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03-06-2009 07:52 PM
ChesapeakeBorn I'm not on facebook yet. I really need to get with the program, but I am making myself wait until I am done writing up this research project for work (since I am "working" from home, procrastinating on the computer is all too tempting!). That will be in the next few months for sure, so hopefully I'll still be able to come back and find everyone then!
03-06-2009 07:15 PM
avivaelona yes I'm on facebook, why don't we PM each other with real names so we can find one another. I'd love to keep in touch with you all, this little group was such a huge support for me during this pregnancy and I keep wondering how everyone is doing but rarely have time for typing! I read up a lot though, I just never have a free hand!.

I guess post here if you have facebook and want to connect and then anyone who wants can send a PM.

Or if someone knows how we could make a facebook group maybe? or maybe the whole DDC will make one? I don't know what usually happens when a DDC closes.
03-05-2009 02:19 AM
sbrinton Are any of you ladies on facebook? I know MDC will shut down this DDC in not too long. I'd be happy to keep in touch and see pictures of your little ones!

Zephan is doing well. Hard to believe he's going on 4 months! He's smiling, giggling, sucking on his hands, still breastfeeding like a champ. He's nearly trippled in size from 3 1/2 pounds to 10. We've packed up all the preemie and newborn clothes. Despite being 2 months early, he is a healthy, strong little boy. Just amazing.

Thank you all again for being there for me. I don't know how I would have made it through 5 months of bed rest without MDC! Seriously this was a lifeline on a lot of hard days. What a year.
02-04-2009 09:41 AM
theboodges Thanks for all the congrats!

I think of Soulshine here and there too. I hope she is doing OK.

I am amazed at how much easier this whole postpartum period is with support! I am loving all the time to just sit and snuggle Ana. I still just can't believe she is here, and came under such great circumstances after all the ups and downs of this pregnancy!

Enjoy all those little ones!

Thanks again for all the support!
02-03-2009 07:49 PM
Sage_SS Hey guys! I just wanted to pop in and say thank you again! Without you guys I don't know how I could have made it through my pregnancy! I hope every DDC has a thread like this!
01-31-2009 10:29 AM
theboysmama For those of you that are not already over at pg after a loss now that we have our babies there is a great thread for mamas w/ babies after a loss I started this thread 2 years ago and it had been a great place for support as my little one turned into a toddler.
01-31-2009 03:08 AM
hollycat you know i was thinking of soulshine too. a gal on my bedrest network lost a baby this week too and of course it just takes us all back.

my show is about olympic calibre gymnasts - it doesnt air til summer but ill keep you all posted.

my little guy is the yummiest thing ever. my mom is here and we're having the best time together treasuring him. im so grateful.

the first weeks after the c section were tough but im so much better now and so happy....
01-30-2009 03:31 PM
ChesapeakeBorn Glad to hear that everyone is doing so well! Welcome Ana! :

I am still in babymoon heaven. I just can't get enough of him!

Holly, I totally missed the details on your tv series. Can you tell me what it is about and what network it will air on? I tried to go back and find a post about it.

I still think of soulshine often... I hope she has found some peace and hope.
01-30-2009 03:35 AM
sbrinton So glad Ana is here! What great news at the end of all of this!

Zephan is still doing well. He's now 7 pounds 14 ounces - more than double what he weighed when he was born 10 weeks ago. He feels very much like a part of our family. We're sleeping okay as long as he is in our bed. I'd like to have him in the cosleeper or his crib more, but he sleeps best with me so for now that's okay. My husband has been off work all month, but he goes back on Monday. We're settling into a new normal. But all good things...
01-30-2009 01:04 AM
avivaelona Welcome Ana! Yay Christy, I've been wondering how its going, but its hard to type with one hand. I am a baby sofa.

