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01-08-2011 02:55 PM
oiseau

Hi All! I made us a new thread since it's no longer fall!! Come on over!!

01-07-2011 04:04 PM
Kyamo

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Hi monkeyscience.  I'll update as well, although I know I don't hang out here a lot anymore.  I was also diagnosed with PCOS this year.  I have been on clomid for 6 months and done one IUI, no luck so far.  I'm pretty dejected about TTC.  


hug.gif Sorry TTC isn't going so well for you. :( I'm glad we were both able to at least get a diagnosis. Do you temp at all? Do you know if you're actually ovulating on the Clomid? I'm afraid that even if they put me on Clomid, it won't work. I've read that it works better combined with Metformin, but my body reallllly didn't like the Metformin. I'm getting a little more anxious to go see the RE, just to see what he has to say. I'm also anxious to get the results back from my husband's semen analysis, but due to holidays we won't find out until January 3rd. :-P I really don't know what we'll do if that doesn't come out well. For one, I think my husband will be really upset by it, and for another, it will really tank our ideas of conceiving at all naturally. I've said to dh that if we find out we have any problems other than PCOS, we're giving up on TTC and just going to eventually adopt. I don't know if I'll really follow through with it, but it seems to make more sense to me. Sigh.

 

Anyway, goodvibes.gifto you and your TTC!!



Yes, I temp.  Before the clomid, I was ovulating sometimes, but I often had to wait months for one.  I have ovulated every cycle I was on clomid.  

01-07-2011 02:34 PM
oiseau

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01-04-2011 09:46 AM
wannabesmc

I'm new here, so I'll start with the getting-to-know-you questions

 

What kind of birth are you hoping for? Water, home, home water, hospital, etc?

In a perfect world, I would want a home birth attended by a midwife and a doula. Unfortunately, I do not live in a perfect world. I live in a world that includes a medical condition that could theoretically make my heart decide it's had enough and just stop. So I need access to some serious medical intervention, just in case. So, I'm hoping to be able to split the difference. If I can find a birth center that has the kind of things I could end up needing, great. Otherwise it will have to be a hospital and I'll just have to try to find the crunchiest (or at least most crunchy-friendly) hospital I can. Either way I'm doing a natural, drug-free (my non-existent pain tolerance be damned) birth and having a doula.


Any more name ideas?


My first daughter will be named Allegra. Not a family name, or anything. I just want a name that I like, that is uncommon, but not unusual. A name that she will be the only one in her class with that name, but people will be able to pronounce and not be going "what the heck kind of name is that?" I still haven't decided on a boy's name.


Where do you want to live/where do you live?

Right now I'm just outside of Chicago. My parents and sisters will be moving to Wisconsin in the fairly near future. I may go with them, or I may stay here.

How many kiddos do you want, and does anyone plan to adopt?

I've always wanted 2 or 3. However, as an almost 36y.o. future SMC I may only be able to do 1. I may look into foster-adoption after having a biokid to complete my family - but I really want to be pregnant.

Do you have any hobbies?

I read almost anything I can get my hands on. I love video games - computer, Nintendo DS. I do cross-stitch.


What do you do as a job?

Right now, nothing. Recession hit me hard and still looking for a new job. About to become a 99-er.


Any non-crunchy confessions?

I haven't gotten anywhere near as into the green movement as I would like. I don't recycle - mainly because my area doesn't seem to have recycling pick-up and I wouldn't begin to know where to bring the stuff. Once I move and have more control over what goes on in my house I hope to be much better about this stuff.


Do you have any pets? If so, what kind and what are their names?

Two rescued cats. Buddy was found in a barrel in our shed with his sibs shortly after their eyes had opened. Mama abandoned them, so my sister hand-rasied them. We bottle-fed, watched them learn how to walk, weaned them, and then gave all but one away to good homes. Picasso was born under our back porch, along with her sister. Her mother got PG again real quick and died in childbirth. The kittens were stillborn. So when Picasso's sister disappeared, we took Picasso in so she wouldn't be alone (and having her own babies under our porch.)


