Crystal- the way I got happy with nursing clothes was by spending a lot of money. My favorite is this:http://shop.boobdesign.com/en/product/427/b-warmer-nursing-top#filter-2. I wear it all the time, and it's made my life better, so it's worth the money to me, but wow is it expensive. I wear a nursing tank underneath.
Jend- I still love wearing my baby around, and I do use all our carriers quite a bit, but I do think it's an unrealistically hyped up activity. It's not a magic panacea for happy baby and productive parents. It's so icy here now that I only feel safe walking the baby in his stroller, so the wearing only happens inside.
Carlin- I don't want to join facebook because even though I am sure I have given enough private details that someone REALLY interested could figure out who I am, this does still provide anonymity that facebook would not. I've shared so much personal stuff here that I don't want to come out as a named person.
The wee one has gotten over his stomach ache, and he's being less needy, but he needs so very much from both of us. I've been sleeping a whole lot which really helps me cope and be productive when I am awake, but leaves almost no time for anything other than caring for baby and home. I know now that my dreams of the baby fitting into our lives seamlessly, more like a third partner, were wildly off base. He changes absolutely everything, and I'm missing a lot of aspects of my life.
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I just want a nice underwire nursing bra. I've got a couple Bravado tanks and one of their nursing bras, but it's all way too little support. I've been trying to address the clothing issue recently- I was totally fine with looking however in the first weeks, but lately it's been making me feel not great. I got some new jeans (a size up, so they fit) and have used a regular bra here and there when I know I'm not likely to need to nurse (e.g. running to the store right after feeding R.). What a difference.
Now if I could just wash my hair..
Hyde- I have a nice nursing under wire bra. It's by Cake Lingerie and it is sexy. I wear a ridiculous size in it (36F) and was fitted at a store- never could have guessed that on my own. Strongly recommend getting fitted for your sexy bra since the feeding breasts are so changeable.
Crystal- I pretty much only make milk from one breast and have from the beginning. When I pump, I get five times as much from the "good" breast and when S eats he will only spend max 5 minutes on the "bad" breast before he starts freaking out and I have to switch him over. It's OK for us- the good breast is making enough milk, he is getting enough to eat. But I keep considering just giving up on the bad breast because I HATE when he freaks out between breasts. The good breast is twice the size of the bad breast, it's really, really noticeable. Your situation must be completely different since it's new- but just so you know the primarily one breast thing can be OK.
Both of you- when I want to shower I put a blanket on the floor next to the shower for S to lie on while I am showering. S can see me and it works fine. It's warm and steamy and interesting enough that he doesn't cry while I am showering. Maybe it's an option for your little ones.