Hope this month finds you all well, your babes well, and every one getting plenty of SLEEP...
Our babes are all entering their 9th month earth side (at least anyways, some got a bit of a headstart - little stinkers ;) )
What is babe doing?
How are you feeling emotionally/physically?
Who is ready to do it again? LOL ---just kidding.
Please think and pray for Cookie's son. KM84 let us know at the end of January's chat that Cookie's boy Z has a fracture and as we all can imagine - they are under a bit of stress....
I would really love it if any one had an update about Ezri or June. I've contacted the Mama's but no reply
Lots of love to you all.
Patrick has become Mr. GO GO GO!!! He is all over the place on us!
The biggest hurdle for us right now, is his allergy. Apparently, Patrick is allergic to wheat, so we've had to cut it out of our diets. It has not been an easy transition for me. He is a lot happier without it though, so I'm begrudgingly happy to do it. :)
Hi ladies -
I'm not on MDC anymore, and don't even have access to my computer most of the time. So it took me a while to respond to your PM, Onemore.
We're doing well. Ezri is (and has been for a while) crawling, cruising, and climbing. We've managed to keep her on EBM thus far, and I still have quite a bit in the freezer and more coming in. She has 4 teeth, all in the last 6 weeks. She's in 12 month clothing, and is looking to be a tall slender kiddo, just like her big brother.
We had a follow-up with cardiology back in December. Everything is looking perfect, and they don't need to see her again until June. At that point we'll be having both kids scanned, just to make sure there's nothing undetected going on with Avery. They're following her at this point to make sure that her repair grows as she grows. If it starts building up scar tissue, it can prevent it from growing properly, but so far so good. And even if it does happen, it can usually be repaired with a balloon catheter, and would not require another extensive surgery.
Home health comes by periodically to check on her. They were by last week. The Occupational Therapist came with the nurse to assess her, and said that there's really nothing for her to do here. She is ahead of the curve physically, since she was happy to show off her skills to such an attentive audience. She is slightly speech "delayed", in that the noises she's making now are the coos and trills that most babies make around 5 months. But that's a wait and see issue, to determine if it's just a normal variation, or if she sustained some damage from the ventilator.
Other than the scar, she is a perfectly normal, happy baby. She is just a content little one. She is a thumb-sucker and in the middle of the night I can hear her sucking away at that thing. It's hilarious when she starts blowing raspberries with her thumb in her mouth. Funniest thing ever. Overall she's just not a whiny/crying babe. Not like her brother, who was super fussy at times. Although I do have to say that I love my swing. I don't know how I would have managed without it. She's happy to hang out in it for hours every day.
I'm at the point of having to follow Avery around and make sure he doesn't drop any choking hazards. It's not easy, since he's in a destructive, take everything apart into it's smallest pieces phase. He started preschool back in September, so for a good chunk of the day it's just me and Ezri.
She enjoys eating, but we're still at the beginning. She's eating banana and chicken so far. I have some avocado that I've been waiting to get ripe, so she'll be trying that today or tomorrow finally. And I have some sweet potato in the fridge for her to try also.
Jynx - unless you've had him tested, you can try just removing wheat until after his first birthday, or even 18 mos. Babies don't have the ability to digest grains until then, so you may be seeing his body reacting to the undigested grains, rather than what would be considered a "true" allergy down the road. That being said, removing wheat from your diet is actually a very good thing for all of your health, and I admire your fortitude. I've tried many times, and so far have not been able to sustain that removal.
Oh, and I guess I could share about me, too, huh?
I'm okay. Sleep deprivation comes and goes. I'm currently weighing as much as I did at 9 mos pregnant with Ezri, which is my highest weight ever. Not a good thing. And yet I can fit into my pre-pg clothes. I just finished my 2nd pp AF. Something is definitely going on with my body right now, and I need to go see a doctor about it. I need to have hormone panels done, but I need to actually have a list of what I want him to order so that we can make sure all the bases are covered. Between not making any milk and this weight gain, that's saying something is out of whack with my body, and has been for a while.
So if anyone has any information on this kind of stuff, I'm happy for the info. I know I need to have my thyroid tested, but it's not just the TSH I want done (what was that other test called, Maryam?). I need to have pituitary and adrenals tested, but there's more than one test there also, I believe. And then I think I need my insulin levels tested, but it's over time - does the A1C test insulin or blood sugar, Jynx? I hate looking this stuff up.
Oh, and while I was in here fooling around on the computer, Ezri put herself down for her nap. Wonder if I could get her to do that every day.
Sooo, DH and I haven't been so careful about birth control (I know, I know), and I'm officially in a 2WW with some weird cramping that I really hope is just ovulation. Because I am so not ready to be pregnant again.