Do you have anything stashed away for your future kids? (oh-so-cute outfit you couldn't not buy? Special cradle that's been in the family forever?

Not yet. Just some parenting books. But I've got a wishlist going and as soon as I'm living on my own I'll start making some purchases. We do have a bassinet that makes the  rounds between all the babies in the family, but I'm not 100% sure I want it. I'd love to get a cradle.


Favorite food?
Too many to list. Though I do LOVE eggplant. Anything you do to an eggplant that does not include adding meat to it is all right by me.


What brought you to MDC?

I followed a link in Google after looking up something or other that there happened to be a thread about.

Random fact about yourself

I'm completely obsessed with all things Italian - and I don't have a drop of Italian blood in me.

12-31-2010 03:51 AM
Brown Lioness

Sigh, just wrestling with this "dont wait too much longer, you're in your 30's" thing that i got from my gyno this past fall.  I mean, intellectually, i know there are many women that conceive naturally in their 30's and even on into their 40's but i cant shake the feeling that we're jeopardizing our chances and financially thus lifestyle wise, we are still LIGHT YEARS away from being ready.  Then you have the people that come in and say 'If you wait until you are financially ready to have kids, you'll never have them" and THAT'S fricking scary because i dont want my kids to grow up like i did, financially struggling. 

 

It just sucks having to deal with all these factors, seemingly alone, thas all.
 

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Hey everyone.  Im still here lurking and wallowing in my most recent pity party (i think holidays does this to a lot of people i see).  Im hoping this time next year brings more joy (even tho im grateful for what i have) and brighter things to come.



What's your pity party? I'm wallowing a bit too. My mom mentioned today that my future SIL wants to start TTC as soon as she and my bro. get married (so in Aug.) and I'm just crushed about it. I really wanted to be the first one to have the grandbabies and I'm just feeling really bummed that that might get stolen from me. My fiance was loving enough to point out that I don't get to TTC for awhile yet because of my cancer (thanks for the reminder, sweetie! I wanted to smack him!). At least I'm not sick this Christmas (first time in 2 years!). I did finally meet the future SIL and she's really nice (and totally AP leaning which is cool), I'm just really shaken up by the suddenness of her joining our family.

 

Hope everyone has an awesome Christmas (or whatever you celebrate!).

12-25-2010 01:20 PM
oiseau

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12-24-2010 11:08 AM
Brown Lioness

Hey everyone.  Im still here lurking and wallowing in my most recent pity party (i think holidays does this to a lot of people i see).  Im hoping this time next year brings more joy (even tho im grateful for what i have) and brighter things to come.

12-23-2010 10:07 AM
monkeyscience

 

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Hi monkeyscience.  I'll update as well, although I know I don't hang out here a lot anymore.  I was also diagnosed with PCOS this year.  I have been on clomid for 6 months and done one IUI, no luck so far.  I'm pretty dejected about TTC.  


hug.gif Sorry TTC isn't going so well for you. :( I'm glad we were both able to at least get a diagnosis. Do you temp at all? Do you know if you're actually ovulating on the Clomid? I'm afraid that even if they put me on Clomid, it won't work. I've read that it works better combined with Metformin, but my body reallllly didn't like the Metformin. I'm getting a little more anxious to go see the RE, just to see what he has to say. I'm also anxious to get the results back from my husband's semen analysis, but due to holidays we won't find out until January 3rd. :-P I really don't know what we'll do if that doesn't come out well. For one, I think my husband will be really upset by it, and for another, it will really tank our ideas of conceiving at all naturally. I've said to dh that if we find out we have any problems other than PCOS, we're giving up on TTC and just going to eventually adopt. I don't know if I'll really follow through with it, but it seems to make more sense to me. Sigh.

 

Anyway, goodvibes.gifto you and your TTC!!

