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08-18-2010 11:36 PM
knittygritty EDIT: Whoa, sorry to ressurect this dino! It was the newest one on the forum list!
01-10-2010 02:10 PM
oiseau Here's the link! Come join us!!
01-10-2010 12:50 AM
Lucy03rn I'd love to join this tribe! I've been reading Mothering for a while. My husband and I have been married for a little over two years, and we're getting closer to TTC. But, we're not quite ready. I'm also worried about our fertility because I have PCOS and my husband is very overweight. We're working on getting healthier right now!
01-04-2010 11:47 PM
aquarius aspiring

*bumps*

I'd be interested in a winter 2009/2010 NMY thread.

I need to poke and prod myself to get started on the "before kids" check-list (of sorts). So far, I've got lose weight, starting eating better, and take daily vitamins.

12-22-2009 11:23 PM
AMFemmeFlesh Hi!

My Hubby and I are just beginning to TTC; after much reading - we've decided to take the plunge! I look forward to learning about other TTC NMYs.
12-18-2009 05:35 PM
oiseau *bump*

Anyone still around? I'd like to revive the NMY thread...any interest?? Let me know and I'll try to start a new winter thread for us.
11-19-2009 11:49 AM
Cukie Hi I am new and hope this is the right place to stop by and say hello. Similar to another poster I am going through posts and beginning to learn the new acronyms. I hope to learn and give back to this community.
DH and I will be TTC 2010. We are 32, and are excited to start on this journey!
I tend to over think and over research everything - occupational hazard, why I am here but know babies just have their own schedule
10-15-2009 01:43 PM
oiseau

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The coolest resource I've found for young adults with cancer is Fertile Hope. That site should answer most of the questions you might have. For guys, things are a billion times easier because it's so easy to collect and freeze sperm for later.
Also, I babysat for a family in which the dad had been diagnosed with colon cancer when their first child was 2 weeks old. When I began babysitting for them, their daughter was 3.5 and they had an adorable 6month old son who was naturally conceived after the dad finished his chemo.
Hopefully none of this info will be necessary and your partner will be ok. Feel free to get in touch with me though...I am still a cancer newbie, but I have learned a ton of stuff in the past few weeks. Best wishes!

10-11-2009 11:08 AM
ladyinred Hey, I've been AWOL for a while. In the spring, being on here was getting to hard on me emotionally. So many people close to me were having babies and I still have a long time to wait and I find that hard. My brother and SIL had a healthy baby boy a month and a half ago. He's so beautiful.

I'm still waiting on a full time teaching contract so I can have mat leave, but now DP has just got a new job with much better medical benifits so that's a good start.

My bad news is that DP may have colon cancer. He had an ultrasound the other day (after many other tests that all came back negative) and there are two lumps in his intestines. We'll find out more on Wednesday at his doctor's appointment. I'm trying to stay positive but I'm also really worried. For others who have dealt with similar situations, any advice? Can chemo affect fertility? What can I expect?
10-11-2009 10:16 AM
Kyamo I saw pictures on Ravelry - JessicaRenee's baby was born.

As for my update, I'm on my last pack of pills now, but we won't be actually TTC after that. I just want to have some time off the pills before TTC to learn to chart and let my cycle come back.
10-11-2009 01:50 AM
EricaDoula My hubby and I are TTC. He finished chemo April 27, '09. So, we've been trying for a few months now! Hoping for a 2010 baby!!
10-09-2009 08:10 AM
knittinanny Oiseau - You are strong and amazing, sister. You will be okay. I'm really sorry that your TTC schedule has gotten pushed back because of such a big health scare, but I try to believe in silver linings and all that. We're always here if you need us! When do you start treatments?

AFM, I don't know what's going on. DP and I were all ready to start our course of IVF (we had one more test left) and then DP decided s/he didn't want children, or did, but not now, or maybe that s/he didn't even want to be with me anymore. I don't know if we're separating, divorcing, staying together....everything's up in the air right now. I'm pretty crushed. We've been together for 12 years. S/he's been my only partner ever. I have no idea how things will work out.

