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11-08-2008 01:46 PM
Changed I got some Boiron Cocyntal for DS instead of gripe water. I think it works. I saw that gripe water has fructose in it and didn't really like that.
11-08-2008 11:51 AM
heidirk Hmmmm.....

can I just say, happiness is a fuzzy hiccupping bundle of sweetness!


aahhhhh. . .
11-08-2008 11:33 AM
PassionateWriter yeh! i have 2 hands to type!!! my 10 yo is playing w/ teh baby (he's teaching him how to play the bongo drums..yeh, at 3 weeks! lol!). i RARELY get 2 hands to type anymore and 1 hand typing makes my wrists hurt.

i do read what is going on in these threads and try to respond but i just have such a hard time b/c i type w/o looking at the keyboard and w/ 1 hand, i cant do that.

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Still no name here. DH is dead set on naming him Koa, but I want to name him Jude (Ezra was my other top name, but DH really doesn't like it). Hoping to convince him to compromise on Jude Koa Hee LastName. We'll see. . .

Baby is gaining well. He was up to 10 lbs 4 oz at 1 week old after dropping down to 9 lbs 8 oz at 2 days old. We'll see his weight this coming Tuesday, but I can tell he's gaining as his thighs and upper arms are getting chubbier.
i think your son and mine were 2 of the larger babies. I am wondering (occassionally) if Zen is going to level out w/ my other 3 kids that were about a pound lighter. at 3 weeks, he's now 11 lbs. 2 ounces. I woudl have suspected him to be closer to 12 lbs. (we have a home scale that i weigh him on about once a week).

we had such a hard time w/ our son's name. We had 3 different middle names and wanted to use both our last name...something just had to go (of course it was my last name but i offered it up just to get the issue resolved).

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I've found that putting my baby down on her tummy helps immensely with daytime naps : Before I get flamed, I have a bassinet for her in the main living area so she's in my direct sight on a regular (if not constant) basis while she naps. She's fine to sleep on her side at night, and spends a good chunk of the night in bed with us anyway.
you wont get flamed by me. i allow my kids to sleep however they are most comfortable, whether it is back, tummy, whatever....

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AAH! I'm so happy I just have to share. My homebirth cost $6250 out of pocket, and a percent was to be covered by insurance. We weren't sure how much they would really cover. Well, we got the check from insurance today - they paid $4000! Woo hoo! How great is that?!?

Second thing - and this is really interesting - I ordered 2 nursing bras today from Bravado b/c I've heard they are really good bras. Well. I measured myself to make sure I ordered the right size. 36D?!? Holy crap. I've been wearing 36B! No wonder they feel tight!

Anyways, to chime in on the conversation - Nora HATES her carseat unless we are driving or taking a walk. If she's moving, she's ok with being in the seat itself. We have a Graco Snugride.

So, any advice how to get her back on track??
wow! im exactly opposite on the MW bill (though our insurance didnt cover it b/c well, we went rogue! lol! i just got another $800 bill from her and was expecting something around $300. Im just going to pay it b/c of course it was worth every penny but it was a bit of a surprise.

i really thought my boobs were as big as they were going to get with ds3 and the fact that i still nursed him during pregnancy. I was a 36 D then. NO???? 36 E. OMG...since it goes D, DD and then E, that is 2 cup sizes of growth. NONE of my shirts fit b/c they are all too short for my huge boobs and end up above the top of my pants. Im getting annoyed at it.

Zen isnt happy in his car seat even when moving. As much as I hate them, i have intro'd a pacifier for the car seat b/c i just cant handle the screaming and we dont have a choice...we have to go places. Being #4 definitely leads to a different type of parenting than when you are born earlier. I am feeling a lot of guilt about that too but I guess I have to deal with it (its cultural too..my mom is the QUEEN of guilt so i think i inherited it from her! lol!).

as far as geting back on track, I have an arrangement with a friend where we visit each other once a week for a few hours and the other one is able to do whatever they want for those few hours (her son is a year old and she just does NOT get a break). This week I went and Zen slept in the MT or in the bassinet the whole time. BIG MISTAKE. I was playing with my ds3 and her son so considered that a good thing but it was NOT. It was the ONLY night since his birth that he nursed more than once at night. So, my advice is to at least wake babies during the day every 2-3 hours to nurse. i usually say dont wake a sleeping baby (and definitely dont at night if weight gain is good) but considering how important sleep is to me, I do make sure Zen nurses every few hours during the day (its USUALLY not a problem...as he nurses more than once an hour for most of the day...small price to pay IMHO for the ability to have a good night's sleep).

