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05-09-2004 11:33 PM
seedling QoC, it will happen. Though I bet it is frustrating to feel so close and have it peter out.

Ah, Mother's Day. My DH is a dream. First of all, our weekend was really busy. He helped a friend really early Saturday am, then took DD shopping for my mother's day gift and all the groceries we needed, then mowed the lawn, then put up shelves in the landing (I FINALLY FINISHED THAT DANG PROJECT!), then stayed up with me until 2 am getting the house cleaned and two quiches made for Mother's Day brunch (hosted here for his Mom). He made the most beautiful quiches ever.

Then he got up sometime butt early this morning, set up my Mother's Day gift, got DD up and had her make me a card, and then made me breakfast in bed. But when they delivered my breakfast in bed they decided "the bed was too lumpy, let's have breakfast on the porch" and they had gotten me a table and chairs for our deck! I'm so excited! I've wanted a set for the deck for quite some time and it was so nice to sit out there and have my decaf and look at the paper. Just lovely. The back yard is fenced so I could sit out there in my PJ's and just relax. Ah. Oh, and my DD got me a little sunhat to wear when I garden so that I don't get sunburnt. Very sweet. I look like a little old lady but I'm going to wear that hat faithfully.

Then we all got dressed and headed off to early service with DH's parents. Back here for a beautiful brunch totally put together by DH. We enjoyed it at my new table. Then in-laws went home, DH took DD for a walk to get her down for her nap and *I* got to take a nap. What heaven! Then this afternoon my Mom, sister and nephew came up and we went out to a local park for a nice picnic dinner. DH ran around with the kids and put up with my crazy family with a minimum of displayed annoyance...a difficult task. The only downside to the whole day was dealing with my sister's completely insensitive parenting style...but I'm not going to focus on that. It was just a lovely day.

Now, reality will hit me tomorrow morning when I realize I have neglected my work completely AND have my home visit in the afternoon. I'm going to have to work my butt off tomorrow. Sigh.

Off to bed.
05-09-2004 10:44 PM
ksjhwkr QoC- HUGE HUGS GIRL!!! Your body is doing what it needs to!!! You are 1/2 way there if you are at a 5! Baby will be here soon enough..I know it sounds nice and all, but when you are big and tired and sick of being's hard to remember that! Hang in there sweetie!!!
05-09-2004 09:57 PM
LizD That's quite normal and even a good sign that things are moving along nicely. I have had clients have hours of regular contractions and then after a few hours of all of us staring at each other, the midwife will suggest we go home and go to bed and it's been two weeks before more labor that results in the birth. So don't be discouraged, especially if nothing much happens for a while. It's all normal. And good for you for leaving the hospital instead of getting uptight and induced.
05-09-2004 09:40 PM
3girlsmommy QoC- Here's a great big hug for you! Remeber your baby will come when your baby is ready. And don't worry about dissappointing us worry about taking care of your self! Go relax and watch a good movie and snuggle w/ your dh!
05-09-2004 09:28 PM
Queen of Cups Sorry to dissapoint all of you... Apparently 18 hours of regular surges only succeeded in taking me from 4cm to 4-5cm. I stayed at the hospital for about an hour and half and then decided to come home. Since then the surges have completely petered out. Been an extremely dissapointing day, all around.
05-09-2004 01:46 PM
Greaseball So they cultured the urine and it came back negative? Or they didn't test at all?

Since I had 7 UTIs and kidney infections with #1, with this pg I bought a bunch of those test strips and tested myself at home each week, since the infections I had been getting were asymptomatic until they reached the kidneys or showed up on the strips at my monthly exams.
05-09-2004 11:57 AM
mattjule Smithie-I would too! Yuck! Hope you feel better soon now that you have something to help you fight it.
05-09-2004 11:49 AM
Smithie Reposted from Health:

Well, it WAS a UTI. I got a fever and the shakes last night, so we went to the ER and just got back. It hasn't spread to the kidneys though, and the babe looked really good on the EFM once I rehydrated and had some Tylenol for my fever.

I am going to strangle my doctor, though.

Now, off to bed!
05-09-2004 10:02 AM
Originally Posted by mattjule
Anyone else kind of excited that QoC hasn't posted since this morning? I hope she is doing well and having a baby! Since I am due the very end of June, I get to birth babies again and again through you guys! How awesome is that?
Julie- I was thinking the same thing! She hasn't posted since 8:25 yesterday morning. Could we have our first baby???!!!!

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY everyone!!!
05-09-2004 03:16 AM
mattjule well, I wrote a long reply to the whole unwanted pregnancy/bad parenting thing, but evidently it didn't post. Bummer.

Liz, what an aweful experience. I bet your dh worked really hard on that surprise for you, so sad that it didn't work out well, not to mention the utter horror of what happened!