So...roll on with the happy updates!
10-08-2009 05:09 PM
oiseau

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10-08-2009 03:18 AM
terrordactyl Where is everyone these days?
09-30-2009 02:59 PM
gringuitica
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I had to realize at a certain point that I can never really be ready. Learning as much as you can early is good, though. I like that your DP is reading too. I'm sure it makes things way easier to be on the same page.
Hehe, well, by reading, I mean that I read and post-it everything that I want him to read. He's doing well though! Pretty open-minded about everything, even though Costa Rica is not very progressive when it comes to baby-raising. They're great with breastfeeding, but don't get started on selective vaccination or homebirth - non-vaccination or deviation from schedule is, by law, considered child abuse (the police can get involved) and midwives are not allowed to practice here. Anyway, that's getting off-topic! The point is that DP is supportive and trying to keep his mind open to natural parenting, as am I - this is a journey for us both! I have no doubt that wanting to deviate from the norm is part of what has us nervous - when you see one thing all around you but want to do another thing, it's easy to second-guess yourself. Thankfully, we have one friend (who introduced me to this forum) that is raising her 8-month old in a natural way, and it's wonderful to see him growing into a happy, healthy and very well-adjusted baby, even without all the "normal" accoutrements.
09-29-2009 06:15 AM
Mama2Dane
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Originally Posted by tippy View Post
dh and i were lucky enough to get a BFP this cycle (last week wed actually)! so i guess i can be moved over to the pg section. our EDD is 5/29/10.
Congratulations!!! It's too exciting, isn't it?

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Relatively new to MDC (new enough that I have to reference everyone's acronyms!) and new to NMY, so I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm 26, birthday May 19, and my DP and I plan to begin TTC mid-2010.

I always knew that I wanted to be a mom, but now that we're gearing up to TTC, I feel both excited and nervous. We're starting to read books, have subscribed to Mothering magazine, and are trying to educate ourselves on the basics, but we can't help but feel underprepared. I guess I feel that we'll always feel underprepared - how can you be totally ready for such a life-changing event? - but it's still an unsettling feeling. I hope I'm not alone! Have you ladies felt like that, too? How do you calm your concerns?
Welcome.
I had to realize at a certain point that I can never really be ready. Learning as much as you can early is good, though. I like that your DP is reading too. I'm sure it makes things way easier to be on the same page.
09-28-2009 03:44 PM
gringuitica Relatively new to MDC (new enough that I have to reference everyone's acronyms!) and new to NMY, so I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm 26, birthday May 19, and my DP and I plan to begin TTC mid-2010.

I always knew that I wanted to be a mom, but now that we're gearing up to TTC, I feel both excited and nervous. We're starting to read books, have subscribed to Mothering magazine, and are trying to educate ourselves on the basics, but we can't help but feel underprepared. I guess I feel that we'll always feel underprepared - how can you be totally ready for such a life-changing event? - but it's still an unsettling feeling. I hope I'm not alone! Have you ladies felt like that, too? How do you calm your concerns?
09-21-2009 01:16 PM
tippy just updating my stats....

dh and i were lucky enough to get a BFP this cycle (last week wed actually)! so i guess i can be moved over to the pg section. our EDD is 5/29/10.

i hope all those looking for a BFP get theirs!!! sending lots of baby dust.....
08-28-2009 09:38 PM
oiseau I'm still here. I finally replaced my dead old laptop, so I'm not sharing my boyfriend's computer anymore and I can be on MDC all I want. Not much new going on though. Wish I had a better idea for jumpstarting this thread again...
08-24-2009 04:56 AM
terrordactyl wow its been dead in here for awhile
08-07-2009 08:11 PM
kimiij
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Originally Posted by Minarai View Post
Hi, I'm new here, not married yet, no kids yet.
I joined so I could gather as much parenting advice ahead of time as I could so I won't have to go on a crash course when and if I ever get pregnant. I've seen (and AM, for that matter) what happens when moms-to-be don't do their homework: elective caesareans, formula feeding, circumcision, vaccines, the whole nine yards.

Do I meet the criteria for this tribe, or am I missing something?
If so...