12-23-2010 09:57 AM
stardogs

((hugs)) to those that need them! 

 

I am *loving* that DH is so much more comfortable about kid-talk now.  Even though we're still waiting a while, he's actually showing some interest in the stuff I'm looking at.  I watched the preview of "Other Side of the Glass" yesterday and while he wasn't interested in watching, this time he actually asked for a "cliffs notes" summary of anything in the video I find worthwhile for him to know. :) Annnd he seems to be neutral on the idea of an out-of-hospital birth which previously was mind boggling to him.  I <3 DH - once you get him the figures and discuss an issue, he's very open to new ideas. :)

 

We had my MIL and 8yo BIL over for a few days last weekend - and omg I have a new respect for the supervision challenge that is kids and dogs - I was exhausted by the end of their visit!

 

12-22-2010 04:47 PM
Kyamo

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Hi, ladies! I'm peeking back in again. I know, I never seem to come to stay.

 

Life has been insanely busy lately - school this year has been somehow harder than last year. I really thought my second year teaching would go better, but so far, no dice. I'm very much looking forward to Christmas break!

 

Dh and I are doing great. Still figuring out the whole 'being married' thing, but very much in love. I don't know what I'd do without him.

 

We haven't been *not* trying for a baby since we got married - no bc of any kind - but I haven't ovulated at all. :( In many ways it's been a blessing - I don't know how I could have dealt with morning sickness and all the craziness of the school year. Still, I'm sick of the feeling of being broken. It doesn't help that my good friend (married the same day I was) is expecting in March, or that my SIL just had a baby, or that everyone and their dog at church seems to be expecting or has an infant. We're still trying to decide if/when to go for further interventions. I've had more blood tests run on me for various things (I was diagnosed with PCOS in April), and dh is waiting for the paperwork for a semen analysis. We have a certificate for a free consultation with an RE, but we're trying to get as much testing done as we can in advance, since it's cheaper for me to see my OB/GYN than the RE.

 

Anyway, I thought I would drop in to say hi, and no, I'm not dead! (I may spend some time hanging out here over Christmas break!)


 

Hi monkeyscience.  I'll update as well, although I know I don't hang out here a lot anymore.  I was also diagnosed with PCOS this year.  I have been on clomid for 6 months and done one IUI, no luck so far.  I'm pretty dejected about TTC.  

12-22-2010 03:44 PM
oiseau

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12-13-2010 08:09 PM
stardogs

(((hugs))) monkey!  I know 16 people (!) who have had a baby in the last 8 months or are currently pregnant so I know what you mean about everyone being preggers around you!

12-13-2010 12:56 PM
monkeyscience

Hi, ladies! I'm peeking back in again. I know, I never seem to come to stay.

 

Life has been insanely busy lately - school this year has been somehow harder than last year. I really thought my second year teaching would go better, but so far, no dice. I'm very much looking forward to Christmas break!

 

Dh and I are doing great. Still figuring out the whole 'being married' thing, but very much in love. I don't know what I'd do without him.

 

We haven't been *not* trying for a baby since we got married - no bc of any kind - but I haven't ovulated at all. :( In many ways it's been a blessing - I don't know how I could have dealt with morning sickness and all the craziness of the school year. Still, I'm sick of the feeling of being broken. It doesn't help that my good friend (married the same day I was) is expecting in March, or that my SIL just had a baby, or that everyone and their dog at church seems to be expecting or has an infant. We're still trying to decide if/when to go for further interventions. I've had more blood tests run on me for various things (I was diagnosed with PCOS in April), and dh is waiting for the paperwork for a semen analysis. We have a certificate for a free consultation with an RE, but we're trying to get as much testing done as we can in advance, since it's cheaper for me to see my OB/GYN than the RE.

 

Anyway, I thought I would drop in to say hi, and no, I'm not dead! (I may spend some time hanging out here over Christmas break!)

