Hi! I'm new here, mother of two, new also to Houston. I had an unassisted birth and then a midwife assisted birth with the most un-intrusive midwife I can imagine. She was so laid back, for example she never had to do a vaginal exam. I don't think she touched that area until there was actually a baby coming out of it.
So, looking for a midwife now, I'm wondering how to find that person nearby now who is similarly hands-off and will not be doing a lot of monitoring and checking during labor. Good back pressure skills are just a bonus.
Know anyone like that?
For the most part, I do believe CPMs generally are OK with a client denying any exams, except perhaps in active labor. I know that the CPM I saw with my first always asked before exams and was perfectly OK with me declining any - it was phrased more of a "We can do this exam if you like," rather than, "We would like to do this exam, but you may decline it." Out of sheer curiosity (because I know that cervix dilation pre-labor, etc., really isn't a good indicator of how soon baby will be arriving), I personally chose to have the exams. In our area of East Texas, at least, most of the midwives offer a free consultation, and they're generally pretty open about how hands-on or hands-off their exams will be. And to tell the truth, if they'd be offended by such questions during a consultation, it doesn't sound like the type of midwife you'd want to see!
" I carried you for nine months, and I'm going to carry you until you can carry yourself on your own."