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Yesterday 09:42 PM
LTurtle @aslandess I had a flowerpot smash on my face, cut all the way down to the skull and had a severe concussion. Doing better now. Still get headaches/dizziness now and then, and the piece of debris bugs me when I bump it.

@sillysapling sorry to hear about your money trouble. Dealing with public assistance seems to be a major pain in the butt more often than not. We're on food stamps right now, and I was on the state healthcare plan when DD was born. The options for care were somewhat limited, but once I was all signed up they covered everything. (yay Oregon) That really sucks about your school, I cant imagine people thinking its ok to talk to a pregnant woman like that. I hope you get better support this next time around!

ETA: the last couple pregnancies DH was working odd hours so he was gone when I tested with FMU. I just told him yes or no when he came home. I've seen some cute announcement ideas online, but he wouldn't think they were funny so I'm just boring about it. Now he's home in the morning though so next time we'll probably test together.
Yesterday 08:39 PM
sillysapling We're hoping to be able to get into a good financial place to be able to start TTC when kiddo turns 2 (in April). I don't know if we'll be able to or not. I've been having a rough time seeing pregnant folk and people with little babies, especially those wearing them. I don't know if it's just wanting a baby, or if it's just as much wanting to be in a position to have a baby.

1. What concerns you the most about TTC?

Insurance. We only have catastrophe insurance right now, and I don't know what we'll be able to afford. I'd qualify for state insurance, but here it ONLY covers "pregnancy related" issues, so if I need phsyical therapy again I may have to fight it,a nd I don't know how many places take it. I'm also worried about how appliny for it will go, I applied for it for kiddo over a month ago and yesterday found otu that his case numbe "doesn't exist". Ugh. Last time, I was on state insurance in CT and it was WONDERFUL- it even covered all but $450 of home birth! I really wish we'd never moved out of CT...

I don't want to do a home birth again after midwife trauma last time, but I also don't really want a hospital birth and don't feel comfortable doing a UC. So. Dunno.

2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited?

Mostly sad about the wait and that we're in a position to have to wait. If we were better off financially we actually might decide to start trying in December or even now. I'm really excited to get pregnant again. Last time, I was at an awful school that spent the first trimester bullying me into an abortion and the rest of my time there making it clear that our baby and us were very unwelcome. Some individuals were good, otherwise we wouldn't've survived, but the institution as a whole was horrifying. The day after I found out I was pregnant (and we were both super happy about it), I was told that if I didn't get an abortion they'd kick me out on the streets and wouldn't let me use my financial aid towards housing. I was terrified about telling people because I couldn't take any more negativity about the pregnancy, so I hid it (and did a great job- a lot of people didn't realize I was pregnant until after I showed up with a newborn).

It'd be really nice to experience being pregnant and being able to just be happy about it and not have constant pressure to kill my baby.

3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married?

Together for 6 years as of next month, married for 5.

4. Did you have a lovey when you were small?

A stuffed animal my aunt had sewn before I was born. I lost it in Florida.
Yesterday 08:31 PM
aslandess @LTurtle Oh my goodness! That really stinks that you got hurt! I hope you are feeling better! What happened? (If you don't mind me asking.)
This is going to be my first "on purpose" baby too, lol. I can't wait to find out I'm pregnant this time around. Obviously we will be TTC so Hubby will know, but I want to try to sneakily take the test and surprise Hubby in some creative way when I find out it is actually positive this next time around.

Welcome @Brown Lioness ! Good luck with charting, I've now officially started charting everyday this cycle. Although I'm still getting used to the thermometer and if you don't push the button after it's done it doesn't save the temp apparently, so I lost this morning's temp. It's great to have all the info about my body though. Let me know how it goes for you!

I would love to hear how others plan to confirm their pregnancy when they TTC. Will you test with your hubby or without? Are you going to try to surprise him?
Yesterday 06:56 PM
Brown Lioness Ok, so all you charting mamas, i will be relying on you all once my dern BBT thermometer gets here (stupid standard shipping says it wont be here until the first week of Oct and I ordered it going on 2 weeks ago, grr!). I have no idea what my luteal phase is, when or if I ovulate and so on. Eek!