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We DTD!!!!!! Haha! No candles, beer, (or razor), but I did manage the pretty nightie. It was very good.

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off to read the thred now, this is me this morning. . .

congrats!!! we didnt have candles or any wine or anything but we did have a great margarita to celebrate the election and i think that put him in the mood (which thankfully he's been in ever since! lol!). razor??? haahaah! yeh, i need to get on that i guess! lol!

here's to all those good hormones flying around!
11-08-2008 11:16 AM
heidirk well, we used the swaddle me in the car seat- it has holes so you can buckle them in- and that plus a paci works every time. Milo justdoesn't like being in thatr semi seated position w/o being very snug.

Carrie- no wonder you got mastitis!!! tight or ill fitting bras account for a ridiculous percentage of cases. GL!

Tara- where did you order a 36 G?

anyone else wearing nursing tops? I'm really long, and I have huge boobs, so I rea;ly NEED the coverage. I need some ideas/reveiws. . .
11-08-2008 10:23 AM
heidirk :

We DTD!!!!!! Haha! No candles, beer, (or razor), but I did manage the pretty nightie. It was very good.

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off to read the thred now, this is me this morning. . .

11-08-2008 01:53 AM
Baby_Cakes AAH! I'm so happy I just have to share. My homebirth cost $6250 out of pocket, and a percent was to be covered by insurance. We weren't sure how much they would really cover. Well, we got the check from insurance today - they paid $4000! Woo hoo! How great is that?!?

Second thing - and this is really interesting - I ordered 2 nursing bras today from Bravado b/c I've heard they are really good bras. Well. I measured myself to make sure I ordered the right size. 36D?!? Holy crap. I've been wearing 36B! No wonder they feel tight!

Anyways, to chime in on the conversation - Nora HATES her carseat unless we are driving or taking a walk. If she's moving, she's ok with being in the seat itself. We have a Graco Snugride.

We tried Gripe Water tonight, not sure if it worked but seems like lullabies work! Nora's been a pill the past week from 10 pm to 2 am, not sleeping, screaming and grunting. She's got her days and nights reversed. She sleeps ALL DAY. Nurses, then sleeps for 3 hours, all day long. It's great for me b/c I can nap, clean the house, do laundry, go online. But nightime SUCKS. So, any advice how to get her back on track??

Thanks for the advice about the ibuprofen. I'll be sure to do that before I go for the insertion!
11-08-2008 01:15 AM
LemonPie
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It's funny, because she pretty much can't be put down during the day, even for naps. But she has no problems spending the night in her crib. Maybe it's because we get up and respond to her immediately if she makes noise, so hopefully she doesn't feel abandoned.
I've found that putting my baby down on her tummy helps immensely with daytime naps : Before I get flamed, I have a bassinet for her in the main living area so she's in my direct sight on a regular (if not constant) basis while she naps. She's fine to sleep on her side at night, and spends a good chunk of the night in bed with us anyway.

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Question - Who has had Mirena? I'm getting one and have been told that it's mighty uncomfortable to have put in. I'm sure it won't compare with childbirth but I'm starting to have anxiety about it.
I had the Paragard and basically ditto the PP who said to take some ibuprofen. It felt like a little more than mild menstrual cramps for 24-ish hours after for me. As far as the insertion, the sounding hurt worse than the actual insertion itself. Just one brief, strong cramp and it was done.

Anyone know if I should wait longer than my 6 wk pp visit to have mine put in since I had a c/s? I don't know if that makes a difference.
11-08-2008 12:43 AM
birthdancedoula :: Mary Ann!!

I'm a November baby, too!
11-07-2008 07:17 PM
lovemysunshine
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Question for those of you who had out of hospital births-- when did you file your baby's birth certificate? I need to call for the appointment for next week, but don't feel like there's a hurry.

Have a good rest of the day, mamas, and I'll catch up with you tomorrow.
My appointment is for the 18th, so almost 1 month after the birth. It was a bit later for DS1. My mw has to go with us and she does a bunch of appts the same day. I didn't do the SSN for DS1 for quite a while though; will have to do it sooner with this one because of taxes (DS1 was born in March so I was able to wait).

