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08-30-2012 10:44 AM
bluedaisy

i have a few...

 

I have an almost 7 month old son, who has just gotten into the beginning of separation anxiety - a friend was holding him and I left the room for a few minutes.  He started crying, and when I came back he reached for me and stopped crying once I was holding him.  My friend said, "wow, it's like he knows you!"  Um, yeah - I'm his mother.  I've only been with him almost every hour since he was born!

 

We were visiting a church and there was a 3 month old girl being dedicated - the pastor was having them promise to do the typical things - raise them in church, teach them Christian scriptures and values,etc.  Then, trying to make a joke but also quite seriously he asked the father if he promised to cane his daughter when she misbehaves, since it's hard for men to cane their daughters.  As a disclaimer, this happened in a culture where probably 99% of parents use physical discipline and some schools use it as well, and obedience is extremely important - but it still shocked me that when presented with a sweet baby girl, making the father promise before God to hit her was the thing that came to the pastors mind. 
 

08-30-2012 07:18 AM
annaknitsspock
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Originally Posted by minkajane View Post

Stupidest thing I've ever heard from a medical organization: the AAP's new pro-circ recommendations. irked.gif
 

 

Truer words have never been spoken. 

 

I had to share the one I got yesterday:

We share a duplex with a nice but rough guy downstairs who just had several rehab trips to recover from alcoholism (he has been sober now for a few months, so yay him!).

 

DH and I were arriving home from work yesterday and he stopped us, telling us he had something for us and asked, "You don't have a potty chair yet, do you?" When we said no, he went into his condo and brought out an ancient wooden potty chair with a strap to LOCK BABIES IN (which our neighbor gleefully pointed out). After DH and I had politely accepted it and thanked him, he said,

 

"And I'm not using it anymore--I used to keep it in the kitchen and use it when I was too drunk to make it to the bathroom, but I'm sober now!" bigeyes.gif jaw2.gif

 

I have no idea if he was joking, but needless to say my jaw hit the floor! He's a nice guy, but what a weird thing to say! 

08-29-2012 04:30 PM
philomom
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Originally Posted by minkajane View Post

Stupidest thing I've ever heard from a medical organization: the AAP's new pro-circ recommendations. irked.gif

 


Oh, I agree. How many boys will be maimed because they want the 500$ a circ from the insurance companies? That HIV stuff they quote is so-ooo cherry picking. HiV transmission rates are lowest in countries like Sweden and Japan, where men have intact genitals.
08-29-2012 04:24 PM
minkajane

Stupidest thing I've ever heard from a medical organization: the AAP's new pro-circ recommendations. irked.gif
 

08-29-2012 02:57 PM
aurora_skys

Got one, 

 

A couple months ago the repairman for my apartment complex was trying to fix my dishwasher. My 3 year old son's nails were painted some color, I don't remember. The repair guy got onto me about how I shouldn't paint his nails because it would make him gay. After a while of him going on and on about how nail polish is just for girls, I got irritated and started defending the nail painting (after all, my son was standing right there witnessing this foolishness). I told him that I didn't think it (meaning nail polish) was inherently feminine. He looked like a deer in the headlights for a moment and then said that no, he didn't think being gay was "inherited."  And that was when I realized that we could not have an intelligent conversation ;P 

08-19-2012 06:23 AM
RachaelM

I was on a flight away from my 2 year old last week. Chatting to the guy on the plane next to me he said "You trust your husband alone with your daughter for a week?"

 

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Well yeah! Otherwise I think I may be having children with the wrong man, lol. 

07-31-2012 11:54 PM
Iridescent

We're nightowls by nature and homeschool, and my (well-meaning but not too bright) neighbour recently told me that if kids don't go to bed in the early evening and get up in the early morning, they don't get the sleep they need. Um... 8 (or 6, or 10) hours is the same whatever time of day it is!

 

Then the standard fare about breastfeeding past a year/when they can ask for it/etc.

07-29-2012 06:13 AM
erigeron

I was at work the other day and had to explain to the manager on duty that I might need a room to pump. A little later on in my shift I saw the manager again and she asked me how old my daughter was. I said she was thirteen months old and the manager said something like "Time to get that kid off the bottle." ... Actually, she's not on a bottle at all. I pump so I can keep breastfeeding. If she drinks expressed milk, it's in a sippy cup--but if she still did drink from a bottle, who cares? Not that it's any business of anyone else's how long we breastfeed for, either. I just shrugged and said I didn't really have any plans for when to quit nursing, and it wasn't like she wasn't still benefiting from it.

 

Kind of minor, but amusing. Everyone has an opinion about everything.

