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11-12-2009 11:21 PM
~Katie~ NEW THREAD!!!
11-07-2009 07:50 PM
Maluhia
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Originally Posted by racie0417 View Post
New here and with alot going on....

My DH is in the AF and will be leaving very soon for a joint assignment Special Ops deployment. We are at a training base where few people deploy, and his work has been less than supportive.

We have a 26 month old son, who was just diagnosed on the autism spectrum. I am going to have to navigate getting him set up in the EFMP program by myself. We have a 7 month old son with severe reflux. I have beeen battling to get better medical treatment for him since he was 3 weeks old, but am consistently ignored by the doctors. For example, they refused a referral to a ped GI until he was spitting up blood. Now they are blaming lack of weight gain on poor breastmilk supply and refusing to do food allergy testing.

I don't have any family support, and am not close with my family. I do have a pretty good local support network but few people can manage 1 of my boys for a short period of time, and I don't know anyone that can handle them both.

Any suggestions?
Okay - do you have PRIME or Standard? I'd say switch to Standard so you don't have to wait for a referral. That being said you need to go to the MTF Ombudsman and ask for help - because this attitude with medical care is NOT okay.

On your EFMP - do you have the contact, help of his command? I think they have to sign off on lots of paperwork so you want them to know, before he leaves, that they need to assign an XO or CO who you can speak to who can sign the paperwork - NOT some low-ranking guy who will always promise to call back when he talks to someone. Get that "someone"'s number directly and make it work!

Good luck Mama - have you made any local MDC through your Tribal area? Maybe a local SN board for Moms of kids on the spectrum? Sounds like you could use a good mentor/friend to help through this journey.

Ft. Hood
11-07-2009 11:50 AM
gingerstar Sending my thoughts and prayers to anyone affected by the Ft Hood tragedy.
11-06-2009 11:32 AM
gagin37
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Originally Posted by racie0417 View Post
New here and with alot going on....

My DH is in the AF and will be leaving very soon for a joint assignment Special Ops deployment. We are at a training base where few people deploy, and his work has been less than supportive.

We have a 26 month old son, who was just diagnosed on the autism spectrum. I am going to have to navigate getting him set up in the EFMP program by myself. We have a 7 month old son with severe reflux. I have beeen battling to get better medical treatment for him since he was 3 weeks old, but am consistently ignored by the doctors. For example, they refused a referral to a ped GI until he was spitting up blood. Now they are blaming lack of weight gain on poor breastmilk supply and refusing to do food allergy testing.

I don't have any family support, and am not close with my family. I do have a pretty good local support network but few people can manage 1 of my boys for a short period of time, and I don't know anyone that can handle them both.

Any suggestions?
That's awful! Is there anyway you can switch pcm's to someone off post?
11-05-2009 09:45 PM
MangoMommy So heartbroken about Ft hood.
11-05-2009 08:01 PM
~Katie~ Lots of prayers to anyone at Fort Hood right now that you and your loved ones are safe

My heart is breaking for all of those soldiers and their families.
11-05-2009 07:32 PM
kristenok18 For all those at Ft. Hood, or who have loved ones there, our prayers are with you.
11-05-2009 07:05 PM
Thystle {{{{{{{{{{{{{Ft Hood}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
11-05-2009 06:35 PM
Sarah W
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Originally Posted by MrsReady2bMama View Post
Thank you so much for the suggestions! I picked up some packets of Crystal Light lemonade and iced tea, and also some instant coffee from Starbucks. I think he'll really like that - he loves coffee. And if not, I'm sure he can find someone who would We also sent some photos, along with the mysterious ultrasound results. (My mom also sent him a package last week with lots of baby wipes - he requested those himself already too!)

I may keep the Christmas music in mind for next time - I bet he would like that.

Thanks again!
~ Gina
Crystal Lite is the best deployment present ever!! I loved getting it, because I was trying to quit drinking soda. You had to suck down something all day long and I'd get tired of water.
11-05-2009 05:15 PM
kirstenb It's been awhile since I have checked in on this thread, just thought I would pop in to see how everyone was doing! We are doing well here. DH isn't in the middle of a DI cycle which is really nice, so he has been able to come home every night and all weekends. DS is ecstatic about that! Plus he'll be able to be off for a few weeks when the baby comes (hopefully any day now) which will make a huge difference. He was deployed when DS was born so this is all new for him!
11-05-2009 04:17 PM
nia82 We used the Costco wipes as wet wipes for us, just you cannot flush them... so we switched to Scotty's. Pretty cheap too.