This week's questions:

1. What concerns you the most about TTC? Well, the fact that this is the first time ive ever TTC'd in my life. Up until this, ive been avoiding pregnancy like the plague, so it feels weird to be gearing up to TRY to get pregnant. lol Plus, like i said, i have no idea if i ovulate, what my charts will look like and just starting the process to potential parenthood is surreal in and of itself.
2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited? He's blase about it. He's a very even keel type of dude (unless its about his sports teams lol). So he's kinda chill about it, thus far.
3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married? We have been together since the summer of 2003, married 10 years last month (Aug).
4. Did you have a lovey when you were small? Umm....i suppose I did, there a few toys that i still remember, one is this German plush knit doll that my Dad brought home for me while he's was deployed on duty (Army) in Germany. But i treated that doll bad, so i dunno if that was my lovey per se, lol.
09-16-2014 10:57 PM
LTurtle Um, hi everyone. Sorry I just vanished for a few months there. I had a head wound, complete with a Traumatic Brain Injury, that had me pretty much bedridden for a while there so I wasnt doing much of anything. Actually there is still a piece of debris in my face I have to get removed soon. I haven't had a chance to read through all of what I missed, but I like SidraJedi's checkin idea.

1. What concerns you the most about TTC?
Not much really, this will be our first "on purpose" baby. I mostly just want to be in the best physical shape I can.
2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited?
I honestly don't know. I think he's a bit apprehensive actually, but he's agreed to TTC.
3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married?
DH and I began dating in April 2003, broke up in August '03, had a baby January '04, started dating again in 2008, moved in together September 2010, eloped December 2011, had our wedding June 2012, had baby #2 June 2013. Simple question, complex answer!
4. Did you have a lovey when you were small?[/QUOTE]
I had a blankie that I passed on to someone else when I was ten or so, and I still have Max the rabbit who is pretty ratty with no fuzz left on his nose, but is very loved.

As far as plans for TTC, we had discussed trying in July '14 but I was injured and I haven't gotten a PP AF yet. Right now it looks like we are going to start TTC in June 2015, so DS will be 3ish when the next baby arrives. On the other hand we're not really doing anything to TTA, unless you count breastfeeding all the freakin time. I would be totally fine with an oops baby anytime in the next year. Right now we're reading TCOYF together and planning to start FAM, but there doesn't seem to be much point until I'm cycling again.

To tide myself over until we are actually TTC I've been planning (ok obsessing) about baby names. Just so I'm ready! Or something...
09-14-2014 04:10 PM
sidrajedi Testing to see if I an get a pic to work
09-13-2014 12:17 PM
aslandess Hi to all the new members !

So I guess I'm just having a really weird cycle I'm always 26/27 days and this was longer and now I've started spotting. The only guess I had is that perhaps when I was really sick it threw off my cycle. It's just sooo frustrating not knowing what's going on with my body. I'm going make hubby switch sides so I can hear the thermometer to chart!

1. What concerns you the most about TTC?
I'm okay with giving birth at a hospital (my hubby is dead set against home births for me, because I had complications last time which scared him) but I want to be able to go home within a few hours of giving birth. I've looked into it a bit and I'm worried that I might not be able to find a place to accommodate that.
I'm also dreading doctor's visits (even though I have found an amazing obgyn) and worried about possible medical complications.

2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited?
He's excited for another one.

3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married?
We've been dating for 10 years and married for 4 years.

4. Did you have a lovey when you were small?
I had some stuffed animals but nothing in particular I was attached too.
09-13-2014 07:48 AM
bright-midnight This week's questions:

1. What concerns you the most about TTC?
My biggest concern is how my body will react once my IUD is out. I've had one in place for almost five years! I've read a lot of conflicting information about waiting a full cycle or two before actively TTC after IUD removal due to weakening of the uterine wall. I've had periods this entire time, so I don't know if the lack of periods is what caused the weakening or not. It's definitely something I will be discussing with my OB!

2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited?
He seems to be a little nervous, but happy about it. Our youngest is 5 and we have ZERO baby stuff left, so we will be starting over from scratch.

3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married?
We have been together for 13 years, married for 8!

4. Did you have a lovey when you were small?
My older brother brought me home a Steiff bear from Germany that I've kept throughout my life.


My date for IUD removal has been set for December 10!
09-13-2014 07:37 AM
sidrajedi Hi @brightmidnight and thanks to @brownlioness and @ultrafighter for participating in my check-in!

@aslandess I know that feeling! My luteal phase used to be consistently 17 days long and I used to drive myself nuts every time. Now I realize that since it was consistent it wasn't late but at the time I was always freaking out. Funny thing, both times I really was pregnant and late I was super calm about it. GL! Also, I love my BBT thermometer. I can take my temps orally and as long as I take them at the same time before I start talking or moving too much it is okay even though I bedshare.