07-26-2012 09:01 AM
MrsGregory
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Originally Posted by dejagerw View Post

When my mom was getting on my case about still nursing DS1 I mentioned to her that Mary would have likely nursed Jesus until he was 3 (since it was the custom at the time). "If it's good enough for Jesus, then it's good enough more my little guy". Her reply was "But look how he turned out, he died so young."

 

I'm so stealing this.  Except, I need it for revenge purposes, sorry to say.  My mother loves bring Jesus into things.  The next time I get "I'm certain Jesus would blah blah blah." I'm busting this out. 

 

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07-26-2012 05:05 AM
swd12422

I would ask her why it bothers her that he's never had his hair cut. And then remind her that you're not going to let him walk all over you any more than you're going to let her walk all over you, especially when it comes to something as insignificant as hair length. Sheesh. Better to make it his choice than hers. It's not even her hair!
 

07-25-2012 08:04 PM
tooraloora

My SO's mother was on me about cutting my DS' hair today (again). She gave her spiel and then asked when I intended to finally cut his hair (he's 2 this weekend, never had a hair cut, and it is a bit past his shoulders), and I told her I'd cut it when he asked for it to be cut. She informed me that it was ridiculous that I'd let him walk all over me to the extent that I won't have his hair cut until he says he wants it done.eyesroll.gif I reminded her that I prefer it long (which is why I'm not cutting it until he asks), but I'm still letting him walk on me if I don't have his hair cut immediately.

07-24-2012 01:42 PM
mamalisa
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Originally Posted by dejagerw View Post

When my mom was getting on my case about still nursing DS1 I mentioned to her that Mary would have likely nursed Jesus until he was 3 (since it was the custom at the time). "If it's good enough for Jesus, then it's good enough more my little guy". Her reply was "But look how he turned out, he died so young."

I just can't stop laughing.  Oh my gosh, I kind of love your mom.  

07-24-2012 01:00 PM
annaknitsspock
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Originally Posted by dejagerw View Post
Her reply was "But look how he turned out, he died so young."

 

      biglaugh.gifOh, we nursing mothers have been so selfish! How could we forget that extended breastfeeding leads to crucifixion?

07-24-2012 10:09 AM
GoBecGo
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Originally Posted by dejagerw View Post

When my mom was getting on my case about still nursing DS1 I mentioned to her that Mary would have likely nursed Jesus until he was 3 (since it was the custom at the time). "If it's good enough for Jesus, then it's good enough more my little guy". Her reply was "But look how he turned out, he died so young."

 

I'm sorry but i had a massive LOL at this.  You're poor mother, that is really barrel scraping!

07-24-2012 10:02 AM
dejagerw

When my mom was getting on my case about still nursing DS1 I mentioned to her that Mary would have likely nursed Jesus until he was 3 (since it was the custom at the time). "If it's good enough for Jesus, then it's good enough more my little guy". Her reply was "But look how he turned out, he died so young."

07-20-2012 08:36 AM
A&A

I  want to say to everyone IRL who told me that I'd "regret" having my dd skip a grade:  She is going into 11th grade now, and I haven't regretted it yet.  

07-20-2012 07:46 AM
GoBecGo

I actually know someone that happened to and it was much worse, the baby was "already over 9lbs" and mama had had a pelvic break in her teens from a horseriding accident so they wanted to do a cs before the baby was big and/or engaging.  They cs'd her son out at 37 weeks.  Turned out he was more like 34 weeks, was less than 5lbs and spent a MONTH in NICU.  After all that i said i would sue and she was like "but they saved us BOTH!"

07-19-2012 04:34 PM
swd12422
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Originally Posted by minkajane View Post

Went to the store today and the checker told me about when her son was born. She said she had an ultrasound at 38 weeks and they told her that the baby was already 10 pounds. So of course, her first response was, "You're going to take the baby early then, right?" like the few ounces the baby gains in the last two weeks are going to make that much of a difference. So she had an induction at 39 weeks. Baby's weight? 7 pounds 3 ounces. disappointed.gif

 



A friend of mine did the same thing... twice. Her babies WERE nearly that big (9+ pounds each), and it never occurred to me til you just posted this that of course the baby isn't going to be gaining 3 more pounds in a couple of weeks! :headsmack Scary how often someone just says something so matter-of-factly that it becomes normal and we don't even question it.

