Long story short, my firstborn was a homebirth turned transfer turned csection. The section was traumatic and I know what I want to make this next birth gentler - but I don't know where to start in finding a doctor or hospital I can do this with.
For this birth I am planning to labour naturally and spontaneously but I am not going to pursue a VBAC strongly - if it happens, great, but I exhausted myself mentally and physically in trying to birth normally with my first. It left emotional and physical scars I am not eager to regain. This time if the birth doesn't proceed normally - and I have every reason to expect it won't - I am opting for a csection before I get to exhausted to care. The pain of labour doesn't bother me, but I gave my everything the first time and felt like I lost it all because I had nothing left at the end.
To make a section tolerable, I need to make sure I have skin to skin in the OR to initiate nursing right away. If delayed cord clamping can be included that would be amazing. Can anyone recommend an OB or a hospital where this is possible at? My first was delivered at Gottlieb Memorial in Melrose Park with Dr. Gomez. I am currently seeing an OB out of Lake Forest Hospital but know what I am looking for is not possible there.
Thank you so much,
I had three intervention-free births with a midwife at Evanston Hospital and found them VERY accomodating - I'd be suprised if you couldn't have the type of experience you're looking for there. Your OB may be more of a "problem" than your hospital, I'd think - make sure you have one that's aware of what you've chosen for your birth (skin-to-skin, etc) and maybe involve a midwife and/or a doula as additional advocates if you feel you need them. Remember, nothing can be done to you or your child without your consent - while hospitals love to couch things as "rules," (& may want to tell you that it's a "rule" you can't do skin-to-skin after a cs), YOU and your partner are in charge. A very specific birth plan (in writing, and handed over as soon as you arrive) definitely helps. But again, we had no pushback re: anything at Evanston. Wishing you & baby a healthy & happy birth experience!
I would go down to UIC. They have very high VBAC rates and they do semi gentle c/s's, so do the midwives at Swedish. Evanston is going to be more supportive of your VBAC, a natural labor and OR options compared to Lake Forest, at least that has been my experience as a doula.
Sorry, adding more that I'm not on my ipad. I was a planned homebirth with CNM, but breech at 37w. I attempted a version twice with an OB (DO), but was actually in labor, so they couldn't send me home. Here are some things that we jointly did to make the c/s a better process. I don't know how many of them were due to the situation I was in or the doctor or the hospital, but IMO, all are worth exploring.
- I was actually in labor and allowed to labor for awhile - I got to 8cm before they said that was enough. it allowed for spontaniety of the day of DS birth (somtehing I actually wanted) and there's a whole bunch of hormonal goodnes having actually gone into labor
- my labor support nurse was allowed to come in the OR with DH and I (rare)
- DH photographed the birth, even though it was surgical, I got to see how he was born
- we didn't delay cord clamping, but after a quick (2 mins, tops) look over by the Nicu doc, baby went right to DH for cuddles and warming
- DH told me the sex of the baby
- DS latched on my chest while I was being stitched - so, so glad they did this, just to be skin-to-skin with him within a few mins of the birth was pretty amazing
- kept my placenta (needed an ice chest)
- no bath. This freaked the baby nurses out and they touched him minimally. Awesome!
- we left after minimum 48 hrs required - i was feeling good and managing my pain
Carson, living life with my 3 boys: DH, DS Dec '09 and newbie DS Sept'12
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