Anyone else kind of excited that QoC hasn't posted since this morning? I hope she is doing well and having a baby! Since I am due the very end of June, I get to birth babies again and again through you guys! How awesome is that?

It's 12:16 am where I am, so happy official Mother's Day! Extra belly rubs for everone!
05-08-2004 09:11 PM
3girlsmommy Wow Liz! I'm sorry your night out didn't go as planned. I never understand when people get angry about things like that. It's kinda sick and twisted.

Smithie- I think pelvic tilts, spending time on all fours laying on the desired side would help move your little one over.

I think I have a long little one growing inside. He/she seems to be in both my bladder and my rib cage at the same time. My left side is KILLING me.

We had lunch today w/ the moms for mother's day. It's so funny to listen to everyone make their predictions because we know the sex but they don't know we know. Dh & I just laugh about it because my mom is certian she know what the baby is and she's wrong!!

My brother's girlfriend is pregnant again. My neice is 18 months old and she wasn't wanted and either is this one. It's so sad and very frustrating. She refuses to educate herself on birth(wouldn't even take a chldbirth class) and absolutly won't breastfeed. She thinks it's gross and useless since they have now developed a breastmilk formula I've given up! My neice was fed solids at less then 3 weeks of age and has more allergies then I care to think about. She's whiney and clingy and just an unhappy baby. SOmetimes I just want to smack my brother! UGH!

Hope everyone has a happy mother's day!!!
05-08-2004 08:55 PM
LizD My baby is mostly posterior and I sometimes feel the kicking to the right and the butt on the left (this is after having it pointed out to me by the mw). But mostly the legs and feet and knees are in front and of course so are the hands and arms, which punch and scrabble at my bladder. My daughter wasn't posterior up until the birth, I don't think, but she came out face up. I had a short easy labor even though she was face up and even though I refused to do anything but lie down so I'm not worried about this one. It is uncomfortable, however, and I have to pee much more frequently than I remember doing the first time.

I was correct in my suspicions and we were supposed to see David Bowie Thursday evening, but after the opening act a lighting op fell to his death onstage. My husband is in the AV business and this was someone he knew, so instead of our night on the town bash (we had a hotel room also because he was working there), we of course had a most distressing evening. People in the audience actually complained the concert was cancelled, which I found so abominably disgraceful it almost upset me more than a colleague's death.

I look forward more and more to my prenatal appointments. Monday I have my group B strep screen and make the appointment for our home visit. Within ten days I'm supposed to have all this stuff bought and ready, egad.
05-08-2004 08:39 PM
Smithie OK, I'm going to take the suggestion of the kind mama who posted in my UTI thread and try get James to shift his position. His back has consistently been along the right side of my uterus. I'd like him to wiggle around and lie along the left side to ease my bladder pains.

So how the HECK might I accomplish this feat?

I feel very embarrassed that I've made it this far without learning about how to shift the baby... but I have not wanted him to shift until now!
05-08-2004 01:27 PM
Greaseball Woo hoo! I am 37 weeks today. Bring it on!

I've been having this occasional pain on one side of my belly. It's an area about the size of my palm. It's not a contraction; it lasts for several minutes. Ouch!

My mother is coming to visit tomorrow. I'm really not in the mood to be entertaining, so I hope dh will take care of all that.
05-08-2004 01:20 PM
ksjhwkr QoC- Have fun yardsaleing!! There aren't good ones in Utah like there were in Kansas. I miss that a lot!!! Sounds like your body is doing what it is supposed to to bring this kiddo into the world! How exciting for you!!!

Julie- That is strange about the vitamins, but listen to your body. You are an intuitive person and your body will tell you what it needs. Have fun working on the quilt and reading your new book!!! I always love getting new books!!!

Have a great Saturday everyone. We're going to our 2nd Hypnobirthing class, that should be good. I am not really looking forward to tomorrow. It's my first Mother's Day in 2 years without Emma. 2 years ago, I'd just found out I was pregnant with her. Last year she was 5 months old. This year, I have a full belly, but empty arms. I plan on going to visit her at the cemetery for a good long time on Sunday.

Happy Mother's Day to everyone, what a fabulous group of mothers this is!!!!
05-08-2004 11:34 AM
mattjule sorry I've been MIA lately...I've been checking but somehow couldn't really find anything to say. We don't interview Peds. I have decided not to do well-baby check-ups and since I won't be vaxing our current ds anymore and the new one at all, well, I guess it doesn't seem very necessary. Not to mention we don't have insurance on our kids so if they get sick enough to see a dr., I'll kind of cross that bridge when we get there. Most likely I can look up 98% of it in my homeopathy book and hopefully take care of it before it needs a doctor. I don't know, we'll see I guess. In both of my hb's, my mw has checked/wil check both baby and me at 1 day, 3 days, 1 week, and 6 weeks. I don't think I took him in to the Dr. until he was supposed to get his first round of shots (before I did any research about vaxing).

