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05-01-2004 07:04 PM
Greaseball I'm starting to feel like a single parent! Dh is NEVER here. He started his student teaching, so it's like he has a job from 5 AM (the school is in another town; has to leave early) to 4 PM, only he doesn't get paid; he has to pay to do it. And unlike a real job, after it's over he has a lot of homework. But unlike other homework, it can't really be done at he has to drive to his college, which is in yet another town, and on the weekends he has to either do more work or meet with his supervising teachers. I thought the point of being married was that there would be two parents!

He just left a while ago today and dd was supposed to be taking a nap, but she won't, even though she is really tired. So we've been doing the thing where I put her back in her room every time she gets out, until she sleeps. So I finally get her to stay in her room for about 15 minutes, and there is a knock at our door. It's hard to tell if it's our door or a neighbor's, so I just ignore it, but then the guy knocks again, really loud and insistent, so I decide to go see what is so important. I stumbled out of my chair, and on the way down the stairs I slipped and scraped my belly on the baby gate!

And it was just some @#$% wanting to sell some $30 "wonder cleaner!" He went on and on, while I was trying to tell him now was not a good time. I suppose I should have just shut the door in his face. Then dd came out of her room and wandered downstairs and wanted to go outside, so I'm trying to control her and telling this guy that it's not going to happen today. Finally he left. I'm going to ask dh to get a no soliciting sign. And maybe a no religious people sign too, since last week the Jehovahs were making their rounds.

I wish dh would be more reasonable when I ask for things that would help me. I'm not used to being a SAHM, and last time I was pg, there was no other child to care for! But I asked if we could hire a cleaning lady, and his response was "That's something only rich people do." I see ads all the time for individuals who will work for $10 an hour! I'm sure we could afford that! Neither of us has time to clean. I can usually do some during the day but then by the end of the day, it's back to being messy again. And his idea is that dd should be in preschool, which we really can't afford! Also, she's not quite old enough and is still in diapers; none of the schools here would take her. He has also opposed the no soliciting sign because he has worked as a salesman and says it's hard work and we shouldn't discourage them. But he never buys anything from them...:

When dh left for the day he said he was going to get some movies we could all watch together so we could have "family time." I'm starting not to feel like it. I think if we have time to watch movies, we should be cleaning. And my belly still hurts. I'm pretty sure it's only scraped on the outside. The baby seems to be moving normally.
05-01-2004 06:46 PM
3girlsmommy Hey ladies! I'm so glad that everyone seems to be doing better. It has been beautiful the past couple of days and my kids have been living outside. It's so nice to send them out and then go and read a magazine in a lounge cahir outside. The only downside is that my allergie are driving me CRAZY! Dh mowed the lawn today and my nose feels like it's on fire!!!

On a super happy note! My friend had her baby last night. A little girl. She ended up being induced because her fluid was leaking. I'm so proud of her though because although they didn't get off to a great start she is breastfeeding!!! Things were rough last night but then this morning her little one latched on and started nursing. I was so worried about the nurses attacking her and forcing a bottle on the baby that I had planned on making the hour drive out to help her get things going successfully but I didn't need to!! I'm so happy for her. I know how badly she wanted to breastfeed and it seems like it's going to work out!! This is one of my first friends that has breastfed outside of my LLL group friends. It feels so good to know that I played an important part in making her realize it was a very viable option! SHe has seen me breastfeed everywhere for the past 5 years. Anyway I'm just so excited to not be the only one finally!!!!

HAve a great night everyone!!!
05-01-2004 11:30 AM
Queen of Cups Happy Saturday, ladies!

I'm doing pretty well, no regular contractions since the terb (though I've had a few here and there - but not intense or regular). Still on the procardia, so my legs are a lovely shade of pink!

