I am going to put the article, whatever stories I get from you awesome homebirthers, and a book on homebirth on the bathroom shelf and on his nightstand. Also, those that did not use her but someone else, your stories will be just as amazing if you want to share. Thanks so much in advance mamas!
My dh was not super on-board with HB to begin with, but with lots of reading and talking and meeting Nancy, he came around and is now a huge HB advocate!
I've also attended a couple of friends' births with her and know many, many women who've birthed with her and had great experiences. There are many reasons why I like and respect her, but there's also just the 'click' factor. I felt like I clicked well with her- more so than the other 2 midwives I met and interviewed. I like and respect both of the other ones very much, and would have felt comfortable with them attending my births, but I just felt more 'right' with Nancy.
My dh also liked Nancy b/c she's smart and could read and interpret the scientific literature easily w/him (he's a scientist) and he felt like she really "knew her stuff." Again, not that the other ones don't, just that he also had more of a comfortable feeling with her.
For ME, her CNM status was a non-issue in my choice of MW, but for DH, it somehow helped him feel like she was more "official" and he felt a bit more at ease b/c of it. We could also file insurance w/her b/c of her legal status, and that helped convince him a bit too. (though we ended up paying 100%out of pocket for both births and it was TOTALLY worth it)
The other "midwife in Garner" is also very experienced, and has a well-deserved great reputation. I know many women who have birthed with her and have been very happy as well. She's kind and caring and knowledgeable, so you may want to interview her in addition to Nancy, just so you know your options.
If you have more specific questions, I can try to answer them or you can PM me, but I am SOOOOOOOOO happy we decided to homebirth. It made a huge change in my life for the better. Nancy was a big part of that, though one of the things I love about her is that she was my guide when/if I wanted her to be, otherwise, I was very much in charge and made the decisions, using her as a consultant. It was very empowering (the way it should be!)
SO, I wouldn't change anything about my births with her and I would choose her again in a heartbeat, were we to have another baby.
Best of luck!!
Just wanted to throw that in there!
I had my second child with Nancy at home when we lived in Hillsborough. That was a very long drive for her! We have moved to Chatham County, and one of the first things that I thought was -- Ooooh! Now we are much closer to Nancy! She is absolutely wonderful. She takes really diligent, copious notes. I was reading my patient log the other day (she had given me a copy), and I was so happy to note that she had written down and described every one of my MANY complaints (heartburn, nausea, etc etc) along with severity and anything else. She is, above all, a professional and your husband would really enjoy meeting her, I think. My husband felt very comfortable with her. We had already had a previous homebirth experience in Dallas, so he wasn't concerned about safety.
I know in these modern times we women always want our husbands to feel comfortable, but birth goes the best and has the best outcomes when the mother's wishes are honored. JMHO.
Please do yourself a favor and set up a meeting with her and your DH!
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I just spoke with her about a HB this morning and I have every intention of using her as our MW. Providing her schedule doesn't fill up before my 10th week! Anyway, I'll let you know how it goes.
Congrats !! Yes, please keep me posted. I am interested to know how the appointments work and what they entail (compared to an ob).
I also am not yet pregnant, but am exceedingly interested in homebirth (in general) and Nancy Harman (in particular) as she is the closest midwife to where I live. For those who had Nancy attend your birth(s), how many midwives (if any) did you interview before choosing her? (I've heard one is supposed to interview several to ensure a good "match", but I don't know any others!)
Anyway, whatever it was, the fee was quite modest and reasonable. You and I should chat in person sometime. I also *love* to talk birth and all of that. We live very near Pittsboro in the Chapel Hill part of Chatham Cty.
We didn't interview any one else in person. I spoke with a couple of ladies on the phone, though. About interviewing... I guess it depends upon whether you normally go with your instincts on that sort of thing. I liked her right away, and it took me a little while before I trusted her to the extent that I feel she could represent my wishes exactly in an emergency. Of course, that was *all* about me, you know? Nancy is incredibly respectful and always professional. Once I trusted her, that was it -- I felt super comfortable, and I totally let go. It was great!
I actually came to finding your tribe today b/c I was wondering whether anyone knows if Nancy might be on vacation or so? I have called her a couple of times in the last few days. Anyone? I don't want to be a stalker and keep calling!
As somebody else mentioned, my husband was initially worried about homebirth but felt completely at ease after meeting Nancy. My mom was also a little worried, but said she understood and felt much better after meeting Nancy.
Anyway, just wanted to add a little more Nancy love to the thread!
It is my understanding that if a provider accepts Medicaid that it is illegal to charge patients additional "copays" for that care, and constitutes fraud.
Otherwise all practices would do this to make up the difference between the low amounts Medicaid pays and private insurance or cash pay rates.
Just something that you might want to check into.
I know this thread is quite old, but my family just relocated to NC from Washington, DC, and I'm currently pregnant with our 3rd child. My last little guy was a home birth and I'd love to have another one. I came across Nancy Harmon's info, but I'd love to chat with anyone who has used her, or another home birth midwife in the area.
Thanks so much in advance!
path33 - I had a great homebirth with Nancy in Feb 2011! Highly recommend her!
4 years and 5 IVF cycles in the making, Elliott was born at home in water on 2/2/11.
I am just 3-4 weeks pregnant. I had a c-section with my first baby in November 2010, but I hope to never have to go through that again. I would like to attempt a VBAC for this pregnancy, and I have found a practice in Cary that will try them (Triangle Physicians for Women) but I am having a hard time finding a practice that will not do ultrasounds. I do not want to have any ultrasounds with this pregnancy, and I know that I would love to have a midwife and doula as well. I don't necessarily have to have a homebirth, but I do want a natural delivery. I am going to contact Nancy Harmon and hopefully chat with her about this, but I was wondering if you could provide any further information or advice. Thank you!!! Jamie Nelson