I am also in RI and will be sending DD to The Wolf School in the fall. I have my fingers crossed that it will help.
I am entering the whole special needs system rather late in the game, it seems. DD has ADHD and sensory integration disorder. Has been in regular preschools but is struggling with them. We just got diagnoses in the last couple of weeks -- and this is the last week of school, and the school systems shut down.
On advice of private psychologist we called The Groden Center and The Providence Center. Both told us that you need to go through your local school system, hav eyour kid evaluated, and fight, fight, fight to have the school system say that they can't serve your kid and they need to be in a therepeutic school. Then the school system pay to place your clid there.
They are serious about the fight though. I reccomend getting a private psychologist to eval your kid (not as expensive as you think, ours was totally free- our insurance paid it all) plus there are people who are professional advocates who will help navigate the IEPs and 504s, etc. etc. for you and help you get what you think is best for your kid. I don't know how much those folks charge, but it would be so so worth it, even if it was $500 or something.
Depending on where you live, you school system is either broke or in the hole, and they don't want to pay this extra money. However, I just read in the paper that they are getting stimulus money for exactly this purpose, so get your chunk!!!
Let me know how it goes, if you want I can give you the psychologist's name.
(also a mom to Roo)