My parents are totally freaked out - they live 16 hours away and are planning on driving out as soon as I go into labor. My mom had a VERY similar experience with PTL, apparently, and my dad was out of town and had to rush home, so they're both quite worried about the whole situation. According to them, my sister was born on her "due date" but they knew she was almost a month early becasue they knew when they conceived (mom was still nursing me, so I guess her LMP dates looked funny). Sis was fine, but was only 5 lbs and jaundiced and had a few other health problems as an infant. My dad's mother had his older brother WAY early - my uncle only weighed 2 lbs at birth, it is a miracle that he survived (he's 56 years old now). You ladies see why I've been figuring I'd go early?

Anyway, DH and I are off to go house shopping again today. The plan is for me to sit in the car while DH and our buyers agent check out each house. If it looks promising, then I'll go in and walk around. But hopefully this way I'll save a few trips. Houses are FLYING off the market around here, so we really need to get in gear and put in another bid ASAP! (we were outbid on the last one) Our lease is up June 30th, so we've now got sixty days to find a house, but in a bid, close, and move in. Oh, and have a baby, too!
05-01-2004 04:03 AM
Modesto Doula Hello mommas!!
I've kinda dropped off the last week, I've been trying to read, just haven't had time to post.
Im so happy that everything is okay with NewBean and your little one Queenie! You both have me wondering how you are all the time! Rest dear ladies, and cook those babies until they're done. Its a hard road uphill even for babies a little bit early.
I've been having BH contx since I was about 10 weeks I think. I couldn't hardly believe that's what they were so early, but it was the same feeling... funny how a BH contx can give you the same feeling at 10 weeks you get at 30, but I recognized it. I hardly ever had any with DD, but with DS I had quite a few, mostly while nursing. We arent nursing anymore, but I must get at least 20-30 BH a day (more if DH and I are active ) Sometimes Im convinced Im going into early labor cause they come pretty frequent and pretty regular. But since they dont progress and they only make me feel short of breath in a weird way, I dont worry about them.

I had an appt with an OB for back up early this week. what an experience!! I waited 45 minutes for this guy ans spoke with him a total of about 6 minutes. It was a new patient appt and he didnt ask about past pregnancies, births, no pregnancy history whatsoever. He wrote on my chart that I was 30 weeks instead of 34 (which I corrected him on). He asked a couple questions, but mostly to himself cause he didnt listen to what I was saying , just looked through the paperwork I brought from my mw for the answer. He measured me and didnt tell me the measurements, he dopplered the heart beat, doesnt tell me the rate. He straight up told me that acupuntture and chiro are RUBBISH for breech babies, that the studies were wrong. (PS anyone have those studies? I used to but they've disappeared, and Ive PROMISED to bring them in for him to read~LOL) He treated me like a child, didnt listen to my first two requests for a light appt schedule (cause Im seeing my mw as well and dont want to fork out 30 every week to come see this dude when he aint catching), didnt listen to the reason the GBS swab was done at 34 weeks instead of 36 and scheduled me for another one at 36 wks, before I would even be finished with a GBS+ protocal anyway to treat for it. Im straight up refusing that sh!t. Next time I go in, its to meet his partner, Im not letting some stranger up in me for a culture that is completely unnecessary!! (or one that my MW let me do myself- which she did, in the privacy of my own home) I cant beleive how I was treated in that office! Seriously, he is one of 4 OBs my health ins pays for. I think Im going to end up seeing all of them before this pregnancy is over! And the sad fact is, IF I had to go in on a nonemergent transfer, Id just get whomever is on call anyway... stupid Kaiser.
Anyway it was a massive wasted of time. And what pissed me off the most is that I had to sit in that stupid waiting room watching a boring CNN Health reruns on that stupid accent health program that ADVERTISES Nestle formula directly to preggo mommas waiting to see their OB. Gotta love america.
04-30-2004 10:44 PM
Greaseball I don't think I've ever had a bh ctx. Not with this one, and not with #1. Either that or I just don't recognize them or feel them.
04-30-2004 10:36 PM
mattjule Well, we went grocery shopping last night and dh had an open bottle of ice tea which I threw in my bag (i.e. purse type thing). When I got to the car, I pulled it out and it was empty. I could actually pour it out and my bag is all fabric! Needless to say everything was pretty soggy and sticky. So I made myself a new one. LOL. My bro was wondering why I didn't just wash it and I plan to, but in the meantime I need something. Plus I had wanted a new one anyway.