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Question...anyone's babe hate their car seat? Iris hates hers. All my other babes went peacefully asleep when they rode in the car but Iris screaming her little head off. It makes going anywhere nearly impossible. This is a new one on me.
This one doesn't mind the car at all, but DD was miserable. We would purposely drive on the bumps in between the lanes sometimes as it calmed her for a second. That, and with DS1 (who also did not like the car), we would stop at lights a bit back and then slowly inch the car up so it would bump him. That way he would think the car was still moving. Does that make sense?

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Whoo hoo, 22 years old today!!!
Happy birthday mama!


Still no name here. DH is dead set on naming him Koa, but I want to name him Jude (Ezra was my other top name, but DH really doesn't like it). Hoping to convince him to compromise on Jude Koa Hee LastName. We'll see. . .

Baby is gaining well. He was up to 10 lbs 4 oz at 1 week old after dropping down to 9 lbs 8 oz at 2 days old. We'll see his weight this coming Tuesday, but I can tell he's gaining as his thighs and upper arms are getting chubbier.
11-07-2008 06:40 PM
AmamaAgain
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I think it just depends on teh person, and the birth. DP actually wanted to wait for 6 weeks! lol! I was like "uh, no!!!". I did wait over 2 weeks though....we celebrated after the election! lol!

lol! we did the post election celebration dance too!
11-07-2008 05:51 PM
PassionateWriter happy birth day MaryAnne!

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Question...anyone's babe hate their car seat? Iris hates hers. All my other babes went peacefully asleep when they rode in the car but Iris screaming her little head off. It makes going anywhere nearly impossible. This is a new one on me.
Zen HATES his car seat. He's 3 weeks today and we have tried 3 different seats. I dont usually buy the infant buckets but after 2 convertibles didnt help his screaming, i purchased an infant bucket and was hoping it woudl make things better. It didnt. this is my 4th and ive never experienced this before. I usually dont use pacifiers but w/ the kids in the car and one screaming his lungs out, i spent way too much $$ finding ONE pacififer that he will use while in teh car. Thus far it hasnt messed up his latch or anything but i hate having to resort to it. But the screaming is just too much. We cant stay home. We have to get out. I just cant stay home w/ 2 young kids and a school aged child. So....i have already done 2 things w/ this baby that i usually dont do...one is an infant seat and teh 2nd is a pacifier. Oh well...everyone needs to keep sane! lol!

We had music class today and doubled up b/c of the week we missed (Zen is 3 weeks today and was born on a Friday, our music class day). I'm exhausted from having to nurse eitehr one or the other kid today. I feel thats basically all i did while there. I hope this part gets easier!
11-07-2008 05:23 PM
triple07 Whoo hoo, 22 years old today!!!
11-07-2008 05:17 PM
mamanurse
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Originally Posted by birthdancedoula View Post
IUD~ I plan on getting a Paraguard soon. Take some Motrin before you go to have it out in...like 800 mg. It is the best for crampy uterine pain that often results from IUD insertion.

Question...anyone's babe hate their car seat? Iris hates hers. All my other babes went peacefully asleep when they rode in the car but Iris screaming her little head off. It makes going anywhere nearly impossible. This is a new one on me.
I got the Paraguard at the same time I got into medical school. I took 800mg of Advil and it made the cramping at least tolerable. Sidenote... I was one of the few who an IUD doesn't work for and got pregnant within 4 months on it with my first. We now do NFP with condoms days 12-19.

My babes hate(d) the carseat. It's really the only time they take(took) a paci.

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Boo, last night was rough. First time Adelh has been fussy and won't sleep and won't latch on to the boobies either!! I don't know what got into her but she would. not. open. her. mouth! : I got to the point of begging her about to cry and she was screaming and finally I just went with a less then stellar latch - and this morning of course my nipples hurt again! She did this for every feeding last night. I knew I shouldn't have let her nurse with the bad latch, but after 15 min of trying with a screaming baby what are you gonna do? And I think I'm getting that plugged duct again b/c she didn't drain the breast properly either.

Is there something about 2 weeks old that makes a great latcher/sucker just suddenly refuse to do it? I know she knows how dammit! This morning's first feed was a bit better, but she still is just sitting there with her mouth hardly open flicking her tongue over my nipple until we're both frustrated.