@ Soul-O: you can see the money more quickly. Your DH needs to harass finance all the time. It took 4 weeks after his promotion for us to get the backpay and new salary on his paycheck. It took less than 3 weeks to get our DITY money (each time!) and DLA and so forth. We pester them a lot, in a friendly way, but he keeps checking up every other day. That way, you do not have to wait ages for your money. We'll see what happens in June when he'll promote to the next rank. New base, you never know
11-05-2009 02:06 PM
EdnaMarie The costco wipes are great. Plus they don't LOOK like baby wipes.
11-04-2009 06:41 PM
racie0417 New here and with alot going on....

My DH is in the AF and will be leaving very soon for a joint assignment Special Ops deployment. We are at a training base where few people deploy, and his work has been less than supportive.

We have a 26 month old son, who was just diagnosed on the autism spectrum. I am going to have to navigate getting him set up in the EFMP program by myself. We have a 7 month old son with severe reflux. I have beeen battling to get better medical treatment for him since he was 3 weeks old, but am consistently ignored by the doctors. For example, they refused a referral to a ped GI until he was spitting up blood. Now they are blaming lack of weight gain on poor breastmilk supply and refusing to do food allergy testing.

I don't have any family support, and am not close with my family. I do have a pretty good local support network but few people can manage 1 of my boys for a short period of time, and I don't know anyone that can handle them both.

Any suggestions?
11-03-2009 05:19 PM
MrsReady2bMama The Costco ones are the only ones we buy - too funny! They are great
11-03-2009 05:08 PM
~adorkable~ i hint on baby wipes, the cheep ones from Costco are great and dont smell like baby t all! we have used them for years
11-03-2009 05:07 PM
MrsReady2bMama Thank you so much for the suggestions! I picked up some packets of Crystal Light lemonade and iced tea, and also some instant coffee from Starbucks. I think he'll really like that - he loves coffee. And if not, I'm sure he can find someone who would We also sent some photos, along with the mysterious ultrasound results. (My mom also sent him a package last week with lots of baby wipes - he requested those himself already too!)

I may keep the Christmas music in mind for next time - I bet he would like that.

Thanks again!
~ Gina
10-31-2009 01:10 AM
EdnaMarie Well, sure, but I bet for some it would be a welcome taste of home.
10-31-2009 12:45 AM
Alohamelly
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Originally Posted by EdnaMarie View Post
Can they download music? Would a Christmas CD be appropriate? I remember when I was in Afghanistan it took ages to download music and I didn't have a lot of Christmas music on my computer. I sure missed it.
My husband was asking me for Christmas music recently. The internet is too iffy and slow most times over there for downloading. Depends on who the CD is going to though. Not everyone likes or celebrates Christmas.
10-30-2009 07:06 PM
EdnaMarie Can they download music? Would a Christmas CD be appropriate? I remember when I was in Afghanistan it took ages to download music and I didn't have a lot of Christmas music on my computer. I sure missed it.
10-30-2009 05:08 PM
Alohamelly A little Christmas tree would be nice! My husband didn't have one for his second deployment and he actually took one over this time.

It's so hard to know what ot send these days because they have jsut about everything over there - including Starbucks and other chains!
10-30-2009 04:52 PM
Katsmamajama Some of the wives/girlfriends that are around here are sending "seasonal" decorations, like a theme box-- Halloween ones went out the beginning of October, Thanksgiving type stuff will go out in the next week or so, etc. etc.

Chocolate doesn't hold up at all. It's better to skip it-- the thought is nice, but it's usually one big blob by the time they get it.