Managed to have my glasses saudered (sp? Pregnant brain!) and they don't look too bad, though it was really frustrating to be without them for half a day.

My mom bought me a fancy new sewing machine (embroidery machine!) I finally called the sewing machine shop today confused about it's ultimate purpose. Is it mainly for embroidery or can it replace my other machine? Evidently it can replace my machine so now I am unsure what I want to do with my old one. It is only a year old, if that, and I have a couple friends who could benefit from it (I'd sell it to them), but my MIL paid for most of it so I am wondering if I should give her the option of taking it, and at the same time I am a little leary of getting rid of it at all. I know the only way I'll use the fancy one (LCD screen!) as my main machine is if I get rid of the other one. It is so scary looking, but the other one is the regular type of machine I understand. It's dials and manual threading are somehow comforting. Anyway, just a bit at a loss. I did however use the embroidery feature for the first time today and that was fun.

Dh got a bunch of packages, all with packing peanuts (what is so wrong with nice, unmessy bubble wrap?) and at the moment Tain is jumping around in them all over the floor...has them stuck all over his body. It's pretty funny.

I feel like a retard, but for some reason I have a hard time telling a b-h ctx from the baby pushing outward. You'd think I'd be able to remember seeing as I went through this 2 yrs ago, but no, I don't remember. I am pretty sure I have been getting bh all day today. With everyone going early, it has me a bit paranoid. I need to stop reading birth stories, I think I am too ready and I am afraid I am psychosomatically going to start something. I need to baby is only 31 wks!

So that is another reason I am curious about the cervix thing-want to know if I should do something or if everything is normal and I am just freaking out.
04-30-2004 04:31 PM
Greaseball I still can't find my cervix. I have short fingers! It's probably just as well - I'm declining all internal exams, even while in labor, because I just don't want to know. I don't want to find out at 39 weeks that I'm 4 cm, and then start freaking out and wondering why contractions haven't started yet. I don't want to find out that after 10 hours of hard labor, I'm only 5 cm, and then rationalize that it'll take another 10 hours to get to 10 cm. So if I don't want the midwife to know, there's no sense in me finding it out for myself.

I declined her offer of the 5W formula. She said it would help things go along smoothly, but I'm going to go with the assumption that things are already moving as they should and don't need any help. She thought it was a good attitude. (No offense to anyone here who uses it, though.)
04-30-2004 04:10 PM
Originally Posted by eilonwy
I can't say I'm thrilled with the colostrum poopies (it's got a major laxative effect on toddlers, because it's designed to get meconium out) but I'm glad my little man is actually getting something.
I'm right there w/ you and those nasty colstrum poopies. I was all worried yesterday when my little one had to big nasty poopies and then it dawned on me that my milk must be mostly colostrum these days. YUCK!
04-30-2004 12:17 PM
eilonwy Greaseball, you're a short person, right? They're probably just not used to that. As a short person, though, I totally understand. When you lie on your back, your baby seems to climb into your ribcage with your lungs, because there's no place else for them to go... I can't breathe at all if I'm on my back. I have to be stretched out as much as possible, regardless of what position I'm in... it's done wonders for my posture. :LOL

This morning, I had something happen that hasn't happened in a long time-- I woke up with a wet shirt!! My nursies were leaking in the middle of the night! I'm so happy, and Eli was thrilled this morning. I heard more swallowing than I've heard in ages. Fabulous!

I can't say I'm thrilled with the colostrum poopies (it's got a major laxative effect on toddlers, because it's designed to get meconium out) but I'm glad my little man is actually getting something.