Cristeen - I'm so glad to hear that Ezri is doing well (and you, too)! I was reading back through the threads (I hadn't been on here for a few months myself) and wondered how you were.
KM84 - I had a lot of weird cramping with ovulation during my two (very irregular cycles) as well - more so than I did with my actual flow. I'll hope for you as well! As much as we dislike condoms, we're using them for now. I couldn't imagine being pregnant at this point - it would be kind of devastating for us (whenever I'm unusually hungry, or tired, or once when I felt nausea, DH asked, really alarmed "Are you sure you're not pregnant??!!". Lol.). We might want another one eventually, but definitely not now.
K just pulled up all the way from sitting to standing yesterday! He's trying really, really hard to crawl. I've been trying to give him as much floor time as possible. He's really mobile in other ways; he can roll and twist and turn to anyplace he wants to go, but he still really wants to crawl.
I think this is part of why the last few days have been really hard for us. He doesn't want to sleep. Whenever I try to get him down for a nap, he FREAKS. He gets up on his hands and knees and tries to crawl, even though he's exhausted. It's like he's saying "I can't sleep! I haven't learned to crawl yet!!!". This would be cute if it wasn't for the fact that this lack of any sort of nap has transformed him from a happy, friendly, enthusiastic, good-natured little guy into a whiny, angry mess. It's like he's a completely different baby when he doesn't nap. I've been reduced to tears quite a few times in the last few days; last Friday was the first time in many months that I can remember calling DH at work in tears and asking when he could come home (this happened from time to time when K was a newborn).
I've tried all kinds of things. He doesn't really sleep in the carrier anymore. We have a running stroller; he loves it, but doesn't sleep in it. I used to be able to put him down on the bed, after a short naptime routine, pat his back for a few minutes and walk away; he was never a great napper, but he might nap anywhere from 25 minutes 1 hr & 15 minutes. Now, he screams hysterically, even if I lie next to him and pat his back for an hour (we actually tried that once; it felt like we were doing constant-contact-cry-it-out. No fun.). He absolutely loses it if I leave the room. Today, I found something that sort of worked, I guess; I lay down next to him and held him; he screamed like I was torturing him by holding him, but then I started to sing, and it distracted him enough that he passed out. I lay there with my arm under him for an excruciating 20 minutes, gently eased it out; he woke up. I started singing again, he fell back to sleep. I moved a little to get myself into a more comfortable position; he woke up again. I sang to him again, he fell asleep, and I lay there for another 30 minutes, trying not to move or breathe too loudly while he slept. Again, not so much fun.
Anyway, sorry for the long drawn out vent; this has been really hard for me. Other than this, K is doing fine. He's just gotten really into eating in the past week, which is cool (although the new poops are not as cool; DH practically panicked when he saw the first one). As I mentioned, we have a running stroller now, and K really enjoys it. In a way, I feel like I can connect with him more when he's in that than when he's on my back; at least I can see what he's doing, and we can make eye contact! I still wear him on my front for short distances, but he's way too big to go for more than a mile walk that way, so he's often on my back now. He also says "Dadada" and "Mamama", although I'm still not sure if they're aimed at us. Also, I think he's said "Hi!" back at me a few times.
Km84- we are all in 2ww for you too. LOL
A lady at the store where I work had her baby the first of June...She is 20 weeks pregnant already I do NOT envy her.BUT- Its always an exciting milestone when some one in the DDC conceives again (to me). It is like we've all come full circle. I'm weird, its ok.
Sag/K- D, was acting the exact same way. I'm convinced it was growing pains and teeth. After about 4 nights it stopped. I put her in the Boba carrier and gently bounce or roll on the birth ball. That works like a charm every time.
Sometimes she just struggles and fights sleep. I just stay consistent. This time frame is bed and we go lay in bed together and I nurse her to sleep. If she doesnt want to go to sleep (and yes doing the crawl thing, but with her it is doing the standing thing) after a few minutes I'll strap her in the bag and bounce. She is just trying to keep herself awake most the time. I use Belladonna for teething pain and it is working really well for her.
Cristeen - I am overjoyed to hear Ezri is doing well. Truly. I have been praying for you both and hoping all was well. On all the other stuff, well...Life.. You know? You are truly an awesome, caring mama. I'm going to keep you in my prayers though I have no idea about all that hormonal stuff.
Now if only we could hear from Junes mama.
After my first pregnancy, I started getting Mittlesmerch, ovulation pains. Some months it was really strong. I didn't know anything about it at the time, but it is not uncommon with all the changes your body goes through with pg and birth.