Crystal Light/Gatorade tubes are good. The new Starbucks viva line is a bit pricey, but a great idea for your coffee drinking deployed person!
10-30-2009 04:07 PM
Alohamelly My husband is in Iraq right now and there's a large PX on his base, so he doesn't need a lot. There are some magazines he can't get over there and some vitamins he asked for, so I'll be sending those soon. But most things these days, they can get over there. I think anything would be fine and just getting a package will be appreciated.
10-30-2009 03:52 PM
Maluhia No problem - baby wipes, those little crystal light packets to flavor one water bottle at a time), snack food that is harder (beef jerky, thick pretezels, etc.) and PICTURES - looking at home, nieces/nephews etc. is great.
10-30-2009 03:45 PM
MrsReady2bMama Hi there! I hope it is ok to post a question in this thread, though I myself am not a military mama (and God bless you women who are!!)

(If you suggest I start a separate thread or post elsewhere I'm open to that!)

I just wondered if any of you had suggestions for what might be best to put into a military care package for someone deployed overseas? My brother deployed to Iraq earlier this month, and I'm kind of struggling with something he might find useful and fun to receive over there. It's like, you don't want to send anything bulky that takes up a lot of room, obviously you can't send perishable items, we communicate fairly regularly on email/skype so while I will be sending a letter it won't be super exciting... ya know? I'll put in a recent photo or two of my daughter b/c she's the only kiddo in his life right now and he worships her (he and his wife have no kiddos yet).

Also, this time around I will be sending him a big surprise - the gender of his unborn niece or nephew in a sealed envelope, so he'll be the only one to know! How do I top that for future packages?!

Anyhow any suggestions would be super great. And again, please forgive me for thread-crashing!

~Gina
10-29-2009 12:41 AM
EdnaMarie My midwife took Tricare in Washington state- she was an LM. She said the way she billed them, they covered most of it.
10-28-2009 11:21 PM
~Katie~ Your best bet is really going to be calling the midwife directly. CNM's are covered under prime as far as I know. They're going to know how to bill Tricare and all of the intricacies involved. I ended up paying out of pocket for mine, though.
10-28-2009 11:17 PM
MangoMommy Hmmm I think the friends I know paid out of pocket for the actual birth. They went Standard perhaps for prenatal care w/the CNM. Standard is a Global package, covers 100% except for some labs and you have to stay off Prime for a year if you are E5 and up.
10-28-2009 05:27 PM
Maluhia I've only ever rarely seen them cover homebirth and that is based on state, etc. and it's always a fight depending on rules they are forced to follow in some states. Good luck.
10-28-2009 05:24 PM
crazyeight Hey! I know this has been asked a billion million times but oy it's so hard to figure this stuff out!

I am trying to figure out home birth info! Aggghhhh! Just being pregnant is confusing enough. Now they're throwing out things like global auths and needing to have a referral to any physician for pregnancy. I SWEAR i did not have to do this for dd. Things were easier it seemed! Anyways I'm supposed to have an appt with my PCM to get a global auth for pregnancy but it's just rediculous as this point. I'm 16.5 weeks and have NEVER met this pcm let alone the fact that base care has hit the bottom of the toilet. It'd take a month to see them! Ugh. Anyways my problem is if they do cover home birth. I swear they do right? CNM's only right? We have a freestanding birth center (that became covered when i was pg with dd) that have CNM's but they don't do home births and there are no CNM's that do homebirths listed on the triwest site. So how does it work? What magic words do I need? Do they cover 100% or 80%?
10-28-2009 08:33 AM
mesa
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Originally Posted by Sarah W View Post
This is not correct. Did he give them his old orders and not his amended ones? That may be the problem. Since he's accompanied, you're authorized that HHG allowance.
nope, I'm the one that gave them the orders. I gave them the CSP orders, and then they wanted the original orders, and THEN the pinpoint orders...and then they wanted to know how long we've been married () and whether or not the Army was paying for the move (umm, duh? isn't that the point of csp?)

then she got into a long email debate with the head of transportation in Korea, who finally asked her, "if you know something about command sponsorship and Korea that no other CONUS installation knows, please let me know so we can get this case back on track. We process hundreds of families every week, and have never had this issue before"

soooo, yesterday, I emailed her a couple of times asking for an update, and she finally consented to the shipment. Gah!! I'm so ready for all of this to be D.O.N.E.

They're coming for UB today, NTS tomorrow, and HHG on Friday. Dog goes for his health certificate this afternoon, and van ships on Monday. We leave TUESDAY!!!
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