12-07-2010 12:37 PM
terrordactyl

one of the reasons i want kids around the holidays so much is it is so much funner. what is christmas without little ones opening gifts and there alot more fun to shop for

12-07-2010 10:31 AM
stardogs

Welcome librarygirl!  I love MDC - so welcoming of people who are interested in the topic even without being parents yet and such a warm place to get answers to all of those questions that would just get you strange looks IRL. :)

12-07-2010 10:20 AM
librarygirl

Hello! I'm new to MDC (officially, been lurking for a couple of years). No human babies yet, but share my home with two kitties. I'm a 31 year old children's librarian from Ohio. A few months ago, I met the man of my dreams (literally- I dreamt about him a couple weeks before we met) and things are really falling into place. We both want kids very much but it's a little too early for that (an "oops" wouldn't be the worst thing in the world). So I'm just hanging out.

 

As for holiday parties- I saw my best friend and her kids last weekend (her daughter just turned 4 and her son is 11mos) and they just make me ache to have one of my own. Friend's DH plopped the baby in my arms when I arrived and just holding this beautiful little person makes me want to tear up.
 

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I was thinking last night that if all goes according to plan (which is surely wont lol!), this is going to be my second to last childless christmas. Well, that's not entirely true since I guess my plan would require a baby to still be gestating two Christmases from this one. When I think of it that way, though, it seems to be much closer!

 

I do the same thing! I keep thinking- we'll get married next summer/fall and then start TTC next winter. :)

 

Glad to find other ladies like me who think about these sorts of things!


 

12-06-2010 05:42 PM
oiseau

I was thinking last night that if all goes according to plan (which is surely wont lol!), this is going to be my second to last childless christmas. Well, that's not entirely true since I guess my plan would require a baby to still be gestating two Christmases from this one. When I think of it that way, though, it seems to be much closer!

12-04-2010 11:36 AM
bubbledumpster

The baby lust has kicked in really really hard for me with the holiday season. I can't help but notice all the adorable little ones out and about while their parents shop for the holidays. Everywhere I go I imagine what it would be like if I were wearing my own babe in a sling. Sometimes when I'm driving I pretend that if I look in the backseat I'll see an occupied carseat. The bf is in the same boat, and he's ready to start trying for one right now. But I want to at least get my associates degree first. Only 8 more classes to go. I took four this semester, but the stress came thisclose to breaking me down, so I'm going to cut down to three next semester. Then two for half of the summer, visiting Peru on break, and then taking the last three next fall. So I should be done in a year!

 

In the meantime I've been sating my obsession by watching LOTS of natural birth videos.

12-01-2010 11:55 AM
terrordactyl

ahh i love babies at holiday parties i'm lucky in the fact that my boyfriend has a nephew who is 7 months old so i get to hang out with him alot. but it does make me baby jealous my best friend who is a yr younger than me had a baby about 4 months ago which brought out the baby lust when i went and visited her. but then i think about the many things i still want to do with my life like finnish school and and move somewhere warmer where getting snow makes it depend on if you make money or not i'm not a fan of tourist dependent towns anymore. also my boyfriend has a hard time training in cold weather places and is always leaving me to go train. plus my bf doesnt want kids for a long time. tho i'm trying to convince him of having them sooner than that...

11-28-2010 04:19 PM
stardogs

New stuff here: DH went to a friend's wedding and got to hang out with his friend's step sons - annnnd it triggered his desire to have a kid a bit!  Before this he'd been really neutral on the subject, but we had a great talk about the future when he got home from the wedding and are pretty sure that we'll be TTC once my IUD is removed in December 2014 (which coincides with what I had in mind on my own lol). :)  Only 4 more years lol.  More importantly, this also means I can be more free about talking baby stuff since it no longer freaks him out. :D Yaay! 