Questions:
1. I am most concerned about paying OOP for a homebirth. I was working and we pulled it together last time but money will be tighter this time as we make our monthly payments.
2. Last time with DD, DH was super nervous. This time he is just as excited as me.
3. DH and I started dating in 2003. We'll celebrate our fifth wedding anniversary next June.
4. I didn't have a lovey but when I was about 5 ish I really wished I did and I tried to force it for a year or two but nothing stuck. I did have a paci until 3 or a little older though.

I waffle a lot. I guess that's normal. Sometimes I want a baby right now and others I am so nervous about it. DD is really into babies right now and into helping both DH and I so it seems like she could handle it too. But DH is in the beginning stages of working for himself and I worry about his time knowing how much work there will be for him when the baby arrives. Hopefully in 6-12 months when we are ready to TTC he will be on a better space.
09-13-2014 07:15 AM
sidrajedi This week's questions:

1. What concerns you the most about TTC?
2. How does your SO feel about TTC, nervous? excited?
3. How long have you and your SO been together and/or married?
4. Did you have a lovey when you were small?
09-11-2014 11:26 AM
aslandess So I was getting weird temps with my ear thermometer so I gave up charting, and then decided to buy an actual BBT thermometer. It arrived but Hubby had switched sides of the bed with me and had the nightstand and the thermometer's alarm was too quiet for me to hear not being right next to it, and Hubby sleeps right through it. Needless to say I haven't charted for the last couple months and definitely mean to start! However I still know I shoulda had AF this past Monday and no sign. The last week of August I was really sick with the flu/or a really really bad cold. I took an early response test on Tuesday with FMU and it was negative, so I don't think I am. Hubby keeps telling me I just need to relax, but now I'm even more stressed not knowing why I'm late.
09-10-2014 09:50 AM
ultrafighter I'll do my part!!
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Originally Posted by sidrajedi View Post
Wow, this board feels really dead. I don't want it to die! I feel like we've had some recent intros, we should be lively!

I was thinking of ways to spice it up over here on Wanting But Waiting and I decided to start a weekly check in. Even if it is just me checking in at first some one is bound to join in eventually, right? Right?

This weeks Questions:
1. We're all waiting, when do you and your SO plan to TTC? We really don't know. LO is only almost 10 months right now, and we've got some major life/job changes going on right now.
2. What are you doing to prepare for TTC? My diet and exercise were so-so when I was pregnant, and I'm nowhere near even there anymore, so eating better and taking my prenatals are paramount right now.
3. What are you doing to stay busy? Overtime has been approved at work so I'm taking advantage of as much of that as I can! Plus we have some fall religious events coming up Sept/Oct that I need to prepare for.
4. It is the end of Summer. Did you do anything really fun over the Summer or do you plan to squeeze in one last activity before it gets too cold? Camping for a week in early October. In Texas, that is plenty early.

1. Sometime in March-September '15
2. I'm taking a long walk once a week, yoga 1-3 times a week attempting the fertility diet found in the book Beautiful Babies, teaching my 1.5year old how to clean up after herself, help me around the house and what the "potty" is for (we are not really into toilet learning yet, but we are exploring the idea), and meditating on the health an well-being of my current and future child/ren. Also, I am practicing NFP to remain in tune with my cycles.
3. I am working on a novel and I have pretty serious writers block right now so I use my writing time mostly for writing exercise and brainstorming. I am also constructing a Waldorf doll for DD and (finally) serging my stash of family cloth.
4. We didn't do anything this Summer except hang with DD which is special no matter the season. We are going to the state fair this weekend and we are hoping to go camping in Florida at the end of the month.

Hope all you other waiting mamas and mamas-to-be are doing great!
09-10-2014 09:08 AM
brightmidnight Hello

I haven't been on this site for ages, since my kiddos (5 & 7) were babies and then found my way back here a few days ago.

Up until about a month ago my husband and I thought we were done, but then I had a TON of pregnancy symptoms despite having an IUD (turned out to be associated with antibiotics) and admittedly got too happy with the prospect of having another. We discussed having #3 about a year and a half ago, but neither of us were in a good place physically for me to go through another pregnancy. Now that things are better and we're both healthier physically, we've had a change of heart

I've been loosely charting my periods for a while now and still have my IUD (Mirena), though we're looking at December for removal and then start actively trying in January. I know realistically it's not that far off but it feels like it's going to take forever! The plan is to use these last few months to finish out my diet cycle and keep workouts in check through the holidays to get rid of the last bit of weight I'd like to lose before conceiving.