On birth control and DTD - I'm still planning on going back to NFP, but I'm no where near wanting to dtd so it isn't an issue yet. I'm still getting rid of this UTI and bleeding a bit and with nursing round the clock I'm a little touched out. Dh has been getting his kicks other ways though, so he's not feeling neglected - I just could care less about myself in the process.
Hazel has been fussy with latching sometimes too. Recently and she's 2 weeks today. She'll latch for like 2 seconds than pop off, scream her head off, then I relatch her. It makes NIP extra fun:
11-07-2008 04:23 PM
Amber Lion Boo, last night was rough. First time Adelh has been fussy and won't sleep and won't latch on to the boobies either!! I don't know what got into her but she would. not. open. her. mouth! : I got to the point of begging her about to cry and she was screaming and finally I just went with a less then stellar latch - and this morning of course my nipples hurt again! She did this for every feeding last night. I knew I shouldn't have let her nurse with the bad latch, but after 15 min of trying with a screaming baby what are you gonna do? And I think I'm getting that plugged duct again b/c she didn't drain the breast properly either.

Is there something about 2 weeks old that makes a great latcher/sucker just suddenly refuse to do it? I know she knows how dammit! This morning's first feed was a bit better, but she still is just sitting there with her mouth hardly open flicking her tongue over my nipple until we're both frustrated.

On birth control and DTD - I'm still planning on going back to NFP, but I'm no where near wanting to dtd so it isn't an issue yet. I'm still getting rid of this UTI and bleeding a bit and with nursing round the clock I'm a little touched out. Dh has been getting his kicks other ways though, so he's not feeling neglected - I just could care less about myself in the process.
11-07-2008 03:31 PM
CrunchyDoula
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Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes View Post
Morning, everyone!



Question - Who has had Mirena? I'm getting one and have been told that it's mighty uncomfortable to have put in. I'm sure it won't compare with childbirth but I'm starting to have anxiety about it.
I am getting the Mirena at my 6week pp visit and I had it after we had our DD. I personally loved it! It hurt a little bit going in, but it was more the menstrual crampy feeling and achiness afterward that bothered me. Once I took advil that first day I was just fine and you could never even tell it was there after that!!
11-07-2008 03:04 PM
birthdancedoula Birth certificates~ we got Iris' birth certificate when she was a week old. We went in to the vital records office with proof of pregnancy and the babe. B/c my mw's practice isn't legally recognized in this state, dh signed as the certifier of the birth. There are a bunch of hb's in our county that the woman who records birth info isn't even phased by processing a home born babes birth certificate.

IUD~ I plan on getting a Paraguard soon. Take some Motrin before you go to have it out in...like 800 mg. It is the best for crampy uterine pain that often results from IUD insertion.

Question...anyone's babe hate their car seat? Iris hates hers. All my other babes went peacefully asleep when they rode in the car but Iris screaming her little head off. It makes going anywhere nearly impossible. This is a new one on me.
11-07-2008 01:50 PM
Orionbelt I got the Mirena as well and am waiting to have it put in. My doc told me to take some advil before going into the appointment but my friend who just had twins had it put in and she didn't even really notice it and loves it so far. I'm like you though and I'm a bit nervous...I just shot something rather large out my who haa so I'm nervous about sticking anything back up there!
11-07-2008 11:33 AM
Baby_Cakes Morning, everyone!



Question - Who has had Mirena? I'm getting one and have been told that it's mighty uncomfortable to have put in. I'm sure it won't compare with childbirth but I'm starting to have anxiety about it.
11-07-2008 11:17 AM
kristenburgess ^ for the birth certificate we just did it this week w/ Galen just over a week old. We both had to go in with the baby so this week while DH is still off work made sense. We also filed for his social security number - we had to take the birth cert. to the ss office, along with my labor and delivery record.
11-07-2008 09:55 AM
Mamja
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For those having baby sleep outside of your room or in their own bed.. how old are they and how did you do it? Ainsley won't sleep if she's not on me-- well, she might for maybe 20mins or so, but I cannot wake up every 20mins! She's actually been doing this the last few nights and I'm just at my wit's end & exhausted. I'd love so much for her to sleep on her own in my room, but don't know how to go about it. Ds slept with me until he was a year, and the transition into his bed was smooth, he was ready.. but it was a long, rough year! I don't like co-sleeping to be honest.. but it's the only way I can get any sleep.
Carolyn has been in her own bed from the start, and in her own room maybe since 1-2 weeks. I really wish we could have coslept, but not only would I not be able to get ANY sleep that way, but I would not trust a baby in the bed with DH. He's a very deep sleeper and just the other day he elbowed me in the face in his sleep. I couldn't even get any sleep when Carolyn was sleeping in our room. She's a very loud baby, and I'm such a light sleeper that it just didn't work. Not to mention I'd lie there awake monitoring her breathing to make sure she was ok. It's funny to think that having her further away makes me sleep better, but it does.

