Wow! This post was really misinterpreted, guess I did a cruddy job of expressing myself. It's my sister, she came to me for suggestions, I was just trying to help her out. Nevermind, best to just delete and move on...
Mama to DS 8/2006 and DD 4/2010 with expected 2/2013
I would probably try to step back a little bit. I did attempt a vbac and ended up with another csection because there really was an issue with my pelvis being to small for the baby to rotate. I do trust the midwives opinion on that and while maybe I could have done something other than I did do, at the time I tried my hardest and the best I could. Other than putting her in contact with ICAN, you cant really push her to try harder to get a vbac. I did everything including switching practices at 37 weeks and turns out my pelvis really was too small (and yes i do have xray proof to back that i have some genetic issues with the formation of my pelvis and lower back) ICAN of Baltimore should be able to help with finding medical people and with her making a decision on what action she would feel comfortable taking. You really can't make her understand anything especially if she is defensive about it.