(I figured out my old login info so any future posts will be under bright-midnight)
09-08-2014 08:32 PM
sidrajedi @brownlioness I do about 1-3 miles a week. Check out mapmyrun.com as a great resource to help plan neighborhood walks! I usually take my walks at the zoo with DD. Another friend of mine does her weekly walks at the botanical gardens.
09-06-2014 03:03 PM
Brown Lioness
Quote:
Originally Posted by sidrajedi View Post
Wow, this board feels really dead. I don't want it to die! I feel like we've had some recent intros, we should be lively!

I was thinking of ways to spice it up over here on Wanting But Waiting and I decided to start a weekly check in. Even if it is just me checking in at first some one is bound to join in eventually, right? Right?

This weeks Questions:
1. We're all waiting, when do you and your SO plan to TTC?
2. What are you doing to prepare for TTC?
3. What are you doing to stay busy?
4. It is the end of Summer. Did you do anything really fun over the Summer or do you plan to squeeze in one last activity before it gets too cold?

1. Sometime in March-September '15
2. I'm taking a long walk once a week, yoga 1-3 times a week attempting the fertility diet found in the book Beautiful Babies, teaching my 1.5year old how to clean up after herself, help me around the house and what the "potty" is for (we are not really into toilet learning yet, but we are exploring the idea), and meditating on the health an well-being of my current and future child/ren. Also, I am practicing NFP to remain in tune with my cycles.
3. I am working on a novel and I have pretty serious writers block right now so I use my writing time mostly for writing exercise and brainstorming. I am also constructing a Waldorf doll for DD and (finally) serging my stash of family cloth.
4. We didn't do anything this Summer except hang with DD which is special no matter the season. We are going to the state fair this weekend and we are hoping to go camping in Florida at the end of the month.

Hope all you other waiting mamas and mamas-to-be are doing great!
Im here...still lol. I havent really participated in this forum let alone the website because its been SO LONG that ive had to wait (ive essentially been waiting since 2006.....yea).

However, i think......i THINK we will be gearing up to TTC our first within the next few months or around the New Year.

So, i will go ahead and jump back in.

This weeks Questions:
1. We're all waiting, when do you and your SO plan to TTC? like i said, we are in talks of starting soon, so hopefully we will begin by or around the first of next year.
2. What are you doing to prepare for TTC? So, ive done....many things to prepare to TTC, but now that it seems to be close, I am hunkering down on my nutrition, my physical fitness, my stress levels and beginning to chart again.
3. What are you doing to stay busy? Life. Living my life keeps me "busy". I feel like everything that Ive done and that I am doing has been and is preparing me.
4. It is the end of Summer. Did you do anything really fun over the Summer or do you plan to squeeze in one last activity before it gets too cold? Nah, not really. We had a couple really nice milestones happen, so that was celebration enough. Im a fall baby, so i am looking forward to fall.


sidrajedi, how long of a walk are you taking? Im looking to start incorporating walks into my weekly routine as well.
09-06-2014 01:26 PM
sidrajedi Wow, this board feels really dead. I don't want it to die! I feel like we've had some recent intros, we should be lively!

I was thinking of ways to spice it up over here on Wanting But Waiting and I decided to start a weekly check in. Even if it is just me checking in at first some one is bound to join in eventually, right? Right?

This weeks Questions:
1. We're all waiting, when do you and your SO plan to TTC?
2. What are you doing to prepare for TTC?
3. What are you doing to stay busy?
4. It is the end of Summer. Did you do anything really fun over the Summer or do you plan to squeeze in one last activity before it gets too cold?

1. Sometime in March-September '15
2. I'm taking a long walk once a week, yoga 1-3 times a week attempting the fertility diet found in the book Beautiful Babies, teaching my 1.5year old how to clean up after herself, help me around the house and what the "potty" is for (we are not really into toilet learning yet, but we are exploring the idea), and meditating on the health an well-being of my current and future child/ren. Also, I am practicing NFP to remain in tune with my cycles.
3. I am working on a novel and I have pretty serious writers block right now so I use my writing time mostly for writing exercise and brainstorming. I am also constructing a Waldorf doll for DD and (finally) serging my stash of family cloth.
4. We didn't do anything this Summer except hang with DD which is special no matter the season. We are going to the state fair this weekend and we are hoping to go camping in Florida at the end of the month.