Anyway, to answer your question... we didn't have to do anything to get her to sleep in her crib. It's funny, because she pretty much can't be put down during the day, even for naps. But she has no problems spending the night in her crib. Maybe it's because we get up and respond to her immediately if she makes noise, so hopefully she doesn't feel abandoned.
11-07-2008 02:16 AM
PassionateWriter
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Oh-- the other reason for my giddiness-- I took a shower without anyone here to help with the babe-- and it worked! No cries interrupting my 10 minute shower-- and I got to clip my toenails too!


Question for those of you who had out of hospital births-- when did you file your baby's birth certificate? I need to call for the appointment for next week, but don't feel like there's a hurry.
my big indulgence the other day was painting my toe nails! lol! so silly to relish that huh?

be careful, depending on what state you are in. After 6 months, we have to go through the state, not the town, in my state. From what i have heard, its a big PITA after that. I JUST made it w/ ds3. lol! Considering we were officially UC, there is no MW filing anything in our state.



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All of you people who are talking about sex just amaze me. Even if I didn't have stitches, there's no way I'd be ready anytime soon.
I think it just depends on teh person, and the birth. DP actually wanted to wait for 6 weeks! lol! I was like "uh, no!!!". I did wait over 2 weeks though....we celebrated after the election! lol!
11-06-2008 11:25 PM
mamanurse
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For those having baby sleep outside of your room or in their own bed.. how old are they and how did you do it? Ainsley won't sleep if she's not on me-- well, she might for maybe 20mins or so, but I cannot wake up every 20mins! She's actually been doing this the last few nights and I'm just at my wit's end & exhausted. I'd love so much for her to sleep on her own in my room, but don't know how to go about it. Ds slept with me until he was a year, and the transition into his bed was smooth, he was ready.. but it was a long, rough year! I don't like co-sleeping to be honest.. but it's the only way I can get any sleep.
We have a hot water bottle and we warm up her cosleeper before putting her in it. She's completely asleep when we put her in it and the heated bed helps transition her from my warmth.
11-06-2008 11:20 PM
neveryoumindthere Megan- I looove the idea of cosleeping and coslept with both my girls until they were 2. With my first I loved it, for the most part, but I think mostly because I couldn't imagine there being another way...I still love sleeping next to her, with my 2nd though, I hated it. She squirmed(and still does!) waaaay too much and I never got a good night's sleep. Again, even now I cannot sleep next to her. But I kept going because I literally don't know any other way.

And now with ds, last night (and a couple other nights the last week) I found myself angry and ready to hurt someone with the middle of the night wakings. I had severe postpartum depression after both my girls, no doubt, lack of sleep contributing to that, so I'm going to *try* having him outside the room and see if that gets me more sleep. If not, I will have to go back to cosleeping I guess. I don't have any other room in the house that could be his and even if I did, I can't imagine having him be somewhere that far away all night long. I don't know how mainstream moms do it, honestly, unless they are all using the CIO method

I'm going to check out the Nightime parenting board and see if I can find any tips. I can't believe I'm on #3 and still looking up ways to help kids fall (and stay) asleep :
11-06-2008 11:05 PM
Faerieshadow Add Elina to the list of babes fighting sleep and nursing constantly! Third night in a row she's gotten very fussy and wants to be on the boob constantly, falls asleep, but wakes up about ten minutes after I put her down. I tried laying with her in the bed, lights low, to see if she wanted to start bedtime early, but no. I tried attempting to keep her awake, and she was miserable. : Hope we figure it out soon...