Last night, I saw a friend who has a newly-walking 10 month old. He definately weighs more than Eli, he's at least 25 pounds, but until recently he'd been a fair bit shorter. I was watching them last night, and if Eli's got 3/4" on him now, it's a lot. I was like "How come your son is growing but mine isn't?!" He's a sweetie moose baby. She laughed, but when she picked up Eli she almost tossed him into the air, he's so much lighter than her son. He's a MiniBean, all right. I never really expected him to be big, but he just seems so small next to other children!
04-30-2004 01:32 AM
Greaseball I had an appointment today and the midwives were really concerned that when they did the abdominal palpating, I felt kind of uncomfortable and out of breath. It's always like that, even when I'm not pg - it's just uncomfortable to have someone push on my belly. But they seemed to think it wasn't normal. They were saying that because of my responses, they will probably try and be as hands-off as possible during the birth. Which is what I wanted anyway...but I don't get why they think it's abnormal? I think that when you lie on your back, with a heavy thing sitting on your belly, and then someone is pushing on top of the thing, of course it will feel weird!

They also thought it was strange that I had discomfort during the vaginal GBS swab. Probably because it was a dry wad of cotton! They asked if pelvic exams cause me pain, and normally they do. This might be due to the forceps scars, and also because someone sticking their whole hand in there and rooting around just doesn't feel right! It's not what the vagina was made for.

I have low iron and low blood pressure...more beef and more water, they said!
04-30-2004 12:33 AM
Queen of Cups I'm feeling pretty good today! I'm working from home and taking frequent naps, as well as staying off my feet as much as possible. The terb wasn't fun, but it was just the two injections there. I'm on Procardia, which isn't bad at all (makes me a little light-headed and flushed).

We got the sad new that our bid wasn't taken on the house we wanted, so we're back to looking. We're not going out looking again until Monday, but that's probably for the best since I'm on bedrest till then. DH is VERY upset about not getting the house, though.
04-29-2004 11:10 PM
rubelin Hey Rynna, if it's not too late, I am going to the PO tomorrow and can send my beads. I found my padded envelopes last weekend but figured I was too late. LMK if that will work, then you won't have to go out and get more. oh, and yay for NewBean to be safe and cookin

Queenie, how are you feeling today?? I have been a wee bit freaked that you might go early, since we have the same EDD. I had an appt with my MW yesterday and she said they would like me to hang on at least 9 more days and then I'm free to go into labor, lol! It's mostly because I'm having a homebirth and they really aren't suppose to let me stay home if I go before 37 wks. Just the thought that it could happen this month is so weird! Anyway, lots of "stay in" vibes to you and hope the terb isn't making you feel too awful!!
04-29-2004 05:43 PM
eilonwy Okay, some of you don't browse the whole June 2004 board, I guess. We're quite prolific posters! :LOL At any rate, for those of you who haven't seen it, my most-recently updated list, right at the top for all to see:
Birth Blessing List
04-29-2004 05:37 PM
mattjule Grease-I am pretty sure she got it-she made a comment about Eli loving the rubber chicken in the bracelet thread. I was wondering what that was about!

Rynna-I can send another couple dollars to you for mamadosa (my friend in town). If you would go ahead and add her to the list and send it in my envelope that would be great-I'll paypal you right now.

My cervix has always been kind of low-sucked when I had an IUD, though it made checking it easy. I think I'll ask my mw about it at my next appt on Tues.
04-29-2004 05:23 PM
Greaseball Did you get my bead? I'm worried that I didn't include enough postage, since it was a big envelope. I also included a little rubber chicken in the package.
04-29-2004 03:25 PM
eilonwy I've been looking over the beads, and quite a few people on my big list haven't sent beads yet... have they dropped out?

It's not a problem to make a few more bracelets; those go really quickly! I just need to know how many beads I need to pick up at AC Moore. I guess it can wait until Saturday... I'd rather go tomorrow, just because I like to get things out of the way but Sunday would probably be the most convinient day to go (because Eli will be home with Daddy in the morning) anyway. I guess I'll wait until then!

