage to post on these boards, because I worried about sounding silly. My best friend lives about an hour away, and is busy with her own buisness, my one college friend is dealing with her own lonliness in Kentucky, (a bit far to travel). I don't really feel the need for daily updates and letter exchanges with either of these women, since once we call or get together, its like we were never apart, and I know that if I really need them, distance won't keep them away. However. I've lived here going on five years, and have no real girl friends in the area. The women I hang out with are the wives and girlfriends of my boyfriend's buddies (who he's known since highschool). I enjoy palling around with the guys, fit in really well with them, but can't get chummy with the girls. We no longer share the same interests (not that we ever really did) I've mostly lost touch with them as they've gotten married and started having babies. That's not because I dislike babies... but I don't really share the same views on child rearing. They mostly think that my ideas on Natural Parenting are quaint at best, and that I'll wise up once I have my own. Not quite the support group I'll be looking for, come my turn.

I think its interesting that I found this thread today, since I came into my house so very uhappy, needing the friends I haven't been able to make. I came home tonight fresh from a visit to my new primary care doctor, facing a confirmed diagnosis of Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome, and an overwhelming schedual of blood work, and ultrasounds, and nutritionists and endocrinologists, and medication changes... and my dear, sweet boyfriend who feels he has to fix everything, asked me "what's your plan". I couldn't answer, because how do you plan for any of that?? Who makes the contingincy plan for the unexplained blood pressure spike that panics your doctor, or the sheer terror that all the things your other doctors have been telling you not to worry about really ARE a problem, or the devistating possablility that you won't be able to have those beautiful, well adjusted babies that you so desperately want??? I didn't. And all I wanted to do was talk to my mom, but she was out with her friends and I had to leave a message...

Well. Wasn't planning that rant... thnk you for joining my pity party. I promise its over

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FrowningFrog- I don't live very far from you if you wanted a walking partner... we could compare book lists. Let me know when you are feeling better, and up for a stroll around the lake.
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Oh- and I really like Indian food too... Lamb Byriani is my favorite.

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I knew I had a twin somewhere! :LOL

When I was in high school I used to go through a line at the store, or the drive thru or something similar and the cashier would say "weren't you JUST here?" I'd say no and they would say that someone who looked exactly like me had just been in there. It was weird, and I started to get a little freaked out about it after awhile :LOL
:LOL :LOL
Wow !!...that is freaky. .Maybe someday you will run into that person..wouldnt that be even freakier...
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FrowningFrog- I don't live very far from you if you wanted a walking partner... we could compare book lists. Let me know when you are feeling better, and up for a stroll around the lake.[/QUOTE]



Welcome to the thread..It is nice to meet you.
that was so rude when them people said to you that you will come to your senses when you have children. Seriously some people are just plain mean.

As of right now I am pretty much home bound for at Least a few more weeks. My guys car has broke and we cannot afford to fix it so he is taking my car to go to work...grrrrrr...Its ok anyways I. We moved not to long ago and I am not happy with our set up yet so I can get some things done round here.
My aunt just had a baby 4 mo ago....(yes i am 31 yrs old and have a 4 mo old cousin) ..and she wants to walk to. Ill let you know when we will be heading over there, If we ever get there...ugh...its always something.
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Wow, I could have written most of your post.
I will try and catch up on the 10+ pages.
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I'm your friend Tammi - even if I do live 3000 miles away
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I see alot of Mass locations here. Where does everyone live in Mass? I'm in Florida now but lived in Cambridge, Allston, Brighton, Somerville, Amherst, Belchertown and Annisquam (Gloucester). (I hope I got them all.) I miss it sometimes.
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I see alot of Mass locations here. Where does everyone live in Mass? I'm in Florida now but lived in Cambridge, Allston, Brighton, Somerville, Amherst, Belchertown and Annisquam (Gloucester). (I hope I got them all.) I miss it sometimes.
I used to live in Somerville. I miss it too since that's where my family is.
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I haven't read all the other posts - but I'm definitely a lonely mama. I have one IRL friend who is close enough to visit, but she's moving next week and will be an hour away so there goes that option dh's "solution" to this problem is to tell me to go to work - ya there we go, let me work a menial job that I hate and basically make enough money to cover the cost of child care, and end up being more stressed out than I already am. All of my friends are here - dh calls them my "make believe friends"

I LOVE YOU, SHERRI!!! And I miss you too!!!
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Hello mamas!!!

Dropping by! As Ramadan started (I'm Muslim) won't be here that much! Will drop by next one month once in a while!!! I hope you guys have great time !!!
Trying to be a better muslim=better person this time around finally!
we'll still be here when you get back -
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Hello mamas!!!

Dropping by! As Ramadan started (I'm Muslim) won't be here that much! Will drop by next one month once in a while!!! I hope you guys have great time !!!
Trying to be a better muslim=better person this time around finally!

looking forward to your return
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I came home tonight fresh from a visit to my new primary care doctor, facing a confirmed diagnosis of Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome, and an overwhelming schedual of blood work, and ultrasounds, and nutritionists and endocrinologists, and medication changes....
Welcome, Niccole. I have PCOS, too. It's scary, isn't it? They know so little about it. There's a living with PCOS thread over in Health and healing that's for all women with PCOS, not just mamas. It's pretty quiet most of the time. http://www.mothering.com/discussions...highlight=PCOS My main advice is read everything you can get, make all your own food from scratch, and take lots of cod liver oil.

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Hi, I just got a pelvic ultrasound done this week on Monday. I am currently waiting for the results. I did also have a stomach ultrasound done as well previousily. They found a large cytsis on my kidney that requires further investigation by a specialist reguarding taking the kidney out or not. I am not that concerned I have had 3 major open heart surgeries so this is just a breeze considering what I have been through. But the wait is the hardest when you want to know what is going on with your health. So, I guess in the next week or so I will get a phone call from my family dr to come in and discuss the test results.
Wish me luck! Kate
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Hi, I just got a pelvic ultrasound done this week on Monday. I am currently waiting for the results. I did also have a stomach ultrasound done as well previousily. They found a large cytsis on my kidney that requires further investigation by a specialist reguarding taking the kidney out or not. I am not that concerned I have had 3 major open heart surgeries so this is just a breeze considering what I have been through. But the wait is the hardest when you want to know what is going on with your health. So, I guess in the next week or so I will get a phone call from my family dr to come in and discuss the test results.
Wish me luck! Kate
Wow Kate! I hope everything is ok! Good luck with it
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Hi, I just got a pelvic ultrasound done this week on Monday. I am currently waiting for the results. I did also have a stomach ultrasound done as well previousily. They found a large cytsis on my kidney that requires further investigation by a specialist reguarding taking the kidney out or not. I am not that concerned I have had 3 major open heart surgeries so this is just a breeze considering what I have been through. But the wait is the hardest when you want to know what is going on with your health. So, I guess in the next week or so I will get a phone call from my family dr to come in and discuss the test results.
Wish me luck! Kate


Seams like you sure have been through a lot. I hope that all is well with you, and wish you all the best.
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