Clothes... DH took me clothes shopping today, sweet man.. he *hates* to shop, but came because he says I keep spending the money I'm supposed to buy clothes with on stuff the kids need. It was nice, because he picked out several tops that he liked, which works for me. I'm wearing size 5 jeans, was in a 1/2 pre-pg. Which doesn't sound too bad except for the bit of saggy tummy that won't go away until I get the crunches going for awhile I suppose... :/
11-06-2008 10:23 PM
mkmb129 For those having baby sleep outside of your room or in their own bed.. how old are they and how did you do it? Ainsley won't sleep if she's not on me-- well, she might for maybe 20mins or so, but I cannot wake up every 20mins! She's actually been doing this the last few nights and I'm just at my wit's end & exhausted. I'd love so much for her to sleep on her own in my room, but don't know how to go about it. Ds slept with me until he was a year, and the transition into his bed was smooth, he was ready.. but it was a long, rough year! I don't like co-sleeping to be honest.. but it's the only way I can get any sleep.
11-06-2008 09:34 PM
mamanurse Hazel and I learned to nurse lying down!!! Yay us! I'm so proud

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I'm sure it's not popular around here but I plan on having him sleep just outside my room tonight, so that I'll hear his cries, but not all the other random non-awake noises he makes. I know from my past 2, that I get suicidal with sleep deprivation and I'll do anything (not CIO though!!) to prevent that viscious cycle this time around.
Nothing wrong with that IMO. I only wake up to crying and can't imagine being woken up ALL night long by the random grunts and squeaks she makes. I personally couldn't do it because I HAVE to hear her breathing in order for me to fall back asleep. I'm that paranoid
11-06-2008 09:30 PM
mamanurse
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I'm sure it's not popular around here but I plan on having him sleep just outside my room tonight, so that I'll hear his cries, but not all the other random non-awake noises he makes. I know from my past 2, that I get suicidal with sleep deprivation and I'll do anything (not CIO though!!) to prevent that viscious cycle this time around.
Nothing wrong with that IMO
11-06-2008 09:24 PM
neveryoumindthere lee1203- It's awesome you are doing this for your baby despite the struggles. Your dd has a great mama

Megan- That's great on the weight gain. We had similar here, 9 oz. in 7 days

Tara- my ds is doing the same thing. That's what I was coming to post about, actually. I'm so tired! He was up to nurse like 20 times last night, aside from all the grunting and squirming when he's not nursing. It just drives me insane when I'm trying to sleep!

I'm sure it's not popular around here but I plan on having him sleep just outside my room tonight, so that I'll hear his cries, but not all the other random non-awake noises he makes. I know from my past 2, that I get suicidal with sleep deprivation and I'll do anything (not CIO though!!) to prevent that viscious cycle this time around.

Em- I totally feel you on DH not taking over when it's OBVIOUS that help is needed. Like a couple days ago, ds is crying and crying and I'm making dinner and he doesn't budge!!! HELLO, go get OUR son, he's not just mine u know! Overall he's trying, really he is, but I feel like I really shouldn't have to remind him that we have THREE kids now, and I only have TWO hands :
11-06-2008 08:33 PM
Amber Lion Just skimmed the posts.. Hi to everyone!!

AAM: I was last night. Dh had come home early from work and then proceeded to take a 4 hour nap. I was a little :, but he's tired too. But THEN, he did no parenting all evening once he was up and then left me on the couch dozing waiting for Addie's next nursing and went to bed himself! So... I faked deep desperate sleep later on when she woke up and he had to entertain her for a few hours and change some diapers. He'll do whatever parenting I ask him to do, but getting him to volunteer to just hold her for a while never happens. Doesn't help that my mom is still here b/c he just says, "Give her to Grandma" and my Mom is like, "Oh, I'll take her!". It's getting on my nerves a bit, but after a nap myself today I'm feeling a bit better. I know it's mostly on me right now b/c only I can nurse her, but sometimes it's just nice just to get a break. My mom is great at giving me any breaks I need, but for some reason I want HIM to take over not her once in a while!
11-06-2008 07:56 PM
Changed Tara-
have you tried swaddling? My lo does that sometimes and that's when I adore the swaddle me!!!

Oddly, it's good to hear you're at the brownish CM stage since we gave birth on the same day and I was just wondering if I shouldn't have stopped all together by now.
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