Julie, I'm so sorry to hear about your glasses! I've got excellent eyesight, but I grew up with a mother who literally slept with her glasses in her hand so she could find them in the morning. I can remember her sitting in her bed, less than three feet away from her glasses which she had uncharacteristically let go of in the middle of the night and asking me to find them for her becuase she couldn't see them. She was seriously within arm's reach, but she was afraid to move around too much for fear that she'd break them by tossing them off the bed.

My sister used to run over hers with roller skates, though. She hated her glasses. :LOL

It still floors me that anyone beyond 20 weeks can reach their own cervix! I tried when I thought my water might have broken, and I couldn't get near it in any position. My cervix is normally very high (I guess I have a long vagina.. ) and difficult to reach, but I can if I squat. Now that I'm pregnant, between short arms and a belly I can't reach it to save my life, even though I'm told that it's very low. Hey, if you can reach, go for it! :LOL I just can't imagine it! I could barely reach to wipe myself when I was 33 weeks pregnant with Eli; I had to do a dance. :LOL :
04-29-2004 02:03 PM
ksjhwkr Ryanna,

I am SO relieved that all is well with newbean!!!! And that Eli is potty learning, that is amazing. He is only a month older than Emma would be. That just blows my mind that she would possibly be doing the same thing! WOW! Lots of high fives and hugs for that sweet boy!
04-29-2004 01:59 PM
Greaseball I've not been able to find my cervix! After giving birth it was very low, and I thought it was going to fall out...that's what I yelled at the doctor when they were pulling the baby out - "You're pulling out my uterus!" It felt like I was being turned inside out. But now, just like with the first pg, it's so far back I can't reach it. Too bad, because I'm curious.
04-29-2004 12:41 PM
mattjule Rynna-could you put an extra bracelet in my envelope? I just became friends w/ a June mama and she wants to be part of it (she posted over there yesterday) but was wondering if she was too late. If there are enough beads, it would be really awesome and we live super close so I could just give hers to her by hand. (which would actually be really fun).

Well, Matt had a meeting this morning, so he is sitting on the edge of the bed putting on socks and I am lying on the bed curled around him and we are talking and in comes Tain. Yeah, he pounces right on my head...and breaks my glasses. I was so mad! I know he's 2, but geez, we tell him 10 million times a day to be gentle and he doesn't get it. So my face hurt a little, but the worst part beyond the hurt and the cost of replacement is my inability to see! I have worn glasses since 2nd grade. My eyesight sucks. I am squinting right now. I want to scream!

Rynna-sorry about your should be impressed, I think he is very young to be initiating and successful at potty training. Your niece sounds so cute! SO GLAD TO HEAR EVERYTHING IS GOOD WITH THE BABY!!! I think all of us have really been thinking of you...

QoC- hang in there mama, you are doing great! It must be really frustrating! How are you filling the time?

Anyone do their own cervical checks? I was curious the other night so I tried-took me forever to find it and usually it is pretty easy. It was really soft and not tightly closed-like a whole fingertip open. So I guess my question is for those of you who have had more than one baby, do you notice cervical changes earlier? I don't think I am near to giving birth (31 wks, I hope not!), but I never did my own checks last time so I don't have anything to go off of.

I sold a couple purses to a friend last night. That was a nice surprise. Woke up thinking about another design to do, so it was a good kick in the heiny to get motivated about it again. Still have Rowan's quilt to do and I know I am avoiding it, which doesn't feel good, but I hate working with batting-especially on quilts. It's easier with a quilting foot now, but I still get frustrated. I'll do it before Mother's Day. Well, I guess I should get going. Don't know what I am going to do being blind and all, but I'll try to figure something out. (sigh)
04-29-2004 11:43 AM
eilonwy I'm still here, and still cooking! It's possible that I had a minor tear, but it repaired itself & the fluid has replenished itself. (where's the "relieved" smiley? :LOL) NewBean is still inside and cooking, and my cervix is very low and a bit soft but still long & closed. Good stuff! Apparently NewBean is also sitting lower in my pelvis than she was, she just shifted and that's why my belly is smaller.