Hope all you other waiting mamas and mamas-to-be are doing great!
08-28-2014 08:51 PM
sidrajedi Alright, so I finished my family photo wall project (well almost, I am missing one photo but) I wanted to share it here. I cannot figure out how to post a pic on mobile. I was able to before. I guess they changed to mobile mothering experience? All I have is mobile

@aslandess that is so awesome that home school is going well for you! I plan to homeschool too. I was also homeschooled most of my school years. My mom did not do very well and I ended up teaching mysel the last four years and then taking my GED halfway through high school so I sort of feel like I learned what not to do :P I am a ways off from my first born starting school but I am already doing my research on what I am going to do and how. I want to do well.

I got my thermometer from Walmart. It is a fertility monitoring thermometer. I don't know why, I think bc it takes your temp to the 100th? Anyway it was reccomended and I like it. I even put it through the wash by accident and it still works great.

I had a horrible depressed feeling taking BCPs. I can have depressive side effects with various kinds of meds though. I am so glad that I do not have to take anything regularly. Side effects are for.the.birds.

I am nervous that maybe we might have an oops baby one day but I would be nervous about that taking BCPs or using condoms/diaphragm or with an IUD or anything really. I am just 'noid like that I guess.

@ultrafighter welcome! I miss being pregnant too. I have so many good reasons for waiting until next spring to start TTC but I still daydream about being KU right now!

@katydid09 congrats! You will be missed here. Also, sweet blanket! Thanks for sharing!

I agree about other BC options. My friend had the copper IUD for about six years and thinks that it may have contributed to her stillbirth. I know that I did not like the way my body felt on BCPs.

So, DD is cutting incisors and I have been really tired bc of it. I still managed to make Yoga a regular part of my week and I did the monkey bars three times to today while she and I were at the park. We actually started this baby and me yoga class that is fun.

DD has not napped today or yesterday but went to be 2-3 hours earlier and got up at her regular time. She slept a little better too. I am hoping it is bc of teething or maybe the start of the 18 month wakeful since she seems to have started the language explosion early? I really hope that it is not the start of something new. So far she has been really early at dropping naps. Not a cool thing to be a avant garde about, kid.

I plan to work out another project for next week and hopefully then work out how to post a pic!
08-25-2014 11:12 AM
katydid09 sidrajedi Sorry about your friend. I think that its great that you will be starting a fertility diet with her, and you are going to try and overlap pregnancies. Thanks for sharing your experience with FAM I think that is the way I want to go when we start seriously thinking of preventing. I just don't feel comfortable with what I've read with other forms of birth control so hopefully it will work for me as well has you have made it work for you.

aslandess I was homeschooled growing up, there where a few things that I think I missed out on by staying home, but that might have been due to my mom's style of teaching and structure than anything else. Overall I loved homeschooling. I'm not sure if that is something I can do for my own kids yet, good thing I have a few years to decide still. So cute about your dd's note, I'm glad it has been so rewarding already.

welcome ultrafighter

afm I have been taking my temps inconsistently for a couple of months. I had temps in the 97 degree range, earlier in the month but stopped temping the 11th. I started again on the 21st and my temps have been in the 98 degree range. I figured I must have ovulated sometime in those 10 days I didn't take my temperature, or possible just before. Anyway I decided to take hpt this morning just for kicks, I guess we are not waiting anymore, it was positive! I'm a little nervous because I had an early loss before getting pregnant with my dd but regardless, I guess its time for me to move on from this thread. Good luck to everyone waiting, thanks for letting me wait with you for the last several months
08-25-2014 09:50 AM
katydid09 blanket for my dd. the first picture is the front, the second is the back.
08-25-2014 09:25 AM
ultrafighter Hi, everyone! Up until recently, my participation on MDC had totally fallen off once my baby got here, but I'm back! My LO is 9 months now, and I want another baby pretty badly but not quite yet. A month or so ago, I cared for/nursed my newborn niece for a couple of days while my sister was in the hospital, and it was so.so.so. hard. I realize that as DS gets more and more mobile it will become easier, but that experience was a sort of wake up call that we're not ready yet for #2 . Or are we??

I've recently started charting, but we're still using condoms until I get a few cycles' worth of data under my belt. I used to know exactly when I ovulated because my left ovary would ache, but I had it removed in January because of a 10cm dermoid cyst that had taken over so now I've got no idea! lol We DTD last night, and I was so tempted to poke a hole in the condom... HA! I would never do that, though, because having another baby must be both of our decisions. I find it on my mind more and more, though. I MISS being pregnant, and watching my son grow and develop has been the coolest experience of my life.

