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#1 of 14 Old 02-20-2011, 05:03 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I've currently been seeing Avalon midwives and have not been happy with their care.  I'm 28 weeks and have only met 1 out of 5 midwives that could deliver my child.  This continues to be an issue...I've mentioned it at least 2 times at 2 different visits to the nurse (who is awesome) that I'd like to start meeting the midwives and each time I go, I only see the nurse.  Just like you know your OB, I think I have the right to know all the midwives.

 

I'm considering switching to Dr. Winsome Parchment and delivering at Mountainside hospital, which is actually much more convenient for me since its literally 2 blocks from my home.  I know Dr. Parchment also delivers at Overlook which I don't hear super things about..just okay feedback.

 

Any thoughts, opinions, advice???  I'm really freaking out.  Thanks in advance for all your feedback.

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I know several people who use Dr. Parchment and LOVE her. One had a VBAC at mountainside with her in ... September? If you're not happy, switch. I love my doctor, but he's with Summit Medical Group and it's the same deal as with Avalon (not to mention, he delivers at St. Barnabas which is like a 3rd world country IMHO).

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Thx for your insight momof4peppers, much appreciated.

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A friend of mine had an awesome VBAC with Dr. Parchment and had nothing but good things to say about her. :)


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I LOVE Dr Parchment!!!  Switch, and don't look back!!  She is amazing, you won't regret it!!

 

If that's not enough of a ringing endorsement, here's the short version of my story -

I switched to Dr P at 37 weeks for my VBAC, because of issues with my prior provider.  She took me on without batting an eye, and was totally supportive of being very low intervention.  I delivered my 11 lb 15 oz baby girl vaginally at 41weeks 4 days.  I truly believe that had I been in ANYONE else's care, I would have had a RCS.  She is my hero. What else can I tell you?  Please PM me if you'd like any more info.

 

BTW I gave birth at Overlook, and had a great experience.

 

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Wow-Kudos to you for delivering an 11 lb baby and vaginally..can I asked if you used any drugs?  You can decline to answer that..but I'm just curious.

 

Thanks for your insight Bonichka-Seems everyone really loves her.  I'm also glad I'm not the only one switching so late in the game, seems to happen often.  I was just going to stick it out, but my husband is actually really uncomfortable with the whole situation too..he's like how can we bond or even get to know someone if we are only going to meet them once.  I mean at the rate we are going with these midwives, we probably wouldn't even meet all of them.  I'm very surprised at all the positive reviews they get here...because my experience has been wildly discordant, however it might be fine for some, just not for me.

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Hey guys, I just wanted to let you all know I've made an appt. with Dr. Parchment and I appreciated all your feedback.  I'm really excited to meet her.  I really wish I would have started with her...oh well.

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No drugs - I believe the epidural led to my 1st c/s, so I was pretty adamant about no drugs second time around.

 

I don't think you'll regret this decision.  I know it's not an easy one to make.  For me, the lesson of my 1st birth was - don't ignore your gut!  Good luck!

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if you are still considering using a midwife, I still recommend Lonnie Morris. She really is fabulous and she now has a second midwife Rachel that is there for back up. Rachel is really personable too. Their office is always willing to work with you on insurance issues and payments too. Good luck!

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I would've totally met with Lonnie Morris, but she's out of network for me and while she was willing to work with my insurance..I had to meet an out of network deductible of $1,000.  I didn't want to lay that money out when I have so many other expenses and I have heard equally great things about Dr. Parchment who is in network in my insurance...

 

My friend had 2 great births with Lonnie and apparently she's getting an in network midwife, but who knows when!!!

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Do you have a doula?  That's something else I wish I would've invested in the first time around.  She was invaluable with my second!!

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Beanie I second the doula comment. I am a doula myself and if I wasnt due the same time as you id offer my own services. Finding a doula will be an addition to your support team that you will not regret.
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MamaSerio, I didn't know you were a doula!  Hope things are going smoothly as you get ready for the birth of your new little one! 

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Thanks 2peaches! It is a recent development but I love it! If you know any mamas that are in need, please feel free to give them my name. I'm doing some free doula work to finish a few items on my certification list! I just have to work around my own birth smile.gif
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