I told my doctor that I felt like I was being paranoid and he said that I wasn't nearly as paranoid as most people, and that he'd be nervous too if he'd been through what I had (not knowing for sure when my water had broken before). He says a lot of people start getting nervous if anything goes differently in the third trimester than it has been, and I actually seem less nervous than most. Funny, I felt like I was totally on edge! :LOL Then again, I am a much more laid back person in general since Eli was born... having a baby in the NICU changed my priorities (and Mike's) faster than anything else I've ever encountered. All of a sudden it felt like I was ridiculously close to the whole life cycle and I've never viewed things the same way since. I've heard that most women feel this way when they become mothers, but I wonder if it's so powerful for women who have nice, uncomplicated, healthy births. It seems to me that most people I've met are temporarily transformed and then slowly morph back into the people they were before... but I digress.

QoC, I totally sympathize about the terbutaline & procardia. Ick! I remember when I got my first shot of terbutaline, the contractions didn't stop... I spent 5 hours in the hospital lying around (they wouldn't even let me sit up in case Eli's head engaged) being miserable, waiting for the contractions to stop. I even got a shot of morphine for them twice, they were horrible.. Ickiness! I had to take terbutaline tablets, and then when those started making me too sick (too jittery to function --I couldn't button a shirt, and Eli was jittery too ) then they put me on procardia. Damn, that sucked! I was in school at the time and I was soooo depressed about missing classes! At any rate, that your contractions stopped after the first shot is a really good sign!

Eli is actively potty learning. Yesterday, I put him on the potty as soon as he woke up. He peed, and then he was dry for our entire car trip! An hour and a half!! As soon as I got to my mom's house, I put the potty down and he peed again. My younger niece was downstairs and she clapped and said "Hooray to peepee potty! Hooray for Eli BeanBean! Yay! You are a big boy!" It was so sweet! I just had to kiss her big round cheekies. :LOL He peed on the potty twice more, and I missed a few. I can't help but be impressed, but my mother is totally unsurprised. "You all trained like this, I thought it was normal. I always wondered what the big fuss was about potty training." Yes, but can't you just take a minute anyway and be impressed with your grandson, who is starting this on his own initiative younger than any of your grandchildren so far? (Older niece started at 18 months, younger at 2.5; 2.5 year old nephew is wearing pull-ups because his mother is insane but doesn't use the potty at all, to say nothing of regularly. For some reason, his mother thinks that if he wears pull-ups, he will magically potty train. ) Anyway, *I'm* impressed with Eli. Go EliBean!

My appetite has been sporadic. I don't think about food at all except for Eli, but then when Mike mentions eating and puts something down in front of me I inhale it. :LOL It's so strange. I wish I could just eat during the day, but I'm so busy trying to get things done! I found out last week that I can now get a lot of work done without too much pain from sciatica. In fact, I can't remember the last time I had a lot of pain from it.. I think the endorphine rush from actually getting something *finished* (putting the winter clothes away & reorganizing the dressers & closets for NewBean's arrival) totally cancelled out the pain (which was minor anyway). Kick ass!

Last night Mike found out that his annual physical is this morning (he thought it was May 26 instead of April 29. Turns out that's a dentist appointment. :LOL) He was really ticked off about it, because it meant he had to take his insulin and go to sleep without eating anything. That always puts him in a bad mood, because he used to have huge issues with having low blood sugar in the morning, and now he's got two people in bed with him. He put some birch beer (sugar water!) beside the bed and said if he started to get twitchy to get Eli away from him and start pouring the stuff down his throat, and fasting blood sugar be damned. I totally agreed and went to sleep. I wasn't worried, though; the insulin he takes before bed tends to keep his blood sugar nice and even.