Dang, I really missed MDC!
08-24-2014 05:01 PM
aslandess I've started homeschooling my dd for Kindergarten. It's been fun to see her progress with her reading and writing. She wrote a note to DH the other day that said "I love you Dada" and brought it over to him. (He was surprised, and thought I had helped her, but she did it all on her own.) It was sooo cute! I'm still in the beginning of homeschooling so I'm making some tweaks here and there, but over all everything is going smoothly!

It's great to hear all the other people on here that use FAM. My ear thermometer kept giving me some inaccurate readings so I spent $20 and ordered a basal thermometer. It actually comes with a built in timer that sounds softly. I'm really looking forward to using it and charting! We hope to transition completely to FAM soon. My hubby was a little leery of trying FAM, but I told him we're going TTC in a year so we can use FAM until then and if we get a surprise baby it's okay. If we don't then we know it will work and can use it after the next baby is born. I really want to use FAM, because other birth control options don't look so great to me. I was on the pill about a year ago, and had forgotten to take a pill one day, so the next day I took the one I forgot and the one I would be taking (as per instructions) anyways I ended up breaking out pretty badly in hives. I then looked back and had noticed that I had been having slight hive episodes previously. My doctor said it was HIGHLY unlikely that bc caused it and that it was just coincidental, but I don't think so. (And I wasn't willing to keep taking it to test it out either.) I didn't believe him because the only other time I've had hives was about ten years ago due to a medication (and I had taken the medication for a while, then starting noticing slight hives, then one day woke up with severe hives and had to go to ER.) Since I've stopped the pill I haven't had any hives at all so I really do believe that was it.

I would love to see everyone's crafts!!! It might give me so motivation to get some stuff done around here too!
08-23-2014 01:23 PM
sidrajedi @cynthiamoon I have been using FAM for about 10 years. I was nervous the first year or two but @mome nto was right, it only fails because of user error. I hated BCP (I only ever took orthotrycyclen for a few months) and when DH and I did decide to get pregnant it happened on the first try. I also enjoy the aspect of shared responsibility for family planning with FAM.

When we first started FAM i didn't temp but we used cervical position, texture, mucus, etc., my level of excitement, and when i felt ovulation pain to decide when i was ovulating or close to it. we only DTD during menstruation and then after a couple of cycles we added a few days before and after. We did this for a while. Rather than abstaining during the fertile times we stuck to oral. After a while we got more comfortable and baisically just used a very cautious pull out way in advance method for about on week out of the month (the week that I could possibly be ovulating). This was successful birth control for nine years. We took it seriously though and always kept our heads above our hormones and stopped going all the way during possibly fertile times.

Since I have birth to DD we have been cautious and even more so since my cycles returned in June. I started temping (when I can get accurate temps since I bedshare it is hard to get sometimes) and temping will help be more accurate over time. I can tell pretty easily when I am about to ovulate by all of the other signs. I've been using the fertility friend app and it is really helpful with keeping track of everything. I have to reccomend it. GL! I hope You can find something that works as well for you as FAM does for me!

I wrote out this really long reply to everyone else and about myself and the iPhone ate it when I put the phone down to hang out with my SIL and niece :/

I'm pretty upset about it.

It's too late but @Memento I would wait bc of exams

@katydid09 congrats on your LOs birthday and I would love to see the blanket. I haven't posted anything bc I haven't finished anything. I'll get there tho!

AFM, I have been really tired bc DD is cutting incisors. She wants to nurse allnightlong and flip sides often. So I have been pretty useless in my waking hours.

I am gearing up for ovulation in my third PP cycle. So far: cycle 1 was anovulary and painless, cycle 2 took 3 weeks to ovulate and one week to menstruate. I'm on cd19 and I am just now getting a little ovulation pain and a little EWCM so cycle 3 promises to turn out like cycle 2. In short AF may be back but with such a short luteal phase even if we did fertilize and egg it might not implant.

It's just as well bc I got the fever but I have resolve to wait to TTC until sometime March-Sept next year when DD is 2-2.5years old.

Also, one of my besties will be TTC around March '15 and we hope to be pregnant at the same time or at least have a strong overlap. She had a stillbirth last October due to pre-e and HELLP syndrome. She will be working with a specialist and be heavily monitored so I know the fun of being KU together will ease some of her stress. I'm going to start a WAP fertility/ Dr. Brewer nutrition plan with her next month as long as her BP still looks good and they take her off of her meds. I didn't do a fertility diet prior to DD but I am really looking forward to doing it especially with my friend.
08-19-2014 01:07 PM
katydid09 memento how did the weekend go? Anything new on your chart to help you figure out what is going on? If I had exams right after a baby I would really try hard to avoid for a little longer. The first couple of months after a baby are so hard (especially if you need sleep), I think it would be really difficult to try and study for an important test at the same time as figuring out a new baby. It was hard enough for me to take my finals at 37 weeks pregnant, I didn't really fit in the desks anymore and it was distraction having my baby kick me in the ribs in the middle of the test.