 

I have also recently discovered a neat way to get baby stuff without freaking DH out (before the whole baby discussion this week): buy cute baby stuff and say it's for potential baby shower gifts!  A ton of people I know are getting pregnant so it totally makes sense to keep some stuff on hand just in case I need a cute gift annnd if we don't use it as gifts, it's all stuff *I* like! ;)  I recently took advantage of a sale and now have 3 onesies/shirts on the way. :D  I already have a sling in the closet.

 

Fav music: country: Keith Urban, Rascal Flatts, JaneDear Girls, Lady A, The Band Perry, etc.!  Occasionally some pop (Katy Perry and similar), or jazz (especially early jazz from the 30s and 40s).

 

Fav TV: Live: Greys, Private Practice, Law and Order: SVU, Castle, Teen Mom/16 and Pregnant, and via Netflix: Torchwood, Firefly, and Highlander.

 

How open: I occasionally post things on fb (excluding MIL since she is waaay too intrusive when it comes to when she's getting her 1st grandkid), but generally keep it on the DL unless I find an opening or am asked.  My best friend is a mom of 2, so she and I talk about breastfeeding and babywearing, but other (pregnant) friends I just will mention my researching and let them know that I have crunchy resources if they want them.  About 1/3 of them have asked for my links/resources.

 

 

 

 

 

11-28-2010 03:13 PM
oiseau

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11-21-2010 12:16 PM
aquarius aspiring

I went to a friend's birthday party last night and she had invited her neighbors over. The neighbors have a 3-year-old and a 5-month-old. I was hoping I would get to hold the baby and...well, I got to hold him for a half hour. I kind of baby-napped him. *blush* The parents were fine with it and I walked him around the house and talked to him. After a while, he got to be quite the heavy little guy. Today, my arms are sore! I realized last night that I have to be in much better shape for pregnancy, birth, and carrying a babe around!

 

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In honor of your sig Shaina, how about a discussion about music? What's your favorite music/band/artist/song...whatever you feel like sharing. What's your least favorite?

What about movies? TV (if you watch TV)

 

So, ...how "out" are you guys about your "alternative" plans for pregnancy and motherhood? Like, do you blog about it, talk about it with friends, discuss on sites or on Twitter/Facebook and stuff like that?

 

My tastes in music change all the time. For the past few months, I've been listening to positive/Christian music and I'm not religious at all. I also downloaded the soundtracks to Grey's Anatomy and it makes for good homework music. Kate Havnevik and Ingrid Michaelson ended up being my favorite artists from those soundtracks. My standby favorites are The Beatles, Elton John, Carol King...oldies. :D I listen to pretty much everything, except for rap, I guess.

 

Movies and TV: I keep up with Grey's Anatomy and Glee. I started to watch House again this season, but it's gotten boring. I also like to watch Hoarders (inspires me to clean!), but try to skip the episodes with rotten food (eww!). Umm...DH and I went through re-runs of Stargate: SG-1 recently. As for movies, I tend to watch chick flicks, but I also like The Bourne Identity trilogy. I watched Brokeback Mountain for the first time a few weeks ago and loved it, but I don't know if I can watch it again. Love, Actually is one of my favorites, but I can only watch it around Christmas time.

 

As for being "out" about alternative plans for pregnancy and motherhood, I mostly keep it to myself. I'm afraid other people will think I'm nuts because everyone else has kids already and I don't. I bookmark a ton of sites on my computer and read a lot of books, but I don't really talk to people about these plans and ideas except you all on Mothering. :)

 

11-21-2010 11:41 AM
aquarius aspiring

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I was mentioning to DH the other day that I wanted kids, dogs, and cats. His reply: Who's gonna pay for it all?
That is why we haven't had a LO already, even though we were ready in other aspects. Gotta love money, rational thinking, and planning huh?