Yay too Holly! Promise you'll let us know when it airs?
01-29-2009 11:43 PM
hollycat yay christy and ana!! so thrilled you had a natural delivery. thats just great.
how are you gals doing?

after the first week not gaining weight, we are on the right track and angus is eating and gaining like a champ. we get one good five hour or so stretch of sleeping at night, which is great. hes a cuddle monster but we decided to try to put him in his bassenet week 2 and im glad we did. he sleeps great in it now and we get lots of cuddle time bf'ing and in the day time and mornings.

the pilot finished, tested great and my god, i think i have a tv series. that blows my mind and ill deal with it when it comes.

all my best to you guys.
01-28-2009 12:37 PM
theboodges Hi Ladies! Just wanted to say that Ana finally arrived too! She came on her own last Saturday, so I had my first natural labor and delivery! We had a great birth experience, and she is doing really well. I have lots of support right now, so I am taking it really easy and doing really well too! She was 7lbs 6oz, 20.5in long, great apgars, and so alert and awake after birth! Everything went so smoothly, I was released from the hospital in 24hrs rather than 48. The whole family is thrilled to have her home! She is nursing well, sleeping well, and super snuggly! She only cries when she needs something, and has just been amazingly easy so far!

So thank you all for being there during the rough points of this pregnancy! Best wishes to all of you and your little ones too!

01-08-2009 01:22 AM
selena_ski Yay, i seem to drop of the face of the earth only to return to loads of healthy babies.

We are doing good, the craziness of the holidays has finally slowed down. Cameron (2 months) is doing great. He weighs 12 pounds now. 1/2 of what Lilah (2 1/2 years) currently weighs. I am still very busy. I have tons of homework to do, and housework and oh yeah 2 kiddies.

we decided to wean Lilah, but it has been good for both of us.

and Lilah and I are in the current mothering magazine. the cosleeping issue on page 6. on the right
12-31-2008 01:28 AM
sbrinton I'm so excited to hear that Shelby and Holly had their babies! Congratulations!!!

Holly, were you able to finish your tv pilot before he was born?

Shelby, how are you doing after the heart issues you had this weekend?

Christy, I'm so happy to hear that your baby is measuring bigger again. Just a few more weeks...

Sage, do your doctors have any ideas for helping Lucien grow? Have they suggested fortifying your milk or anything like that?

Zephan's doing great. He is six weeks old today! So hard to believe. He's been home from the hospital for two weeks. At his pediatricians office today, he was exactly six pounds. Still a peanut, but so much bigger than 3 pounds in November! We're slowly getting back to normal life after everything. My husband has still been working the last few weeks, but he will go on paternity leave soon for a month. I'm so looking forward to having him home more for most of January. Our older boys love their younger brother. Life with the three of them, however, is crazy! Trying to do one or two errands takes all day. As soon as I get them dressed, feed them and get whatever odds and ends we need together, someone needs another diaper change and then they are all hungry again...I don't know how I'll ever feel on top of this parenting thing again!
12-28-2008 03:57 AM
theboodges Welcome Theodore & Angus! Congrats to Shelby & Holly!:

I actually have a little good news too! My ultrasound Friday showed Ana at almost the 24th percentile! So even with the error range, she had to have at least had normal growth this time, if not extra. I don't know if it was the chiro (who found whatever was causing the hip pain was pressing on nerves that control my digestion/absorption) or whether it was my theory of trying to keep my blood sugar higher with more refined carbs and sugar, but something seemed to help! Her fluid levels were at 6.8, so still OK, and the cord blood flow checked out too. So I am finally feeling able to relax some. My due date is actually January 26th, so I will be 36weeks Monday. My bp is up some with all the holiday activity, and the swelling has been creeping in more, but I am hopeful that I can get some rest and get it down some this week. If so, we could be looking at making it to term - YAY!!!: We should still be watching a little extra closely for signs of distress, making sure to get reactive heartrates every check and possibly doing some NST's in the upcoming weeks but all looks good right now!

