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#1 of 88 Old 11-13-2007, 09:22 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Join our ranks! Make a pledge to our fellow mama-sisters and a commitment to ourselves, to keep our posts flame free!

Add the "Non-Flaming Momma! " badge to your sig-line. (or if anyone has a better suggestion, speak up! )

Read this post for the background to the start of this tribe:
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=790344

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I am perfectly happy to give support when asked for. I can be honest and true to myself without belittling and hurting someone elses feelings. I will always post with respect and knowledge that I am actually speaking to a real life person with real life feelings.

Can I join?

 
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I think it's a good idea to strive to remember that we are dealing with real people, with real feelings.

I sometimes fall off the Nice wagon but I try not to let that happen very often.
Like my former sig said "Be kind. If you can't be kind, then be Quiet."

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Hi!

This is great, LOVE the idea.

I think first we should define what Flaming is and what it looks like.
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I am perfectly happy to give support when asked for. I can be honest and true to myself without belittling and hurting someone elses feelings. I will always post with respect and knowledge that I am actually speaking to a real life person with real life feelings.

Can I join?
Beautiful! Of course you can join!

Defining flaming...great idea. Does MDC have a statement on it?

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Um. Can I join? PLease?? :
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No need to ask, mamas! We want everyone to be a non-flamer!

Welcome, welcome, welcome!

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eco_mama... "The problem with political jokes is that they get elected."


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So, Live4Today (great screenname btw) where in the Blue Ridges do you live? I used to live in VA...I miss that area.
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eco_mama... "The problem with political jokes is that they get elected."



I know. It's funny, yet unfortunate!









I decided to use the Peace sign in the sig cuz i think it works equally good. :
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You're probably going to laugh, but how do I put the link in my sig. I know how to change my sig, just not link it to this thread.

 
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You're probably going to laugh, but how do I put the link in my sig. I know how to change my sig, just not link it to this thread.
Ok, go up to the url link (for this page), copy it, then go to edit sig. Type in what you want "non-flaming mama" then highlight it and click on the little earth/attachment icon, and then paste the url link in it. then check your sig and it should be there!

i hope i explained that right!
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Another member One Happy Mama has a sig that reads
"Judgment + Criticism = Alienation / Education + Support = Change - What a concept"
To me that says it all.

We don't all have to agree, but lets be nice
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Another member One Happy Mama has a sig that reads
"Judgment + Criticism = Alienation / Education + Support = Change - What a concept"
To me that says it all.

We don't all have to agree, but lets be nice
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I vow to uphold the peaceful principles this tribe holds true. I also vow to update my signature to include the link...just probably not tonight.
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I love this idea


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I vow to uphold the peaceful principles this tribe holds true. I also vow to update my signature to include the link...just probably not tonight.
I cheated. I hit reply with quote on the original thread and just copied the link info from it.

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I am wondering what everyone thinks flaming is, specifically?

Is it being hostile? Is it arguing? Is it provoking or baiting people?

Just curious.
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Hey mamas! I'm just popping in with a gentle reminder that the FYT Guidelines state that tribes ae=re not to be used to criticize or otherwise negatively reference other threads, posts, or posters. I would c and p and quote, but I'm on my hubby's laptop and I don't know how, .

Anyway, I applaud your desire to post peacefully and hope you find this a safe place to encourage one another, but you need to do it without referencing other threads, posts, forums, or members.

Peace, ladies!

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For me I think it is when you see that mama who lost it on their child and forgot their GD and feels horrible about it, you shouldn't start in on her about what a crappy mom she is and she should have CPS called on her. Instead give her that hug and if she needs to regroup and have better coping ideas offer her some suggestions.

I think using less attacking language is important. This is probably where the "please use "I feel" statements" come in....

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I should add: I made up that scenario, I did not see it today or recently.

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"Be kind. If you can't be kind, then be Quiet."
I so need this to be a bumper sticker!!

I want to join too!!
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I think it's a good idea to strive to remember that we are dealing with real people, with real feelings.

I sometimes fall off the Nice wagon but I try not to let that happen very often.
Like my former sig said "Be kind. If you can't be kind, then be Quiet."


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I'm in....I hate flaming....I try very hard to never say anything negative , and only give support....my mom also taught me "if you can't say anything nice don't say anything".
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