Hugs to you! I am guessing your personal appeals and the board meeting didn't work out?
I think you have to decide to surprise the hospital and show up pushing. You can do this by hanging around the hospital in transition so you don't have to rush and have a car birth by accident. If you do this know that you may give birth in the ER or if you get sent upstairs you may very likely get the doc on call. Louise can not take patients from the ER. You can totally claim you were going to go to a VBAC friendly hospital but the birth went too fast so you came to the closest...this would keep the docs from getting in trouble and would just be more convenient for you...but your birth would not be about getting the emotional support you would need from the hospital/Louise, it would be about just showing up to birth.
Or, decide to go up to the Mt. Auburn Midwives at Mt. Auburn, or Women's Health Associates at Newton Wellesly...great supportive VBAC options and statisics.
Or, really hunker down and look into homebirth as a serious option, I mean really looking into homebirth, knowing that if you needed hospital care you would go there if needed. You know I would be happy to meet with you and your man...then you can really make an informed choice about homebirth. These exploratory appointments are given free by all us midwives. If your issue happened at home you would have gone to Tobey and the same would have been done, just because you birth at home does not mean you wouldn't get the emergency care you needed. Finding out about hb and what we do during emergencies and transport and how we monitor may make you better informed to make a decision to hb or rule it out for you. It really is a beautiful transformative thing. Have you seen the Business of Being Born?
Tobey is not going to change anytime soon, until ACOG changes their policy, and I doubt that will ever happen until there is serious torte reform in this country. Or, someone really spearheads a movement that involves not only VBACers but women's rights groups (you can find out some good info from ICAN and what they have done in NJ).
I really feel for you sooooo soooo much, and I am so angry, it is all so stupid, but there are many things in this country that make me want to emigrate...