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09-08-2012 11:34 AM


09-07-2012 03:12 PM
Peggy O'Mara

maymay, you could also ask one of our experts a question. Do you know about our experts?


Jennifer Karon-Flores is a naturopathic physician.


Linda Folden Palmer is a chiropractor.


Bob Sears is a pediatrician.


Good luck, hon.

09-06-2012 01:24 PM

maymay, do you have a doctor you trust?  A lot of these questions are too individual for us to help you with.  If you're feeling fine and sex didn't hurt, you're probably fine, but you really need a doctor to assess you to make sure you're healing well.  There are so many variables involved in pregnancy and birth that it's just not possible for us to tell you when you should or should not have sex.  I'm glad you used protection, however.  As previous posters have pointed out, you should have an appointment scheduled for roughly 6 weeks after birth.  Hopefully you can get some of your questions answered then.

09-06-2012 07:43 AM


09-05-2012 10:08 PM
CA Country Girl

Health practitioners generally suggest that you wait 5-6 weeks (sometimes even more) after a vaginal delivery before you have sex.  They do a follow up appointment to make sure you are healed and then give you the go ahead.  When is your follow up scheduled for?  But as the PP said, it is mostly up to you if you feel ready (and have stopped bleeding, which would be a sign of still healing).

09-05-2012 07:04 AM

That is question for your care provider if you are unsure. If you feel physically ready then it's entirely up to you really. I would recommend protection if you do not want to get pregnant again. You can ovulate before the return of your menstrual cycle. 

09-05-2012 06:55 AM


08-31-2012 04:38 PM
Peggy O'Mara

Congratulations maymay! So good to hear from you. What is your baby girl's name????

08-30-2012 12:51 PM
Originally Posted by maymay251 View Post

i had a girl. didn't know what the kid was at first because she had her legs crossed but i had a girl on August 11th of 2012 at 11:53 pm

Wonderful! Congratulations!


Please report your brother to the police, and keep your precious baby far away from him.


Again, wonderful news!

08-28-2012 03:09 PM


08-09-2012 03:45 PM
Peggy O'Mara

How are you doing, MayMay? Contractions?

08-07-2012 03:11 PM
Peggy O'Mara
Originally Posted by maymay251 View Post

no i didn't need to call anybody just wanted to know about dilation and cervix but now i don't. all i want to know right now is if i should call the doctor because i been having contractions. they were 5mins apart but now they are gone and i d on't know what to do. that's all i want this time

Yes, you should call the doctor if you contractions are 5 minutes apart. It is unusual for them to 5 minutes apart and then stop.

08-07-2012 08:09 AM
kawa kamuri

I happen to find the the OP rather trollish. I sure hope that's the case rather than the alternative of someone too self absorbed and dense to care for their own child. 

08-07-2012 07:07 AM

I agree. This whole thread is preposterous.


I really hope you and your baby come through this without any complications. 

08-06-2012 07:20 PM

Seriously, if you aren't telling them about your brother hitting you, you're being risky with not only your baby's life but your own as well. What if the blow damaged your placenta, and you are slowly bleeding out? It's a possibility, iirc. At any rate, you cannot assume everything is fine and let it all go. If you don't care enough to have them do a thorough check on the baby, at least you care enough about yourself to make sure YOU are okay, right? This whole thread is preposterous. PLEASE TELL SOMEONE WHAT HAPPENED. Good grief.

08-05-2012 08:31 PM
crystal_buffaloe You need to tell a medical professional what happened. If they are operating under the assumption that the baby did not receive any trauma and do a basic external check and tell you "everything is fine." You cannot rest assured that everything is fine -- they do not have the full information and need to do a more thorough assessment. If this happened to me, I would want a non-stress test, which is where they monitor the baby's heartrate and your contractions for 30 minutes -- if you went in for a basic prenatal appointment, they probably just listened for the baby's heartbeat for a few seconds. Personally, I would also want an ultrasound to see if your brother caused any damage to your placenta or the umbilical cord, which you could not see from a basic exam, and if you did not tell anyone what happened, they have no idea they need to look for it.
08-05-2012 06:30 PM


07-30-2012 07:05 PM
Tear78 Thinking of you! Did you call someone?
07-30-2012 09:48 AM

If you need immediate help, you need to call someone in your area.  You are free to post here as much as you want, but the kind of help that can be offered over the internet is probably not what you need at this point.  Please, if you need medical help or police help, you need to call them.