Sage, have you thought of taking Lucien to a chiropractor? We are really just getting to know the whole realm of it, but we intend to take Ana in after her birth since pregnancy and birth can throw them out of alignment. It just resonates well with us to start them off in a balanced, aligned state. We have seen really promising results with Michael, and his medical issues have always been challenging and confusing to doctor and us alike! Both Michael and I have had the same issue in our lower back that was compressing the nerves going to the digestive system too, which came to mind when you mentioned Lucien is eating a lot but you are concerned about his growth. I may be way off, but just a thought of something to try that would be noninvasive and could be helpful!

Have a good night everyone! Enjoy all those babies!
12-28-2008 02:19 AM
hollycat wonderful shelby!!! so glad it worked out. welcome baby theodore!!!!
12-27-2008 02:03 AM
Shelbyscout Hi all! Theodore Ainslee made his appearance on Christmas Eve after 28 hours of induction and 27 hours of active labor. It was a very tough week, but I was able to deliver vaginally :. The doctors and nurses were fabulous about giving me lots of time and every opportunity for a vaginal delivery--never once pressing for a c-section. By the end I was ready to section the kid out myself with a melon baller but we hung in there and had a great delivery. Because of my heart condition my doctor didn't want me to push, so Theo was delivered by forceps. The doctor was fantastic, made sure to wait until Theo was +3 station before using the forceps to minimize the amount of force he'd have to use and the risk. He doesn't have a single mark from the forceps!

We're so in love with our little mouse . Birth story to come. In the meantime, you can find some pictures here:
12-26-2008 01:26 AM
hollycat hey loves - just home from hospital with our amazing boy angus, eight pounds nine oz. i had amazing care there and elected to stay another day to get some rest. we are over the moon and humbled by all the well wishes from fam and friends. wishing you all lots of holiday joy, and shelby, im thinking of you. big hugs h
12-24-2008 09:30 AM
avivaelona I keep checking back to hear if everything is ok with Shelby. Christy when do you get to 38 weeks?

I wonder if Holly is just busy with the series? She's been quiet, Holly you out there? Or did your little one make an early entrance?

Yes Sage! I had the baby, there is a thread on the DDC about it, but Doran Raphael was born Dec 17th. He's doing well, post partum has been hard...we were all still really sick when I went into labor. I'm only finally starting to feel a bit better now, and my husband is actually STILL sick. Luckily my mom is here helping but we also gave her the cold. (and cold seems like a woefully inadequate name for it. I think instead we should call it the creeping crapitosis from crudville) Pictures are on my flickr if you want to see.
12-23-2008 08:21 PM
Sage_SS Erica you said post partem... did you have your baby?

I'm glad everyone is on the mend, at home or getting life balanced. I'm so sleep deprived... its been more than 6 months of no sleep with less than half a dozen actual rests in there. I am brain dead and look like hell.

Lucien is doing great, tho his weight has been an issue. In 17 days he gained only 4 oz. He's not yet 7 lbs. He is breastfeeding every 2 to 3 hours but does get a formula supplement occasionally He's getting longer and his head is bigger. Its not a health problem, hes just a slow gainer. A really slow gainer.

I think of you guys often, I hope everyone is enjoying the holidays!
12-22-2008 04:48 PM
theboodges Congrats on your LO Erica!

Hoping the induction is going well today Shelby!

Congrats on Zephan coming home Sara!

Hope your last week of shooting is going well Holly!

AFM, doing fine. Trying to balance having family in town and resting the majority of the day. If I get up and do much of any activity, grocery shopping, sweeping/mopping, picking up the house, etc. then my bp spikes but is still just 140's/80's. As long as I stay down and rest a lot it is only 120's/70's (which is great this late for me!) Looking forward to the ultrasound Friday b/c it feels like little Ana has grown more, and I am hoping for at least the 10th percentile! Otherwise just trying to make a decision about how hard to push for an induction at term or whether to focus on asking for an appt with the peri or at least more tests to make sure Ana is really doing OK through the next few weeks. My gut feeling is still that we shouldn't push past 38 weeks, but we will see!