How is everyone else?

afm my baby just turned one last week. It is crazy how fast the time goes, she is walking everywhere and she is starting to lose the baby fat on her legs. I really want to start trying for another one but af is still non existent. I've been taking my temperature on and off for the last three months and there hasn't been much change. I'm still nursing 2-3 times a day so I don't think af is going to show up until I stop and although I'm not nursing all that much, neither dd or I are ready to stop just yet. I also finished a blanket for my dd, I'll try and post a picture of it since it is my only project that I have finished lately. Does anyone machine quilt? I have just discovered it and am trying to practice on a table runner. I haven't made much progress just because I want it to be perfect and I obviously don't have enough practice yet and I got discouraged. I'll try to post a picture of that if I ever finish it.
08-15-2014 02:21 PM
Memento I know by the time I post this it'll be too late, but I'm still curious what other people would do!

My BBT chart is a bit weird this month. I expected it after coming off the pill, but I've never had a cycle longer than 32 days, and over the 9 charts I have from a few years ago my latest ovulation was CD17 and that was the month after I had an early miscarriage. My average is CD13.7.

I'm at the end of CD20 now, and Fertility Friend has a red dotted line for CD12 and says it isn't sure because I didn't enter fertile cervical mucus. I didn't notice any symptoms then, and normally I do. My pre-ovulation temperatures so far this month have been quite a lot lower on average than previous months I've charted and now after it thinks I ovulated I'm only as "hot" as I normally am before ovulation. The rise it registered is not nearly as obvious as normal either.

Anyway, last weekend my partner and I were very well-behaved because it was not considered a "safe" time, but we were really hoping to have some fun without "boundaries" this weekend, especially because we are going to a friend's wedding tomorrow.

Would you take the risk if your partner was willing? I'm not sure if mine will be, but I think I probably would. An accidental pregnancy this month would be difficult because I'd be due a month before my exams for my 2nd degree year, but my hormones say it wouldn't matter and we'd cope!
08-14-2014 03:28 AM
Memento Hi, cynthiamoon.

I'm on my second cycle of using the fertility awareness method, though I did track my cycles for about 9 months several years ago during a time I wasn't having sex. I was on a combined birth control pill for about 1.5-2 years before coming off it at the end of June. The hormones were making me feel more awful with every cycle by then; my mood swings were awful and I felt like I had PMS a lot of the time, I kept getting period-type cramps randomly throughout the month, and I for a few months at the end I was starting to spot for a week before the pack was due to end. I feel a million times better now that it's out of my system!

I'm very sciencey and love graphs (sad, I know!) and I also really like knowing what is going on in my body because it makes me feel more in control. I use Fertility Friend to track my temperature and cervical mucus, and sometimes OPKs to give a little extra information. My 9 charts when I did it before all showed quite an obvious temperature shift at ovulation so I felt secure that I'd be able to notice it now too.

I feel pretty safe with it and know the risk of failure is much more likely to be failure on my and my partner's part rather than a problem with the method! Because my earliest ovulation was 12 days we stop having unprotected sex on CD7, even though that's probably cutting it a bit fine. I only go that far because I still have very dry mucous for at least 3 days after that so figure no sperm will survive until ovulation. Very infertile mucus is too acidic for sperm and kills them quickly; the up to 5 days survival often quoted only counts in fertile-ish quality CM. Sex up to CD5 is considered safe for almost anyone.

Personally I feel safer using this method because I know exactly what is happening when so I can adjust my behaviour accordingly. I fell pregnant with my son while using the pill 7.5 years ago, and never quite trust it fully because you can't know if anything is going wrong with hormonal contraceptives. Another thing I like is that responsibility is shared. My partner looks at my chart every day too and together we decide whether a day is "safe" or not.

How long have you been charting? Maybe it would make you feel better to always use a barrier method or withdrawal for a few cycles to make sure ovulation doesn't vary too much and you are sure you can see the sustained rise on your charts easily. You could also err on the side of caution and just not have sex any month before ovulation has been confirmed. That still gives a while of worry-free sex. My partner and I have decided on withdrawal during fertile times because condoms make me really sore (even the non-latex kinds) and abstinence is no fun at all! He is good at being careful with it and leaves plenty of time, so I don't worry about that.