QoC-have fun today! being mobile was a great way to keep things going for me, but make sure you are resting a lot just in case this ends up taking a while. Can't wait to hear your birth story and see pics of your baby!

Smithie-got the check yesterday, thanks!

What's the word on the bracelets?

So how weird is this...I start feeling anemic, so I take iron pills 3 days in a row as well as taking 2 prenatals (6 is the recommended dose, I usually take 1 if I remember, which I haven't been lately) and my calcium. I start having restless legs at night so I start downing bananas too. Then I decide to take a break from all the vits for a day or two-they give me horrible gas and I have to be careful or I get diarrhea too. So the day I stop taking them, no restless legs and I have been able to sleep well ever since. AND I didn't have a banana that day-prior to that I had eaten 5 in a 24 hour period trying to get some relief! So now I am feeling like a) am I some sort of freak? or b) have my problems with vits become so ingrained in my mind that I psychosomatically create more problems when I take them? I mean, who ever heard of stuff like this? It certainly isn't usual-I have tried to find info online and haven't come up with much.

Dh gave me Adventures in Tandem Nursing for Mother's day. I am so excited! I really want to read it before the new one gets here and I don't really like my local LLL group so I couldn't borrow it and the library doesn't have it. Since it is becoming obvious my ds is not ready to end our nursing relationship, I figure 8 wks out is a good time to start preparing myself.

Today my goal is to finish Rowan's quilt and find something to make a friend for Mother's Day. Oh, and I need to make my bro some laundry bags-he's moving out for the summer! Well, no time like the present! Have a great Saturday ladies, belly rubs to everyone...
05-08-2004 09:25 AM
Queen of Cups Well, I made it through the night and my surges don't seem as intense or regluar this morning. So we're off to go yardsaling! (DH thinks that will bring on the baby for sure!)

Happy Saturday, everyone!
05-08-2004 09:23 AM
seedling That doesn't sound like PTL to me! How exciting! I wonder if QoC has had that baby yet?

I put waterproof covers on both beds last night (so I can take my pick) and am planning on spending the weekend cleaning in preparation for Monday's home midwife visit.
05-07-2004 11:07 PM
Queen of Cups Actually, I've had a lovely afternoon. My surges are still coming regularly, and the intensity is a bit more, but nothing painful. (Just bad menstral cramps.) My m-i-l and I went shopping, I watched a movie and took a nap, we fixed dinner, then we went for a 45-minute walk. Lovely! I'm going to go take a shower with DH and then listen to the birth day affirmations. I figure by tomorrow morning I'll know if this was just more PTL, or if its the actual thing. I'm completely at peace either way...

The baby will be born at a hospital, attended by a CNM. I told them that I plan on laboring at home for as long as possible - and both of the midwives in the practice highly reccomended that. I'll go in to the hospital if either my water breaks or if the surges get closer to 3-4 minutes apart. Last time I timed them (about an hour ago) they were still 5-6 minutes apart.
05-07-2004 10:11 PM
ksjhwkr QoC- Where are you planning to have the baby? I can't believe you could be going so soon!!!! I'm with 2girlsmommy~go take a bath and relax!!!!
05-07-2004 08:43 PM
3girlsmommy QoC- If this is your time, Happy birthing!! Know that we will all be thinking about you and sending you vibes for an easy comfortable birthing. Now go put on your birth guide cd and take a nice relaxing bath!
05-07-2004 08:04 PM
Queen of Cups Well, I don't know if things are starting to move along or not... (On Monday, the midwife said her guess was that I would deliver "in the next 1-2 weeks.") I've been having regular surges since about noon (6 hours), but they haven't gotten too intense, and last time I checked they were 7-8 minutes apart. Since then, though, I took a nap. But now that I'm up and about, they're still coming... I'm certainly not anywhere near needing to go the hospital or even call my family in VA - but this could be the very beginning of things! Tomorrow is my grandfather's birthday, Sunday is mother's day, and Tuesday is my grandmother's birthday - any of those days would make for nice birthdays!
05-07-2004 05:16 PM
ksjhwkr QoC- Thanks! We were in Lawrence when Emma was born. So, we saw Anne VanGarsse there. We moved to Shawnee when Em was 5 months, but I liked her doc so much I just drove over there. Hope that helps you some!
05-07-2004 01:44 PM
Greaseball QOC - I know what you mean about being told stress will hurt the baby. That just creates more stress! And it's an excuse for other people not to do things to help us - they can do whatever they want, and we can't get stressed or angry if we care about our baby.

What pregnant woman doesn't feel stressed?!
05-07-2004 11:08 AM
dharmama Kim ~ Glad you found a great dr.

I am an emotional/hormonal wreck today. Just saw my MW and she told me that she and her DH are joining the Peace Corp.