07-30-2012 09:42 AM


07-22-2012 06:17 PM
Tear78 I'm glad you're feeling better. However, I wouldn't sweep this under the rug. Your doctor should know about this, in my opinion. I also hOpe that you seek support from one of the crisis centers as I would worry about having your brother around your newborn baby. Keep us posted!
07-21-2012 08:50 PM


07-20-2012 04:36 AM
travelmumma Update????
07-19-2012 09:36 AM

One more thing to add:  A person who would knowingly kick a pregnant woman in the stomach is also a person who would shake a baby or potentially harm an infant in other ways.  I would strongly consider reaching out to an abuse hotline to discuss your options, especially if your brother is going to continue being part of your life.  Under the circumstances, I would cut off all contact for your own and your child's welfare, but I don't know if that's an option.


You need to deal with the fact that this is not a one-time assault, but that you have a new and very vulnerable life coming into this environment in the near future.  You need to take steps now to assess the danger.  An abuse hotline like the ones posted above can give you some options.

07-17-2012 05:32 PM
Originally Posted by AdinaL View Post

You need to see a doctor. I understand that you are unwilling to go prior to your appointment tomorrow, but if you begin to bleed or have pain or labor starts, you will need to go to the ER. Please avoid contact with your brother if at all possible.
... I don't think that you will get in trouble if your brother assaulted you in anger. Please be completely honest with your doctor tomorrow when you go in, they cannot treat you accurately if you are not. This is big and important and a potentially very bad situation.


OP, it sounds like you are in a very difficult situation. I agree with the PPs and especially with the above. In addition to the options listed above, some of the following may be of help to you:

--An ER cannot refuse to treat you based on your age or your economic situation or your insurance situation.

If you need help getting to the ER:

--Call an ambulance; you can do this even if it the event was several hours ago.

--Call the police; they can assist you and arrange transportation to the hospital.

--Call the hospital and/or your doctor and see if there is a taxi voucher program through the hospital; if there is, you may be able to take a taxi to the hospital.

--Call a local women's hotline or domestic violence hotline; they may know of resources that can provide rides in emergency situations. They can also assist if you need a safe place to stay over the coming days any weeks.

--Call back the friends you called earlier and ask again if they will take you.

07-17-2012 04:31 PM
adinal You need to see a doctor. I understand that you are unwilling to go prior to your appointment tomorrow, but if you begin to bleed or have pain or labor starts, you will need to go to the ER. Please avoid contact with your brother if at all possible.

There isn't much someone online can tell you at this point.

Perhaps some of the hotlines listed on this page might give you some help:

I don't think that you will get in trouble if your brother assaulted you in anger. Please be completely honest with your doctor tomorrow when you go in, they cannot treat you accurately if you are not. This is big and important and a potentially very bad situation.
07-17-2012 04:02 PM
Peggy O'Mara

So, yes, a strong kick like this and the physical violence may have hurt the baby. Please share this with your practitioner tomorrow so you can put your worries to rest. I know you're afraid that you'll get in trouble yourself but maybe you can tell the story without getting yourself in troublef? And, can you avoid your brother?

07-17-2012 12:51 PM


07-17-2012 12:50 PM


07-17-2012 12:42 PM

there can be internal bleeding that you can't tell is happening, you really should call a friend to get a ride and get yourself to the doctor's office, if there is internal damage they may have to take the baby out in order to prevent further problems.. You need to suck it up and admit what happened to your doctor, even if you wait til tomorrow your Dr. needs to know what happened or he won't know what to check for .. 

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