I thought I had chosen a midwife, but after my first appt, I'm not sure.
I have twins boys and planned a home birth for their birth, but in the end I had a c-section. It's a long complicated story and a traumatic one.
The midwives I had planned to use didn't come through as a pair, and when I went into labor I didn't have anyone there to attend. It was unexpected and this time around I want to choose a midwife that I can trust, who has experience, and has a nice blend of warm and fuzzy, nurturing loving/ attention to physiological realities and changing circumstances.
I don't expect anything to go awry, however I want a midwife who listens to me and to herself.
I live in the boston area, somerville to be exact and have interviewed 2 midwives (Audra and Deborah). I have ruled out 2 others from the past (Heater L and Nancy W). Many are simply not experienced enough for me to be comfortable, Ann Kilroy is not available, Kelly Faulker is in Africa, and originally the rest seemed too far away, but I'm open to travel to them.
Is there someone who seems like a good fit for the description I've given?
I know it is a very personal decision, so perhaps can anyone offer me any advise in making this choice.
I feel nervous about choosing the RIGHT person, as it doesn't seem that all the pieces fit perfectly together with any one midwife, so I need to weigh options here, and I just want to choose someone that I connect with, trust completely, and respect at the end of the process.
Thank you so much.