 

*sigh* Yeah. I wish my biological clock understood money and rational thinking. :p

11-08-2010 01:41 AM
Sol_y_Paz
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I was mentioning to DH the other day that I wanted kids, dogs, and cats. His reply: Who's gonna pay for it all?
That is why we haven't had a LO already, even though we were ready in other aspects. Gotta love money, rational thinking, and planning huh?
11-08-2010 01:39 AM
Sol_y_Paz
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So, ...how "out" are you guys about your "alternative" plans for pregnancy and motherhood? Like, do you blog about it, talk about it with friends, discuss on sites or on Twitter/Facebook and stuff like that?
IRL I will tell others if asked, but don't go into too much detail. In general I do not volunteer information except with two or three people. I have learned not to volunteer my opinions on these types of things in general as they are so vastly opposite than all the people I know in real life and the conversations are awkward. I would not and do not use facebook as a medium for expressing my views.
11-08-2010 01:34 AM
Sol_y_Paz Hi!

What kind of birth are you hoping for? Water, home, home water, hospital, etc?

Birth center, home birth would be more ideal

-Any more name ideas?

I have a full name picked out for a boy, no names at all for girl
My Dh doesn't agree with the first name of the boy atm

-Where do you want to live/where do you live?

I would like to live close to my parents when I have my first LO


-How many kiddos do you want, and does anyone plan to adopt?


I would love 3 or 4 biological children, girls or boys doesn't matter. I have always felt like my first would be a boy.


*Do you have any hobbies?*

Tons

*What do you do as a job?

This is hard question as my chosen profession and education does not match up anymore with what I want to do in life.

*Any non-crunchy confessions?*

Sure

1. Do you have any pets?

I adore my dogs

2. Do you have anything stashed away for your future kids? (oh-so-cute outfit you couldn't not buy? Special cradle that's been in the family forever?

I have been buying cute clothes sparingly for years. I have about 7 or 8 outfits, all boys but I wouldn't have any qualms about dressing a girl in them. One pair of shoes. A several baby books by Sears and related material.

3. Favorite food?

Too many to list. Total foodie here.

4. What brought you to MDC?

Researching NFP

5. Random fact about yourself
I am a total night owl
11-08-2010 12:48 AM
terrordactyl I'm super out, i post midwifery stuff all the time on my FB everyone knows i'm super into natural birth.
11-07-2010 12:30 PM
Brown Lioness Ok, so i have another baby related question tho, lol

So, ...how "out" are you guys about your "alternative" plans for pregnancy and motherhood? Like, do you blog about it, talk about it with friends, discuss on sites or on Twitter/Facebook and stuff like that?

Ive pretty much been in hiding (lol) so i just usually go around bookmarking all these things like sites, books and other things that im interested in and keep the things im learning/planning on to myself, especially since pretty much everyone in my peer group is pregnant or has a small child at home and are overwhelmingly mainstream in their thinking wrt to pregnancy, childbirth and parenting.

I dunno, im just thinking of not hiding anymore but im nervous as to how people will react.
11-06-2010 05:33 PM
Brown Lioness What's your favorite music/band/artist/song...whatever you feel like sharing. What's your least favorite?

Man, im a music fanatic, so i couldnt name my favorite song/band/artist for the life of me, lol. My favorite music all depends on my mood at the time.

What about movies? TV (if you watch TV) Im not much of a movie person ( i get irritated at the "committment" it takes to watch a movie, lol). As far as TV, im pretty much a Cooking Channel/Food Network fan. Thas pretty much all i DVR. Oh and i also like to DVR shows off the the channel Current, Planet Green and Comedy Central.
11-06-2010 05:23 AM
terrordactyl My favorite band thats hard to say i really enjoy jam bands, and i love country i pretty much love all music but i dont like christian or jazz.
my favorite movies of all time are The 60's and Almost Famous i also love Dick, the Royal Tenenbaums and Garden State alot.

I dont have TV but i do watch it online alot when i'm bored. my favorite show of all time is called American Dreams, but i also love shows like Battlestar Galactica, Firefly, Freaks and Geeks, and Veronica Mars. I'm also obsessed with wedding shows even tho idk if i wanna ever get legally married
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