It's been kinda quiet around here lately but you're in the right place!

Anyways...I'm still here...I'm about to start midwifery school and so I'm super excited about that :

Not so excited about still being single but I've since made a move to a small city/university town so hopefully my prospects are looking up.
08-04-2009 10:21 PM
APBTlover You're welcome here! :
08-04-2009 01:46 AM
Minarai Hi, I'm new here, not married yet, no kids yet.
I joined so I could gather as much parenting advice ahead of time as I could so I won't have to go on a crash course when and if I ever get pregnant. I've seen (and AM, for that matter) what happens when moms-to-be don't do their homework: elective caesareans, formula feeding, circumcision, vaccines, the whole nine yards.

Do I meet the criteria for this tribe, or am I missing something?
If so...
08-02-2009 09:22 AM
Mama2Dane I've been extremely busy over here. The last 12 weeks have all been focused on getting through dealer training. Now that I'm finally in the casino, I can calm down and focus my attention on the babe. The pregnancy is going well except my iron was low and my platelets were low -- but I'm working to change that.
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A question to anyone who has experience charting: temping doesn't work for me because of insomnia issues, so I've pretty much given up on that, but I still pay attention to cervical fluid as well as the position of my cervix. We don't rely on it for anything, I just keep track of it because I like to know what's going on. Anyway.... My cervix keeps doing weird stuff, as in, being soft and short one day then firm, long and closed later that day...then repeating the whole thing the next day. I think I O'ed last weekend, and it's just been weird this week. Any ideas??
I would still try to temp every day after your longest stretch of sleep and then make sure you just mark the time. It won't be perfect, but temping is more art than science anyhow. Your cervix should normally change throughout the day so you could just pick a time in the morning and stick with that time every day. I know that helped keep my chart a little more consistent. I hope you find some of this useful!

to all those TTC!!!!
08-01-2009 07:55 AM
oiseau



A question to anyone who has experience charting: temping doesn't work for me because of insomnia issues, so I've pretty much given up on that, but I still pay attention to cervical fluid as well as the position of my cervix. We don't rely on it for anything, I just keep track of it because I like to know what's going on. Anyway.... My cervix keeps doing weird stuff, as in, being soft and short one day then firm, long and closed later that day...then repeating the whole thing the next day. I think I O'ed last weekend, and it's just been weird this week. Any ideas??

07-30-2009 08:26 PM
APBTlover
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Originally Posted by tippy View Post
after 5 yrs of charting to avoid, it's going to be so weird to "break" the rules - lol.
It is, isn't it?

I know this is unusual for this site (or at least those who frequent the TTC board!), but I am not charting this month. We decided to just do what we wanted, when we wanted, and see what happens. DH in particular didn't want to jump from "obsess about avoiding" directly to "obsess about conceiving." Of course, if things don't work out in a few cycles, we'll be back to charting. Anyway, what this translates into for me is... I don't know exactly when/if I ovulated. So I don't have the days down to a science, like everyone else seems to. I feel kind of strange that everyone else is "6 DPO" and "testing next Tuesday morning," etc. I'm just like, "um, I could be pregnant, too! I hope so! Maybe I'll find out in the next couple of weeks?"

I am silly.
07-30-2009 03:35 PM
zejh
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Originally Posted by APBTlover View Post
Sooooo.... it's been quiet in here! How is everyone?
I'm nearing the end of week 16 of working on disqualifying myself from belonging here.

About 5 months to go!

It's been good-boring the past few weeks, after a bad-interesting June.

Good luck to those of you who are just starting out!
07-30-2009 02:14 PM
tippy
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Originally Posted by APBTlover View Post
Sooooo.... it's been quiet in here! How is everyone?
just checking in...well, today is CD6 of TTC cycle #1. i'm extremely.scared but hopefully everything will work out after 5 yrs of charting to avoid, it's going to be so weird to "break" the rules - lol.
07-28-2009 05:21 PM
APBTlover Sooooo.... it's been quiet in here! How is everyone?
07-15-2009 04:52 PM
rhiOrion Woooo! YAY! May the BFPs be plentiful!

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