Saguaro Moon - That's a completely normal thing that he's doing. It's a stage when he's developing really quickly both physically and mentally, and sleep just takes too much time, like he doesn't want to miss anything. With my son, I had to go back to swaddling during this stage to get him to take a nap. I didn't swaddle his legs (he was too big for that), but a blanket folded into a triangle, and wrapped around his upper body to pin his arms - tied well so he couldn't get out of it, helped him with naps. It doesn't usually work for tummy sleepers though (which is why I can't do it with E). Does he sleep in the car? In the stroller, try blocking out all external input by covering the whole thing with an opaque blanket. Ezri has to be put to bed in complete dark now, or she'll refuse to sleep. If you give him nothing to look at or interact with, you may have some luck. Hopefully something there helps.
Also, how many naps is he taking? We're getting to the point where some of these babes will be going down to one nap/day. We're not there yet, but with my son it was around 10 months we dropped the second nap.
How sweet - I was struggling to type out a reply on my phone and DH offered to get my computer for me so that it won't take me hours to respond to everyone.
I checked in on June's caring bridge page. The last entry was from October, after their 6 week post op follow up. It seems like June's surgery went really well and she is progressing nicely.
It's so great that some people we haven't heard from in awhile are checking in. I'm especially glad to hear how wonderful Ezri is!
Jynx - gluten free can be tough. DH acknowledged he is gluten intolerant a few years ago so we transitioned to a gluten free household but I still ate wheat when we'd go out. And while I was pregnant I even kept bread in the house for me so that I could make sandwiches and have toast. Elliott used to spit up a lot until DH suggested I try cutting out gluten. Now he hardly ever spits up unless I sneak some gluten in here or there. I have a great cookbook that I used for making baked goods. All the recipes are super simple and use potato starch and cornstarch as the flour substitute. It's not the most healthy but I've found the recipes to be consistent and delicious. I've just started branching out in to the more whole grain flours. But honestly, I found it's much easier and healthier (and cheaper) just to avoid the carbs altogether. For starches we eat a lot of rice (hopefully the arsenic won't kill us), quinoa, potatoes, and cornbread. And then we primarily live off of fruits, veggies, and protein. We don't really eat out and try to stick to asian food when we do and we make sure to eat before attending social gatherings since most party food is gluten-full as we like to say. Anyway, the bottom line is that I feel your pain!
We were having some major sleep issues in January. There were several nights when Elliott would wake every two hours to eat and then spend half the night screaming. It may have been due to teething, erratic schedule, who knows, but I finally got the No Cry Sleep Solution book. We started implementing a better bedtime routine and now we are able to lay Elliott down in the co-sleeper and he puts himself to sleep at night. He still wakes up to eat every two hours starting around 12-1am and then stays in bed with us after that, but I'm able to just nurse him side-lying and go back to sleep. We haven't been so successful getting him to put himself down at naptime yet, but I'm just happy not to be up for hours at a time during the night.
Whew - I'm exhausted. I want to just write and write, but I need some sleep! Night mamas.
Hahaha, I was actually coming in here to complain, "He NEVER sleeps!" and "oh my god, I better not be pregnant." Seems everyone else has the same thoughts!
Everett now only naps if he's swaddled with LOUD background noise and nursed to sleep in a dark room. Once he's down, sometimes he's out for 15 minutes (and wakes up in a bear of a mood), and sometimes he will miraculously sleep for 2 hours. He's up every hour at night, wanting to nurse- but then instead of nursing, he's trying to sit up and climb on me or biting or just flailing and crying. I can sometimes get him back to sleep by stroking his eyebrow or ear and sushing loudly, sometimes i need to sit with him swaddled and sing, sometimes I'm just too exhausted and lay down beside him and he eventually fall asleep. This is made so much harder by my sister ("she sleeps 7 hour stretches at night!") and a friend of mine ("I put him down in his bed, awake, and he falls asleep on his own and wakes up at 6 am in a great mood.")
We have a consistent bedtime routine, and pretty consistent morning and afternoon naps, but it doesn't seem to help much. He's super busy and active and moving constantly so I think like everyone else he just doesn't want to miss anything- but MAN, I'm done in. Between Everett waking constantly, the other two being up all night with a flu a few days last week, then a nasty cough/cold that kept all of us awake for weeks until it cleared up we're all run down and exhausted (me especially). DH is also only home Friday-Sunday and gone from 6 am-10 pm the rest of the week, and the last two weeks he's so exhausted he's a miserable sot all weekend.
So it could just be sleep deprivation making me feel way more exhausted then normal, vaguely nauseated most of the day (I often get sick when I'm tired), crampy/bloated/blah, super thirsty all day long, and some foods i used to love are revolting all of a sudden- all typical pregnancy symptoms. Or exhaustion, or the fact that we're just coming off a stomach virus. Who knows. The last couple of months have been REALLY hard, though. Pregnancy seems pretty far fetched. We're careful, and DH is never home.
Okay, getting boys down for naps now while DD is out with Grandpa. Hoping to catch up on housework after the last 3 weeks straight of illness (oh joy!).