07-19-2012 04:25 PM
minkajane

Went to the store today and the checker told me about when her son was born. She said she had an ultrasound at 38 weeks and they told her that the baby was already 10 pounds. So of course, her first response was, "You're going to take the baby early then, right?" like the few ounces the baby gains in the last two weeks are going to make that much of a difference. So she had an induction at 39 weeks. Baby's weight? 7 pounds 3 ounces. disappointed.gif

07-13-2012 03:51 PM
Smokering
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She respects me even if she doesn't understand me--once she even hastily stopped her SIL from feeding my DD ice cream when she was EIGHT MONTHS OLD. I wasn't watching with the eagle eyes I have now for random people trying to feed DD because she was barely eating solids at that point and it hadn't even occurred to me that anyone would try to feed her anything without asking me, let alone ICE CREAM.

Try 5 months, and it was FIL, not SIL. Yup. :p

07-13-2012 01:27 PM
annaknitsspock
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Originally Posted by MrsGregory View Post

It is particularly infuriating when this advice comes from people who don't have children.

 

It really is so frustrating when parenting advice comes from childless people. my DH has a childless aunt and a childless uncle who LOVE to give parenting advice and genuinely seem to believe that DH's generation is still comprised of children who have no idea how parent. When DD was tiny we would just wrap her up in a warm blanket to make the trip between house and car, and once my mother had come to visit DH's in-laws and was holding DD as we prepared to go out. Childless uncle asked where her coat was and my mom told him we were just wrapping her up in the blanket. He full-on looked my mother, my MOTHER, in the eye and chided her, "That's not enough." Dude, having no kids and getting down on young parents is unacceptable, but getting down on a mother who is older than you and raised children to adulthood? Wow.

07-13-2012 10:33 AM
MrsGregory

I'll chime in and say that the "Put the baby down." advice is my least favorite.  No, no, I will put my baby down when we're damn good and ready for her to be down.  Not when you say so.  It is particularly infuriating when this advice comes from people who don't have children, or men.  I was once told this by a man who didn't have children, and I will love his wife forever for stepping in and shutting him up.

07-13-2012 10:18 AM
annaknitsspock

Yay, I'm so glad this thread is still alive! I'm working my way through the epic original right now. hug.gif to all the mamas who have had to deal with hurtful comments. Reezley, that was so rude. I hate when people make assumptions based on a one-second glimpse into your life. irked.gif

 

I've been lucky and had very few negative interactions with strangers; in fact a man came up to me in a restaurant once and said, "I noticed your little one's feet sticking out of the booth and figured you were nursing; I just wanted to tell you that my wife nursed all of our children and it's such a wonderful thing to do." And then he showed me a picture of his wife and their many children. luxlove.gif

 

I had a couple, though, from customers when I was pregnant and working in a bookstore. So, I'm 4'11. I'm a tiny person and I was toting around a massive baby belly. One customer (who was taller than me) asked me to find a book for her, so I brought her over to the section and pointed it out--it was on a high shelf. She looked at me and said, "Oh, can you get it for me?" I get that was I was the employee and she was the customer, but seriously. Get a stool yourself and get the book, don't make a tiny, obviously uncomfortable pregnant lady carry over a stool and climb up on it. 

 

Another very nice but misinformed customer was exchanging knitting ideas with me, and I told her I was planning to knit a wool diaper cover. She was awesomely encouraging about me using cloth, but assured me, "but you have to get the rubber pants. If you're cloth diapering, you MUST use the rubber pants." It actually freaked me out until I went to our local cloth diapering store and they told me no one even makes rubber pants anymore. 

 

I've heard lots of annoying things from my family, mainly my in-laws, but it was mostly the old, "Oh, you'll spoil her by holding her so much!" DD could never stand being still and when she was tiny she needed to be bounced and moved a lot of the time. And whenever we were at my in-law's house, she cried a lot and was really uncomfortable (not sure why--she just hated it there), so I spent most of our visits just walking and bouncing her. DH's grandmother was watching me do this once, and said "Don't you want to sit down?" and I said, "Oh no, thanks, she won't want to sit down." She shook her head and said, "I just don't remember any of my children being like that. I don't remember any of them crying." Oh, ok. Your babies literally never cried and mine is weird for doing so. Right. She's a super sweet old lady who's pretty vague sometimes, so I had to chalk it up to that, but as a stressed-out new mom it really upset me.

 

My MIL told me that I was making DD "not like people" by taking her back if she cried when someone else held her. However, MIL is actually pretty good most of them time. She respects me even if she doesn't understand me--once she even hastily stopped her SIL from feeding my DD ice cream when she was EIGHT MONTHS OLD. I wasn't watching with the eagle eyes I have now for random people trying to feed DD because she was barely eating solids at that point and it hadn't even occurred to me that anyone would try to feed her anything without asking me, let alone ICE CREAM.