Honestly, in a couple of months I'd be very happy with an "Ooops!" baby though we'll be actively trying to avoid for about a year still. I think if having another baby would be the end of the world the safest thing to do would be doubling up methods, but since FAM is as effective if not more so than condoms (depending on which studies you read) I think if you'd trust the risk with them and you feel capable of following FAM properly then you shouldn't worry.

Really though, you could always try the Implanon and if it doesn't work for you just have it removed! Sex should be fun rather than stressful and you should do whatever makes you feel safest so you can enjoy it fully.
08-13-2014 09:13 AM
cynthiamoon Do any of you use scientifically-based natural family planning, like the Creighton Model or Fertility Awareness Method? That's what we've chosen but I am TERRIFIED every month that it won't work. I have contemplated Implanon, but fear the hormones and spotting issues.
I am just curious if your BC method causes you anxiety. I think we'd be having more sex if I has something more secure to rely on, lol.
08-03-2014 02:36 PM
sidrajedi Hi, @ballerina85 ! My DH is also lackluster about the reality of #2 . He wants as many babies as we can make but he thinks we should wait closer to when DD is 4 yrs old rather than 3, like I do. I want our children to be at least two years apart but not so far apart that they can't be good playmates even into adulthood. 3 years makes more sense to me than 4. DH wants baby's first year to be as easy as possible so he believes that the more mature DD is, the easier that first year will be. I think we're both right. Lol, I just don't mind it being a little harder in order for the children to be closer.

I was the oldest in a household thy was three under three for four months and I remember feeling rejected by mom. I think her parenting had more to do with it than our closeness in age but that factored in. I really hope to parent DD well and have enough space between siblings that she won't feel how I felt when my younger sibs came along.

I am 32 and I plan on having children, barring complications, for a few years yet.

November will come sooner than you think! Welcome!

@katydid09 I am so glad to hear that #2 was an easier adjusemt for you. I keep thinking that is right but I don't want to get too cocky. It seems like it would be easier because you Already did it once, though of course there are new challenges but you can expect them. With number one you have nothing to compare the experience to so it hard to prepare.
07-28-2014 12:27 PM
katydid09 Welcome ballerina! My DH doesn't seem very excited when I talk about babies either (maybe a guy thing?). I think he is more aware/remembers the reality of a baby and all I can think of is BABY! I have to have one and the sooner the better; silly hormones. I don't know much about colic except that it is miserable, maybe the next one won't have it. Sorry about the ppd, at least being aware that you might have it again is a leg up from last time. I think giving my son a sibling was one of the best things I could have done for him. It is an adjustment but I think it was easier then adjusting to the first.
07-24-2014 01:34 PM
ballerina85 Hi! I think I belong here I have major baby fever right now! My best friend had a baby a few days ago and seeing all of the pictures is making me so jealous I have a 2 year old and we will wait until November to ttc but it is so hard to wait! My husband is in school now so we want to wait to try so that the baby will be born a few months after he graduates. He isn't as excited as I am though and that is hard.. Our dd was extremely colicky and I had ppd so he's worried about having another one. I also worry about my dd feeling replaced and not being able to give her all of my attention but at the end of the day I want her to have a sibling even if it is rough in the beginning. I am getting tired of everyone asking us if our dd will be an only child. Its like they are implying we are running out of time (I'm 28 so feel like I have a few baby making years left!). It's hard when I want to be trying already. Anyway I'm glad I found somewhere to talk about this with people who understand! It's hard to want a baby so much but not quite be able to try yet
07-23-2014 05:57 PM
katydid09 err I hate my computer, I typed out this big long replay and my computer did something stupid and now its gone, so here is a condensed version of what I typed.


@sidrajedi It would be fun to post pictures of our crafts/projects, I love to see other people's work, plus I might actually finish a project in a timely manner. I love your family picture wall idea. I started something similar with Christmas ornaments, I glued ribbons and buttons around wallet sized photos to put on our tree. They have the added bonus of being kid friendly (as long as the kids don't try to eat the buttons).


afm I've been trying to find a good cake and frosting recipe for the giant cupcake pan I got for my dd's first birthday next month. After lots of cake the last week I think I'm going with a chocolate cake with Oreo frosting in a white chocolate shell, it is super yummy. I'll have to try and write more later, the kids are going crazy, I think I have been on the computer too long.
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