How is your mother? I have been on vacation for a week, and just saw your post. I am afraid that you deleted the original post when things got worse with her. Please check in.
It did get and is medically complicated; looking at several issues plus what sounds like long rehab without yet knowing to what level of recovery she might reach.
She's making improvements, and we're grateful for that. The fact that she's feeding herself and talking in complete sentences a week after being in a coma is exciting but also makes me see how scary the whole situation is.
I deleted because I didn't feel able to follow up on top of IRL updates, but thank you so much for asking. I'll be back when I can.
And just to avoid leaving this hanging: My mother is being moved to rehab this afternoon, and they say she'll be able to go home from there. Up to her whether that's back to her place or with DH and me. She's doing much better, so we feel very lucky.
I'm so glad to hear she's recovering well. You and she are in my heart! My father has been convalescing from a hip fracture that he experienced six weeks ago, so I'm in a similar situation...my parents are 86 and 77, and my husband and I have a 22-year-old and an eight-month-old. Crazy times!
Crazy times sounds right! My "kids" are 20 and 23, so while the situation was tougher in some ways (one was in the middle of a move from here to his new apartment, one was wrapping up the summer and headed back to school the other day), a young child's / baby's needs add a completely different dimension.
Mom is moving in with us when she gets out of rehab, so I get to move furniture -- which I do for fun anyway. Winter break will be a houseful.
Hope your father progresses to health; lots of frightening complications with hip fractures. My best to all of you.
Thanks so much for your good wishes for my father, MariaMadly. He's making a good recovery so far; he was active before the fall and is determined to return to his regular walks. His dog is eager for that as well!
I'm trying to encourage my parents to move in with us too, but Mom finds New York City mire exciting than the Oregon Coast. I'll keep working on them...
Really hard to help across the country! I'm dreading the loss of privacy but look forward to being able to check on her just by crossing the house rather than driving across town. I am that lazy.
DS1 was at school in PDX, I would love to move along the coast of Oregon, even from NYC, and think your parents should do it. Have you tried guilt? :-)
Hardest thing for us is the money squabbles: Mother wants to pay us rent, etc., we want to cover all that unless we're short of money here (and we're not). So I lobbed the question to our attorney in terms of mother's Medicaid eligibility. That way we can pick what works for multiple generations over time and have it all be planning rather than reacting.