I am SO happy for her...this is her life-long dream...but I'm so sad for me. I just her.

She's closing her practice on June 30th so it shouldn't affect me (I'm due June 15 and the practice won't let me go over 42 weeks anyway) but I will have to see her partner at a new office (the big OB/GYN office I left last year ) for post-partum care.

Anyway...I have SO much to do today (my one day off from work) but I don't feel like doing anything. La, la, la...

05-07-2004 10:48 AM
eilonwy Thanks! Eli is feeling much better today. His fever broke in the middle of the night and we woke up with a very sweaty little boy. Must have been a 24 hour bug. He's not in pain, his headache is gone, but he still prefers me (he hasn't asked for Mike and has been fairly clingy this morning) so he's feeling better but not 100%. I still wonder what made him sick.. Ah well. He's fine now, so it's all good! :LOL

I, however, had a horrible night and am not feeling my best. Icky icky ick!! Mike got me a playball two days ago, and sitting on that is really comfortable. It's incredibly sturdy so I don't feel like I'm going to break it. The only problem is that it needs a bit more air than it has, and I don't have a pump for it. I'll have to find out if my mom has one floating around somewhere. That, and I can't hold Eli while I'm sitting on it.. and that's simply unacceptable right now! :LOL
05-07-2004 10:38 AM
Doodlebugsmom Wow. Sorry that some of you have family that seems to act unreasonable at times. I must be very lucky.

Kim, congrats on finding the right dr. That's awesome. You must feel much more at ease now.

Rynna, I hope Eli is feeling better. Poor little guy! Poor mama too! I can't imagine trying to care for a sick child right now. I already feel like I'm at my wit's end! I can't find the energy or motivation to clean the house or cook dinner. I feel like such a slacker!
05-07-2004 10:16 AM
Queen of Cups Kim - I'm so happy that you found a doctor!

By the way, were you in the Kansas City area? If so, who was your old pediatrician?

So far, I'm feeling much better today. We're off to do the house inspection, and hopefully that will be a positive experience...
05-07-2004 12:41 AM
ksjhwkr Well, we found our Pediatrician today!!! We interviewed Dr. Borgenicht, he was SO compassionate and kind. He realizes how difficult this pregnancy is for us and that we will have more questions than most 2nd time parents. He is absolutely great!!!! He couldn't believe what the other doc said, he was pretty upset by that. He has no problem with us doing delayed vaccinations, co-sleeping, and thinks it is great that I love to breastfeed. Oh yeah, and he also said that he will only use antibiotics if they are absolutely necessary. That is great, he's not into overmedicating!!! I am just thrilled and relieved beyond belief! Oh! And the other doc wanted us to bring the baby into the office the day after s/he is born for a checkup. This doc said that as long as the midwife thinks baby is fine, we don't need to come in until baby is 2 weeks old. I love that!!! WHEW! Huge sigh of relief from me!!!

QoC- Huge Sorry your family is being so dumb!

Ryanna- I hope Eli gets feeling better soon. That has to be so hard.

And, I know my pregnant brain is forgetting something else I was going to say, but hey! We all understand that!
05-07-2004 12:09 AM
eilonwy QoC, your post really struck a chord with me. I'm sorry you're having such a crappy time dealing with family. Ick! I told one of my sisters I wouldn't let her take Eli for a drive after learning that a)she had driven with my nephew without a carseat when he was 13 months old and b)she didn't know how to fasten the straps properly on Eli's seat, to say nothing of installing it correctly. She was so offended by that, but mom and my other sister told her off. :LOL

My FIL has studiously avoided any mention of this pregnancy. It's really quite amusing, actually. :LOL Of course, he thinks we're all going to burn in hell. It just blows his mind that his only son has strayed so far from the path! :LOL The fact that not only are we excited but that we totally *planned* this pregnancy would probably make his head spin if he thought about it, so mostly he pretends that nothing is going on. It's absolutely hilarious, because MIL, while she wishes things were a bit different, is really quite excited about NewBean and her impending arrival. This will be her second grandchild and her first granddaughter, how could she not be thrilled? :LOL I am almost certain that the only reason FIL hasn't sat the two of us down to talk about our sinful life is that MIL threatens him in that quiet, non-threatening way she has. :LOL It's absolutely incredible to me how much control that woman weilds without raising her voice a single decible.. she doesn't even say hop before he says how high. :LOL

Mike and I fought a lot more last pregnancy than we have this time, mostly because Mike now knows his duties and what he must do. Keep me happy, and it will all be over soon. :LOL The fact that I've made it to 32 weeks feeling so good and with relatively few problems... well, that's just icing on the cake for him. He'll do anything within his power to keep me happy for the next few weeks. Now if only I can teach him to do this during the second trimester next time... :LOL
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