And now, I'm going to go count beads... you've all mailed them to me, right? I want to go to AC Moore tomorrow or Saturday.. probably saturday so I don't have to take Rt. 11. :LOL
04-29-2004 10:44 AM
3girlsmommy How is everyone feeling this morning?? Are all those babies still safe and sound and still cooking??

I have my last swim lesson w/ my youngest until this next little one goes to swim class. My dh is taking over swim class duty starting w/ the next session. Yippeee!! He's the one that insisits that the kids take swim classes because he was a former life guard and also on his college's swim team. He believes that is is very improtant for children to be exposed to the water young. MY oldest is 4 and has been swimming for without a bubble now for a year. It's amazing! Dh wants a pool but I refuse until the youngest is 5 and even then I'll have to have every safety alarm thingy known to man!

MAddie wants me to read so I must go!
04-29-2004 10:20 AM
curlygrrl Argh, I've been sick with, no joke, my 10TH cold since I've been pregnant and I've gotten behind again.

QoC: I hope you are feeling okay and can hand onto that babe for another week or so!

Rynna: Wasn't your appointment yesterday?? I'm so nervous for you. I've actually been worried about leaking water too but my midwife said everything seemed fine Tues.

I agree about the uninformed people. I did a lot of reading in my first pregnancy and was convinced that hospital birth is not necessarily the best course, but the books I've read lately have really blown away. I read "Rediscovering Birth" by Sheila Kitzinger and right now I'm finishing up Ina May Gaskin's latest. I couldn't believe it when I read that childbirth actually got more dangerous after doctors started delivering babies! When I start thinking about that it really makes me crazy that the whole country has been brainwashed to think that homebirth is horribly dangerous. /rant

04-28-2004 11:04 PM
Queen of Cups Greaseball - the terb was not fun. Luckily I was using hypnosis for pain management... I had only just started to work my way into deep relaxation when they gave me the first shot. After they remove the needle it continues to sting/burn for about 15 minutes, and then you get very jittery and your heart is pounding. They gave me the second dose about 40 minutes after the first, and by then I was much deeper in hypnosis and was able to numb out my arm almost completely, but I've been jittery all evening. Nothing horrible, but just like I'd had about 3 cups too many of coffee. So worth it though to keep from having a pre-term babe! It stopped my surges instantly, and I think I've only had one since then. (at the midwife appt they were coming every 5-7 minutes)
04-28-2004 08:26 PM
3girlsmommy UGH! I'm so tired! Lately I feel like my kids are conspiring against me getting any sleep! My oldest has been sleeping in her bed all night long for 9 nights until last night! But my youngest has decided that since sissy is sleeping so well that she is going to wake up several times a night and scream! I broke down and gave her motrin last night before bed because I suspect that it's her teeth(darn those second year molars!) and she only woke up twice and went back to sleep relatively easily w/ the exception of her deciding at 5:00 it was time to be up for hte day : . I just want sleep!!

Ok whine over!

I can't stand uninformed people who feel the need to spread negativity about birth. If they would just shut up and READ they would realize that most of their information is just plain WRONG! I had someone tell me recently that I was foolish for wanting to eat during my birthing time and that I should just get the IV because it's best anyway! WHAT???? Thanks but I had an IV w/ my first because I couldn't keep anything, water included, down and let me tell you it sucked! The thing is I didn't ask for her opinion but of course I'm a pregnant women so I want stupid useless advice from anyone and everyone!

Yesterday I thought I was going to need to call my midwife. I started getting shooting pain up my vagina and down my thighs. The same sensations I had when I started dialating w/ my youngest 2 weeks before she was born. They were so bad I just sat around and did as little as possible yesterday and let my kids watch more tv then usual. Thankfully they have let up a lot. I'm only 32 weeks so this little one really needs to cook for at least another 5 weeks, 7 would be better!