Hope you are all enjoying your little ones over the holidays!
12-22-2008 03:22 AM
sbrinton Shelby, I'm so excited for you to meet your baby on Monday! I'll be praying that everything goes beautifully.

Zephan is home - he came home last Tuesday! He is doing really well and it's so good to have him home. His big brothers are loving having both of us here. It's been a very snowy week in Seattle and we're enjoying nesting. Zephan's breastfeeding really well and we're all getting enough rest.

We've been able to talk with our doctors and they've encouraged us to consider having my tubes tied. They obviously cannot force us to do that, but they have all said more or less that we should not get pregnant again. My husband and I agree. While I never want to go through a difficult pregnancy again, I'm really sad that this is the last time we'll have a newborn. We may consider adoption if we want a larger family, but I love this time with a little one and it's hard to imagine not breastfeeding or having a child from birth.

Okay, missing baby...time to go cuddle up for bed!
12-21-2008 11:00 PM
Shelbyscout Things are okay here. We've decided to induce, so we go into the hospital tomorrow morning at 9 to start the process. Hopefully it won't take too terribly long. I've also decided to go with an epidural for both the pit contractions and the PSD pain. I'd like to go as far as I can without it, but I think managing the pain is important, so I've come to terms with that.

Thursday was just an awful day. Last weekend I started having contractions and got all excited that THIS WAS IT!!! Oh how naive . I have pretty much reached the end of my rope with the PSD pain, but felt so optimistic with the contractions. Thursday I had an ultrasound to check size and position (dr. was a bit concerned with IUGR due to a wonky fundal height measurement the week before, so she wanted to take a peek). Position is perfect--head down, facing the right way, and estimated weight is fantastic as well--7 pounds 9 oz (the tech said give or take a pound at this point, since weight is so tricky to measure at this stage--but a pound either way is perfectly fine with me, since 6 lbs 9oz is small but nice and healthy, and 8 lbs 9oz is healthy but not huge). That was the good news.

My exam, however, was nothing short of depressing. I was still 0cm dilated, though more effaced (she didn't give me a percentage). Baby has dropped more but she didn't specify a station. Her final verdict was "definitely not in the next 2-3 days." When I got home I just totally lost it. I'm talking complete breakdown. I had been holding on to this hope that it would be soon, but as I made my prenatal appt. for the 30th I just couldn't deal with it anymore.

When I got home I just sobbed and sobbed and just said that I couldn't deal with the pain anymore, that I just didn't have it in me to continue indefinitely, without an end in sight. I've been slipping into a deeper and deeper depression, and I have bipolar disorder so that's really a bad sign. I know the depression is totally based in the unrelenting physical pain (I have a prescription for Vicodin but since he's dropped it hasn't helped--it's like his head is pressing right against my pubic bone, which it probably is). I had just reached the end of what I can deal with, and could not stop crying. I also kind of went into an emotional shut-down and couldn't even articulate what I wanted to needed.

Dh got extremely concerned and decided to call the doctor himself. He spoke to the nurse and then the doctor and asked again about induction. The doctor was very opposed to it. Her concern is for my heart--because of my heart condition, a c-section (particularly an emergency one) is really, really bad for your heart. It's a taxing surgical procedure and involves overloading the body with a lot of excess fluid, which can cause heart problems. So her take was to avoid c-section at all costs, and she felt that inducing before I was dilated just really raises the risk of failure to progress and needing a section.

Dh expressed his concern about the depression again and said he felt we really needed to weigh both health concerns--the heart and the bipolar disorder. His concern is that the emotional toll is so great that it will lead to severe post-partum depression. At that point, on Thursday, the doctor said my options were to suck it up and deal (not her exact words) or I could come into the hospital for medical pain management until I delivered.

Well emotionally, I can only think of a few things worse than staying in the hospital, especially over Christmas, so while that would alleviate the actual pain, it would likely make me more depressed. That was Thursday afternoon and after dh and I talked, it was too late to call the doctor back.