 

Whoo, that felt good. Long live this thread!

07-09-2012 01:30 PM
reezley

I was in a big wholesale food store the other day with my two kids(5 and 7). I attempted to let them walk (instead of ride in the cart) and see how it would go, though usually they start slowing me down, hiding behind stacks of things, touching stuff - so I then have them ride in the cart.  Anyway - they were started with the "behavior" -  taking something off a shelf and look at, I was trying to shop and also talk to them about how they'll need to ride in the cart, etc ... and my husband called my cell at that moment. We had about a one-minute conversation with me looking very impatient that I was on the phone while trying to deal with kids in a store-- during that minute the kids had a little scuffle over the item, apparently, and smaller son fell. He just lay on the floor. Not hurt, just lying there.  I'm already embarrassed, trying to get off the phone, deal with them  .....   and a middle-aged gentleman walks by, and offers this advice - "Maybe if you'd get that phone off your ear for a minute....."    Thank you, completely uninformed passerby.  That helps.

07-03-2012 09:55 AM
hilarye
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Originally Posted by GoBecGo View Post

I got a good one a few weeks ago.  I'm pregnant and still nursing my 2yo (albeit once a day and really, i have no milk, but she still sucks so whatever, it's working for us just now).

 

Another mum at the school gates: I take it you FINALLY weaned her then?

Me: not yet.

Other Mum: WHAT?!  But don't you HAVE to wean her now!?

Me: Um, no i don't have to wean her unless she wants to wean...

Other mum: no, but surely the doctor MAKES you wean now, i mean, how will the baby grow?  It will starve inside you!

 

Yes.  It will starve inside me.  

lol! Cause the baby live off your milk somehow..

07-03-2012 09:35 AM
GoBecGo

I got a good one a few weeks ago.  I'm pregnant and still nursing my 2yo (albeit once a day and really, i have no milk, but she still sucks so whatever, it's working for us just now).

 

Another mum at the school gates: I take it you FINALLY weaned her then?

Me: not yet.

Other Mum: WHAT?!  But don't you HAVE to wean her now!?

Me: Um, no i don't have to wean her unless she wants to wean...

Other mum: no, but surely the doctor MAKES you wean now, i mean, how will the baby grow?  It will starve inside you!

 

Yes.  It will starve inside me.  

07-01-2012 01:59 PM
minkajane

Yay! I love this thread!

07-01-2012 10:43 AM
witchypants

Is this thread dead? 'Cause I have to say that reading it always left me feeling more confident in my choices. I guess seeing that one does not die from silly comments as well as reading clever retorts is a confidence booster! Plus this thread is almost always good for a laugh. Any new gems anyone? love.gif

01-12-2012 01:49 PM
ziursrm

I started both my kids off on egg yolks (the allergy concerns come from the whites) because it's so nutrient dense. My mom was beyond shocked. She said everyone starts with rice! I told her if it's going to replace breast milk then I want it to be nutritious, not filler. I'm all for fruit's and veggies for early foods, avocados have always been our second food as it is also nutritionally very dense.

 

Most of the people I know that start with meats prepare the foods themselves and don't use the jarred stuff since it's doesn't taste good and is highly processed.
 

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Originally Posted by Katie8681 View Post

"That said, babyfood meat wont' be my baby's first food, but he might well get well-cooked grass fed beef really early on in the grand scheme of things. Meat as a first food has much more to recommend it than that awful glue they've been pushing at babies for the last 40+ years."

 

I tasted babyfood chicken or turkey at a baby shower once, and I literally gagged. I wouldn't feed my cat that crap.

 

I hate how much stress I'm feeling about what foods to start DS with, and how much pressure there is to have him on solids! I agonize over it (baby led? rice cereal with breast milk? mushed table food? unmushed table food?now? in a month?) but how it's turning out is if I'm eating something healthy and he stares, I mush up a little bit on my finger and let him have a palmful. *shrug*



 

01-10-2012 06:07 AM
AFWife

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Originally Posted by Katie8681 View Post

I hate how much stress I'm feeling about what foods to start DS with, and how much pressure there is to have him on solids! I agonize over it (baby led? rice cereal with breast milk? mushed table food? unmushed table food?now? in a month?) but how it's turning out is if I'm eating something healthy and he stares, I mush up a little bit on my finger and let him have a palmful. *shrug*



Dude, that's pretty much what we did with both kids. I would give them banana in a mesh feeder to keep them from screaming and freaking out during meals or prep...but once they showed interested (well, I made DS2 wait until 6mo...he wanted food at 5mo) I just squished whatever we were eating into small enough bits. Easy peasy.

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