Hope everyone has a great night and keep all those babies cooking!!!
04-28-2004 07:50 PM
Greaseball QOC - What is the terb like? Are there a lot of bad side effects?

My pubic bone pain hasn't been as bad when I walk, but at night it hurts when I'm trying to turn over in bed. I have to turn over in three separate movements, and when I lie on my back in the middle of it, that's when it really hurts. It also hurts when I cough... :
04-28-2004 07:41 PM
Queen of Cups Another exciting day, and all ends well... I started having more intense and more regular surges around 11:30 today, went into the office about 1:30. I hadn't progressed since Monday - and the baby was actually a bit less engaged so my cervix wasn't as effaced (I was 80% Monday, down to 70% today - so the bedrest is helping). But after watching the NST monitor and seeing regular surges, the midwife sent me over to the hospital to have a round of terbutaline. When I got over to the hospital they hooked me up, gave me a dose and the contractions stopped instantly. They gave me a second dose about 40 minutes later, it was working so well that they didn't give me the regular 3rd dose. The nurse checked me again, I hadn't progressed, surges were stopped, so they sent me home. woohoo! The nurse said that hopefully the terbutaline will buy me 1-2 weeks, which I would be thrilled with... so the final verdict is that I'm on bedrest and procardia until Monday - if I start labor after my appt Monday there won't be any interventions to stop it. (Personally, I'd like to go one week past that at least, so I may stay on bedrest for a few more days after Monday.)
04-28-2004 06:39 PM
ksjhwkr Susan,

I agree, she needs to educate herself before she goes bashing my decision! :

About the pubic bone pain, I have it a lot!! I've been going to a great chiropractor this whole pregnancy. She will actually adjust my pubic bone for me and WOW does it make a difference! Speaking of which....I think I need to go see her tomorrow!
04-28-2004 06:36 PM
ksjhwkr "He asked if there were going to be "nurses and stuff" there, and if they could do a c-section at home!"

Ok, that just makes me laugh!!! I've had people, after I tell them Emma was a c-section baby, ask me if she was born at home. Yeah, the doctor was really excited to come into my HOME and do a c-section!!!! People just don't listen I guess! :
04-28-2004 06:09 PM
Doodlebugsmom QoC, I agree with Julie. I gave up on taking other parenting boards seriously a while ago. You are definately doing the right thing by taking the medication and staying on bedrest. No need to jeopordize your nursing relationship and the health of your baby, although chances are if your baby was born right now, he/she would be fine. You wouldn't want to risk it though. Especially if it meant that your baby would need to be wisked off to the NICU for observation. Those first hours are very important!

Kim, those who refuse to educate themselves aren't worth the time. I'm sure this lady means well, but really she should at least take the time to research homebirth if she's so darned concerned about it!

Anyway, yesterday I was having so much pain in my pubic area that I was sure my pubic bone was splitting apart. Whew, it was bad. Today, I don't have that pain at all. Do any of you have this happen? Unfortunately, I feel like I'm coming down with a sore throat. Ugh.
04-28-2004 05:47 PM
Greaseball Ugh, the non-supporters...fortunately I didn't have many that were very vocal about it with #1 (which ended up being a hospital birth after all). Most people didn't even listen when I told them, apparently, because a few weeks later they would be talking about "when I go to the hospital..." : But now we aren't telling that many people. I told one guy, and he was surprised. He asked if there were going to be "nurses and stuff" there, and if they could do a c-section at home! :LOL I don't tell them unless they ask where I'll be having the baby or if I'm going to the local hospital. Although, the guy who asked if they could do a c/s at home asked me if I was planning on having a "natural" (read: he didn't want to say "vaginal") birth because he thinks the baby is huge. So I said, "Yep, we'll be doing it at home."

I have this fear that I'll somehow jinx my homebirth plans by talking about it too much, since that's what I did last time and then I had to go back and tell everyone we didn't do it after all. So I don't even talk about "the midwives," I say "my practitioner."
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