A good friend of mine is going through a very tough time. Her now husband's ex-wife has a 28yo old son (not his) but, he had pains in his stomach and they thought it may be appendicitis. He went to the hospital, had some tests done and they found out he is filled with cancerous tumors. He now has 3 weeks to live I'm shocked and have no idea how to help her. I really want to be there for her and her family, they are all so amazing.
28 is soooo incredibley young It really makes me think twice about my life. It's so short, have we all done what we wanted to? Have I told everyone how much I care about them?!
If you were in my position, what would you do? What would you give to somone like her? It's not *her* son but, it is still effecting her family (he has a 15yo sister my friend will be taking care of when he passes) in a major way. I really wish I was closer so I could do more (she doesn't drive and homeschools her kids(11 and 15?). My heart aches for her and her family.
Call her or write her a card, expressing your feelings and offering your help, and open ear and any kind of support. Maybe even just cooking a meal for a the family for the freezer, offering to mow the lawn, or even just going shopping, so the family can focus on themselves instead of little things of the daily life.. Especially in the weeks to come, the family will need support from friends and family. From my experience, there is often a lot of help in the beginning, but then people get quiet and don't ask anymore.
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I will say this though, I know someone who was diagnosed with advanced cancer and was given only 2 weeks to live. That was 17 years ago, and he's still here. Arbitrary estimations of life or death are just that... the doctor's really don't know. The best I can tell you is to try to keep a positive outlook and try in a gentle way to encourage them to do the same.
My dad fought colon cancer for over 5 years and attitude really is everything. Positive vibes headed your way!
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I read this thread when you first posted and I have been thinking about it ever since. What I would have done has already been suggested...COOK! I think the plant idea and the card and offer for help in any way would be great. Just letting her know your there if she needs anything can be helpful and may bring you closer together.
I'm so sorry your friend is going through this and I just wanted to let you know you and she are in our family's thoughts.
M's mother tried to care for him, as any mother would but, the tumors spread to his brain causing him to have hallucinations and his body was shutting down. He went into hospice care on Tuesday and passed away Thursday. May his soul rest in peace
When my friend's mother passed away very suddenly, we pooled our money and bought a bench, and a tree, planted it their garden for them.
I think they also inscribed the bench at a later date too.
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