Friday morning, dh called the doctor back to again express his concern. She beat us to the punch, however, as the nurse told us that the doctor had discussed my case with the other doctors in the practice (the whole practice is high-risk, and my doctor also happens to have this coming week off) and apparently they decided that if I wanted, they would bring me into the hospital Monday and start an induction, hoping for the best as far as c-section is concerned. After that, I absolutely cried from relief!

It's finally happening!!! I'm so relieved, and now that there's an end in sight, I am actually excited about meeting our LO. I realized that up until now, I had viewed the birth only as a way for my pain and agony to end, not as welcoming our son into the world. I had not allowed myself to get excited because I was spending all my energy just getting through each day. But now it feels so wonderful--I get to meet him in a day or two--our first baby!

I feel 100% okay with the induction. I'll be at 40 weeks on Tuesday, and I am so proud of myself that I made it this long. I just know everything is going to turn out fine .

I've spent this weekend arranging the nursery, and by "arranging" I mean sitting on a chair and ordering dh around--"put that there, no, put it there, no wait, back over there, no, what about here?" .
12-21-2008 03:40 PM
avivaelona how's it going everyone? I'm not having a great post partum period but everything is ok.

How is Zephan?
12-15-2008 10:45 PM
sbrinton So we're hoping to go home on Tuesday or Wednesday at the latest. Zephan's doing really well. He's now 5 pounds 3 ounces and 19 inches long. He's not so tiny anymore! And he is breastfeeding really well. We're going to talk to the neonatologist in a few minutes to see if we can go home Tuesday instead of later.
12-13-2008 02:29 PM
hollycat sara i can sure understand your disappointment. you must be so tired. is there ANYTHING you can do for yourself? i wish you could get a nice massage or soemthing. i know its a crazy holiday time and you have a baby in the hospital but i think it would be such a good thing and give you more energy for everything else.

thining of you all, im feeling fine. did a fourteen hour day yesterday and it was just fine. tired today but i have hte weekend off!!! then one more week of shooting. part of me wishes i had more time to center and reflect and part of me is really grateful i dont. my last trip to l and d was a stillbirth and i just want this to feel fresh and new.

big hugs to you guys.
12-13-2008 08:35 AM
theboodges Hang in there Erica! It is tough to have patience in the home stretch!

Sara, so sorry you aren't home! But it is nice that it happened at the NICU and he didn't start having breathing problems at home. Will you be doing the Synagis shots with him? (They protect against RSV.)

Holly, good luck on that one day of resting in front of your tree - sounds perfect!
12-13-2008 12:35 AM
avivaelona Oh no, Sara, we cross posted. I'm so sorry. I'm praying for you that its just a minor set back and you are all home before the weekend's over.

So many hugs.
12-13-2008 12:33 AM
avivaelona Holly when are you done with the TV series? I hope you get your day of chill and then the baby arrives

I'm not getting my 12/12 birthday. I did hold out on no peeking yet today. I have another BPP on Wednesday, the day before my due date, and I think then I'll let her look if I haven't had the baby before then. But I don't think the baby will come before then honestly. Still I'm going to have lots of eggplant paremsean this weekend. DH is ill though so no help from that department. Poor guy just ran downstairs from a sound sleep to use the bathroom. I am very sympathetic but I'll be so mad at him if he gives it to me!
12-12-2008 11:52 PM
sbrinton We didn't get to come home. This morning, right before we were supposed to leave, Zephan had a little trouble with breathing. He has come down with a mild cold, but with a preemie even a few boogers can make breathing and breastfeeding difficult. So we're stuck here a little while longer. I'm really disappointed and feeling so exhausted from all of this. I can take breaks, but I basically still have to be at the hospital all the time because we're breastfeeding. My extended family is "done" helping too and our older boys miss me so much. I'm trying to hold myself together, but I just want this to be over. I want to be at home.
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